4givrnt4gtr Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Have you guys ever developed an unnecessary crush on someone you don't even like? There is this guy on my program which honestly...i really dont like. He's cocky, he thinks he is the smartest thing and god's gift to the world. Its irritating!! And yet...im WAAAAY too aware of him...like, I kinda look forward to the classes we have together, only if to see where he's gonna sit. If for some reason he sits nearby, as in...like next to me, it feels reaaally weird...as I said I'm way too aware of him. I kinda have a sense that its not just from my side, which makes it even all that much more awkward. One time I was talking to a group of friends and he just waltzed right into the group, we all continued talking and all of a sudden I looked up and locked eyes with this dude...it was unnerving. Ekk. In any case, I wonder why it happening...why am I attracted to this...well douche, for a lack of better word. ugh UGHHH!! and douche he is! His fb pic is him without a shirt flexing his (6 pack) abs.... jesus Oh and he has a girlfriend but thats irrelevant. I just dont like having crushes in people I dont like...its.....confusing. I mean even if he had a girlfriend and he was nice, it still be ok to think he is attractive IF he was a nice, kind humble man....but he isnt.... how annoying
LZ2000 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 There may be a trait/quality that he displays that had triggered your attraction to him subconsciously. I believe it is for the best if you do not fight this feelings of yours towards him, but acknowledge it, come to terms with it, and hopefully let it simmer down to insignificance or nothingness. Because if you do fight it, the attraction might grow larger and you may not be able to handle it.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 There may be a trait/quality that he displays that had triggered your attraction to him subconsciously. . hm...well I mean I know why he is attractive. He is tall, good looking, intelligent, driven, and apparently enjoys to do fun activities that id love to try at some point in my life. ..but he's still a pompous arrogant jerk who pretends to be nice and THAT irritates the bejesus out of me I think its hard for me to just accept that Im attracted to this guy because im ashamed to like someone who is so....full of himself. Bah.... Also, Im afraid if I accept it THEN it might grow... scary very scary
LZ2000 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 (edited) hm...well I mean I know why he is attractive. He is tall, good looking, intelligent, driven, and apparently enjoys to do fun activities that id love to try at some point in my life. ..but he's still a pompous arrogant jerk who pretends to be nice and THAT irritates the bejesus out of me I think its hard for me to just accept that Im attracted to this guy because im ashamed to like someone who is so....full of himself. Bah.... Also, Im afraid if I accept it THEN it might grow... scary very scary I don't know, A like-hate relationship is a very powerful thing indeed. You have to sort out the emotions you feel and look at them objectively. It can overwhelm anyone......... men as well as women. The denial of genuine feelings can or could cause you to implode emotionally and be a total mess. I do have some ways and methods I learned from my own personal experiences to deal/cope/overcome with these like-hate dilemmas I had in my life. He has a girlfriend as you have said. The recommended action I feel is to distance yourself from him to be more able to sort your emotions out and perhaps do a fair bit of thinking, by all means, go ahead. Of course, there are other alternatives that may be outrageous I can share that you may want to hear them out. Edited December 9, 2011 by LZ2000
Eddie Edirol Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 (edited) Hate turns to love with women when the guy is good looking and the woman is looking for love. If the guy was ugly you wouldnt even look at him or his facebook. You just tolerate the jerk part because of the looks. So the animal physical attraction is whats drawing you in. You know yo0u really dont dislike him, you want to find out if he will be sweet to you if you get to him. Edited December 9, 2011 by Eddie Edirol
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