tiffyb Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 When your husband looks at porn on the computer, is that considered cheating?
Nikki82 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 No. But how often does he look at porn? If it's not a daily thing, then in my opinion, you're either insecure, prude, or both. Wanna try watching it with him? Or make your own? Have some fun!!!! Life is short. =)
LoveTKO Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 When your husband looks at porn on the computer, is that considered cheating? It is considered cheating to some. What if your husband thinks about wild sex with other women, or masturbates to images of women he saw at the gym or mall, is that considered cheating? Why is looking at porn to get aroused considered cheating but bopping your bishop thinking of other women not cheating?
Nikki82 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 "...bopping your bishop thinking of other women..." I'm unfamiliar with this saying. What does that mean?
D-Lish Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 I personally wouldn't consider it cheating, nor would it bother me. If it's habitual, and your relationship is suffering as a result, that's a different story.
freestyle Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 If it has started to interfere with the frequency and quality of your sex life with him, it's a problem that should be addressed.
LoveTKO Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 "...bopping your bishop thinking of other women..." I'm unfamiliar with this saying. What does that mean? Playing with your bishop.....you know, a catholic bishop with that mitre on his head....a metaphor for a phallus.
wildgeese Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 The idea that porn is considered cheating by some is completely foreign to me. It is purely fantasy and erotic entertainment. It's basically a visual tool to get to quick satisfaction. It in no way replaces or betrays the other person in the relationship. My advice to anyone that views porn as something distasteful (which some of it is, sure!): Use it to learn what your partner likes in bed. It can even be fun to watch it together and then try some new things out. Try to turn it into a positive experience.
Severely Unamused Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 IMO cheating is a breach in the boundaries of a relationship. If you think that looking at porn is cheating than tell your partner this. If he agrees not to look at porn, then decides to look at porn at a later date...that is cheating. If he explicitly says that he will probably look at porn at a later date than he never made any promises to you. That is not cheating. a metaphor for a phallus. Ahem.
Chi townD Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 If he was in chat rooms talking with other girls..Yeah, cheating. If he's just sitting at the computer looking at images on a screen. No. There;s no interaction. No connection. No bonding. No touching of our girls..... I would talk to him about it, but if the only thing he's doing is looking at images on a screen...well, I could think of a lot worse things he could be doing.
reboot Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 If it subtracts from the marriage it's cheating, if not, then no. Substitute golf for porn. Is golf cheating? Sounds silly, but it could be.
StoneCold Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 When your husband looks at porn on the computer, is that considered cheating? theres no right or wrong answer.....your answer is your answer
drifter777 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 theres no right or wrong answer.....your answer is your answer Completely agree with this post. All you will get in this thread are the opinions and boundaries set in each posters relationship. If your husband is open and honest with you about his desire to watch porn and you don't like it, then it's up to you to have a frank discussion about it and come to a resolution that works for both of you. If you have already discussed it with your spouse and agree that it is cheating, then it's cheating. Maybe each of you should research the current data (and there is lots of it) regarding short and long term effects of porn as it may help you come to an informed decision. However, in the end, you both need to agree on whether it is cheating or not and that may require both of you to give a little bit.
Mr_Confused Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Maybe you can agree to watch it together.
Spark1111 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 To all the gentlemen posting on this thread: Watching porn together is not easy. It is not that easy to find porn that is mutually satisfying to both men and women. Porn is made by men FOR men; it is the male fantasy, very visual, straight jump to the physical act. From start to finish? Maybe 7 minutes? If that? If he likes it, it often bores me. If I like it, it often bores him. I do not think women dislike porn because they are prudish. I think women dislike porn because it represents the male fantasy. While some scenes are erotic, it tends to make us often roll our eyes. And if you glean your intimacy style from viewing porn, you will leave a lot of dissatified but faking it for your male ego women in your path. Don't make the mistake of thinking women respond like men to porn.
Spark1111 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 When your husband looks at porn on the computer, is that considered cheating? It all depends on how it makes you feel. Can you talk to him about it? Negotiate for you how much is too much? Does it change the way he approaches you sexually? These are all things to think about and have a frank discussion of with your spouse Tiffyb.
thinkgal Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I don't consider porn as cheating at all... I mean is all visual images maybe its because I watch it myself too.
startrekfan Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 When your husband looks at porn on the computer, is that considered cheating? no, i don't think so.
standtall Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 If it doesn't negatively effect your sex life, then no.
jnj express Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 It's not cheating---but you might think toooo much of it is inapropos Just depends, upon, how much, when, and what kind of an effect it has on your relationship!!
DonJuanInc Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 When your husband looks at porn on the computer, is that considered cheating? I'm of the opinion that masturbation is fine in relationships as long as it doesn't detract from the amount of sexual attention and intimacy being given to your partner. Most guys look at porn just for something to speed things along while they do it. If he's just looking at it because he enjoys seeing lots of naked girls, that's a different story.
crackerjax9 Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 its porn. something men have been looking at since puberty. GET OVER IT. its really not a big deal.
Recommended Posts