lostdaddy Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 My pregnant gf, or should i say now ex left me 7 months ago, to cut a long story short im 22, she is also, we tried for a baby so it wasnt unplanned but a month or so into the pregnancy she left me. This isnt a thread about getting her back, if shes happier without me so be it. I just want to know how can i get over her, its been 7 months and i still feel just as torn up and emotional as the day she dumped me. Everyday without fail i think about her and my unborn baby. Everyday i wish she was still by my side and i could help her through the pregnancy, it just breaks my heart and i dont know how to move forward. Ive tried texting her a couple of times regarding the pregnancy, but gradually over the months her responses were getting more and more blunt. I text her a couple of weeks ago and she just ignored it. She knows im gonna be there for the baby as we discussed all this when we first found out, ill never not be there for my child. Its just hard when she ignores me. I would go visit her but she lives in a different city and i dont really wanna stress her out during the pregnancy. I figured ill play it cool till the baby is born. Its now 2 weeks or so till the due date and quite frankly im ****ting myself about seeing her again, im nowhere near over her and its going to break my heart to see her again. She really was the one i wanted to spend my life with and marry. I still cry daily for the loss of our relationship, im still a total mess 7 months later, even though our relationship only lasted 8 months. I just want my feelings to go away as i know she dosent feel the same, i dont want to spend 2 years or so gettin over an 8 month relationship. Im going to text her tomorrow and ask her questions regarding our baby, i just hope she replies as it hurts when she dosent. My question for you guys is what would you do, how do i move on from this, i still have such strong feelings for this girl plus shes having my baby i would be lying if i said i wasnt hoping for a christmas miracle that would get us back together but i know thats not gonna happen, im just so sad
BoredAgain Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 What would I do in that situation? Wow... I don't even know what to say. I think I'd be freaking out about the baby more than the relationship.
Author lostdaddy Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 What would I do in that situation? Wow... I don't even know what to say. I think I'd be freaking out about the baby more than the relationship. Becoming a dad isnt phasing me at all, i know that part will come easy, albeit it late nights and stress im not worried about that. Just worried ill be hung up on this girl forever, because we have been broken up almost as long as we were together and if im honest, i still love her.
mike588 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Becoming a dad isnt phasing me at all, i know that part will come easy, albeit it late nights and stress im not worried about that. Just worried ill be hung up on this girl forever, because we have been broken up almost as long as we were together and if im honest, i still love her. You WONT be hung up on her FOREVER, we all heal at different paces and I understand that with a soon to be born child it's extra hard for you. Remember that is your child too and you have every right to see the baby,maybe after the baby is born she will have a change of heart knowing that your the father. Have you considered seeking professional help?
Author lostdaddy Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 You WONT be hung up on her FOREVER, we all heal at different paces and I understand that with a soon to be born child it's extra hard for you. Remember that is your child too and you have every right to see the baby,maybe after the baby is born she will have a change of heart knowing that your the father. Have you considered seeking professional help? Hey Mike thank you for your reply. I guess you are right, it wont be forever. its just scary how in love with ehr i was and how much it still hurts now even though it was only a short relationship. I think its also because i didnt get any closure, she just left with no real explanation and now pretty much dosent talk to me. And you are right it is extra hard, i have to face her again in a couple of weeks, will probably drag up some emotions, i just want to heal. And i have considered professional help i think about that everyday too.
mike588 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Hey Mike thank you for your reply. I guess you are right, it wont be forever. its just scary how in love with ehr i was and how much it still hurts now even though it was only a short relationship. I think its also because i didnt get any closure, she just left with no real explanation and now pretty much dosent talk to me. And you are right it is extra hard, i have to face her again in a couple of weeks, will probably drag up some emotions, i just want to heal. And i have considered professional help i think about that everyday too. Give it a try,, it can't hurt. Your not the only who's been in a situation like this so remember your not alone and eventually you'll get thru this!!!!!
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