94hours Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Hi, I'm new to this forum. Anyways, here's my situation: Met this dude a month ago off a popular dating site (not match or the free ones) and we seemingly hit it off. Keyword being "seemingly" as we both shared the same interest levels, hung out a few times, and we talked every dang day (via text. I'm not a fan of talking over the phone unless there's a really good conversation to be had). Then, the talking bit took a nose dive after he got hit with the flu. Also to mention, it was a hectic week for him (was heading away with his buddies at the end of that week and yadda yadda yadda). Considering that I didn't want to be a bother/pest, I backed off and figured that if he wanted to talk, he knew how to contact me. I just simply checked in every now and then to see how he felt (flu-wise). Anyways, middle of the week hits and he asked if I wanted to come over. Told him I couldn't, 'cause I had to do some family stuff but could do the following day. He told he he'd let me know. Talked to him later and he mentioned NOTHING. So of course, I made other plans the next day and told him this when he asked if I was coming over ("if you don't 'let me know' anything, I'm not assuming otherwise). Long story short, we make a plan to hang out the day before he was supposed to leave for guys' weekend (last Friday) and, apparently all was good. No drop in interest level or change in behavior (other than showing more trust and comfort). So I stopped overthinking and calmed down. Then comes the mixed signals AGAIN. During the weekend, I obviously didn't contact him, aside from telling him "hope you're having fun!", because I know better than to bug a dude during "guy time". We previously made plans to hang the day he was supposed to come back (and the day afterwards), so I asked if it was still on. He assured me that it was and so I prepared a sleepover bag. The day (yesterday) comes and I head on into the city to meet up with him in the afternoon after I was done with work. Of course, I'm a bit of an idiot to not ask him if he was on his way back or anything BEFORE I left home earlier in the day...but I assumed it was still on since he assured me on Monday night (and many times last Friday). And also, why should I have to do EVERYTHING?? So I contacted him and asked him what was up. He tells me to go back home because they hadn't even left AC yet. And that was all. Haven't heard a peep from him since then. If I was smarter and went along with my intuition (which told me that something upsetting was gonna happen), I probably wouldn't be caring so much. A part of me wants to tell him off and a part of me wants to just say "F it. He can go eff himself for all I care. Ball's in his court" and move on. You'd think at 30, that I'd know what to do but I don't. UGH!
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