sqlagent Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 (edited) I just started dating the girl of my dreams. We're both from Texas however she moved to California way before we started dating. I always had an interest in her but she was with another guy. That relationship ended a few months ago. We just started dating for a month and I visited her twice, will be my third time next weekend. We hold hands and stuff in public and the second time I visited her, she invited me to sleep with her in her bed room. Unfortunately nothing happen but he held each other. I'm not sure if I made a mistake by not being aggressive or not making a move that night The wierd thing was the next early morning I woke up (I'm used to Central Time whereas Pacific time is two hours back) and meant to grab my phone to see what time it is (we both have the same iPhone) and ended up accidently grabbing hers and saw a text from a mutual friend (the girl who set us up to meet two months ago---they're actually best friends...) saying "it ain't gonna happen." Anyhow she's always showing me how much she appreciates me and how happy she is to met me. I do the same because I been wanting to get to know her for years (since we were in college) and I finally got the chance. We got off the phone today and she was expressing how good I am to her and said something like, "Wow I don't understand why you're still single <my name> !?" Or something like that. Is that a bad sign? I'll see her next weekend, will be flying back there. I'm not really sure what to do or expect but I'll try to go with the flow. Thanks Edited December 8, 2011 by sqlagent typos
HeavenOrHell Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 I don't understand why you said this >I'm not sure if I made a mistake by not being aggressive or not making a move that night< Why would you want to be aggressive, and why might she have wanted you to be? Do you mean maybe you could have initiated sex? It takes two, it's not just down to one to give signals that that's what they want. How's the text from her friend relevant? It sounds like she's interested you, hence the hand holding etc, saying 'I don't understand why you're still single' could be a hint for you to say how you feel, to see where you two stand, or it could be she doesn't have romantic feelings, in which case she needs to stop holing your hand, and sharing a bed with you, as it gives off the wrong signals. I just started dating the girl of my dreams. We're both from Texas however she moved to California way before we started dating. I always had an interest in her but she was with another guy. That relationship ended a few months ago. We just started dating for a month and I visited her twice, will be my third time next weekend. We hold hands and stuff in public and the second time I visited her, she invited me to sleep with her in her bed room. Unfortunately nothing happen but he held each other. I'm not sure if I made a mistake by not being aggressive or not making a move that night The wierd thing was the next early morning I woke up (I'm used to Central Time whereas Pacific time is two hours back) and meant to grab my phone to see what time it is (we both have the same iPhone) and ended up accidently grabbing hers and saw a text from a mutual friend (the girl who set us up to meet two months ago---they're actually best friends...) saying "it ain't gonna happen." Anyhow she's always showing me how much she appreciates me and how happy she is to met me. I do the same because I been wanting to get to know her for years (since we were in college) and I finally got the chance. We got off the phone today and she was expressing how good I am to her and said something like, "Wow I don't understand why you're still single <my name> !?" Or something like that. Is that a bad sign? I'll see her next weekend, will be flying back there. I'm not really sure what to do or expect but I'll try to go with the flow. Thanks
Author sqlagent Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 I don't understand why you said this >I'm not sure if I made a mistake by not being aggressive or not making a move that night< Why would you want to be aggressive, and why might she have wanted you to be? Do you mean maybe you could have initiated sex? It takes two, it's not just down to one to give signals that that's what they want. How's the text from her friend relevant? It sounds like she's interested you, hence the hand holding etc, saying 'I don't understand why you're still single' could be a hint for you to say how you feel, to see where you two stand, or it could be she doesn't have romantic feelings, in which case she needs to stop holing your hand, and sharing a bed with you, as it gives off the wrong signals. Aggressive was probably the wrong word. I think the correct wording is initiate sex. Thanks for the advice
TMichaels Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 (edited) We got off the phone today and she was expressing how good I am to her and said something like, "Wow I don't understand why you're still single <my name> !?" Or something like that. Is that a bad sign? A sign for what? A green light for you to "be more aggressive" (which I assume means making a sexual advance) or that she's marveling why such a great guy hasn't been snapped up or settled down already with someone else but is excited and happy that he hasn't and is paying her some attention? Depends on the girl which way she meant it, but the way you describe her, my guess is that it's the latter interpretation. HTH, TMichaels P.S. Also depends on the girl, but having sex isn't necessarily "proof" to a woman that "you're serious about her." Tread lightly in that arena for the time being as you've just started dating. She won't think you're a wuss -- she'll think you're being respectful and interested in her for more than a booty call. Stick with your plan to "go with the flow." Edited December 8, 2011 by TMichaels
Author sqlagent Posted December 10, 2011 Author Posted December 10, 2011 A sign for what? A green light for you to "be more aggressive" (which I assume means making a sexual advance) or that she's marveling why such a great guy hasn't been snapped up or settled down already with someone else but is excited and happy that he hasn't and is paying her some attention? Depends on the girl which way she meant it, but the way you describe her, my guess is that it's the latter interpretation. HTH, TMichaels P.S. Also depends on the girl, but having sex isn't necessarily "proof" to a woman that "you're serious about her." Tread lightly in that arena for the time being as you've just started dating. She won't think you're a wuss -- she'll think you're being respectful and interested in her for more than a booty call. Stick with your plan to "go with the flow." thank you. in a way i was afraid she'd think I was a wuss. but she is someone who i would love to have a real relationship with.
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