oren ish Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 (edited) these are some emails i have just received from an ex i had to leave as she just wouldn't grow up... see other threads if interested... after a few mistakes on my part of missing her terribly and doing the wrong things to try and make her see why i left I am curious as to what it all means... Note i would be with this girl if i could just get her to stop partying and take care of her self.... the initial is after i manned up a bit and started to do NC sort off.. i couldn't help but reply but am back on the wagon after much study and self reflection... HER: how r u homie. jus poppin by to say hi n c how u are? hope all is otai. did u go to show? didnt c u. . . Me Im good... just bought some new clothes, week off work did me very well, Im on track again and amazingly clear... sleeping like a baby has done wonders... .. Her: thats gud to hear wit ur present mode . glad ur happy. . . ya well did go to Show. twas radical... Her: anyway. . . take care Oren ish. . . Her: we are never going to b together again, are we? Me: Ummm How would i know? Ive tried everything to get back close to you... you've loved me at my worst and and Ive never shown my best so rather than pine for you I am enjoying my reclimb... Her: ive noticed, and am extremely happy for you. do sincerely wish u all the best. . . and hope u do one day, u find somebody u will feel free enough to share ur best with. . . u are missed and we will never b forgotten to me. and id like to think if we crossed paths in the street, wed still b cool. Her woops. intense words too much 4 my brain to articulate. . . but u must get the idea. . . Her i know we will never b again. . . the memories i adore. . . the eyes that chameleon with ur mood, ur humor, ur wisdom, and numerous life skills u took the time to teach me, because nobody else did. . . will probably always love u Oren ish. maybe in another lifetime baby. . . I have serious trouble shaking this girls advances but i am kinda determined to get my life on track as i gave up a lot to be with this one... analysis is greatly appreciated from both side... Edited December 7, 2011 by oren ish
lolita jade Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 After only 4 days NC, easy to get back together if you want you. Just tell her straight. She has now realised she wants you but to afraid to say outright in case you reject her. If you don't want her back. Stay NC now and move on............
ScienceGal Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I find poor grammar to be a huge turnoff. Her writing style is the equivalent of nails down a chalkboard. That aside, you seem to want to move on. So, do that. You referenced getting your life back on track. If that's something you feel you need to do, I recommend doing it without a partner. Good luck.
Author oren ish Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 Ironically her grammar is A grade in a systematic situation... this is her at her causal phone encrypted slang... the above is about loving someone and not being able to come together as a unit... I am having a hard time letting go of what i have given up and just basically trouble shooting for my sanity why its ended up like this... I can move on but deep down i really wanted this to work...
shayla Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 it looks like breadcrumbs to me. All you can do is recognize your part in the relationship, if there were anythings you feel you didn't do well, work on resolving those issues, and getting on to the business of healing. Good luck.
ScienceGal Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I understand. I am of the same mindset too and have only recently been able to be a little stronger. What's heartbreaking for me is that once I move on, I never go back. That loss hurts, so I cling and wait and hope as long as I can. But, I've never gone back because in time I see the past relationship as being unhealthy (for whatever reason). In a case like yours, where you just weren't coming together properly, it may be an issue of timing. If you can reflect on the relationship and see it as healthy and good, there may be hope for future reconciliation. You've got to break it down though, honestly. You can't help her "grow up" and you obviously already know that. It's terrible. I've had to leave someone for the same reason, but today I can say I'm happy I did. You sound quite level-headed for day 4. It will get easier as soon as you accept you have to let go (at least for now).
Author oren ish Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 Thanks everyone... Im standing my ground and going back to leaving her be... Its not my job to grow her up...
Zabs Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 testing where you are up to...sounds like she does but is it the sincere type not the get back together and nothing changes type? Either way..it may not seem it but you are in the driving seat. ps..thank you for the set up of your post! It has helped me reflect on how sincerity can be perceived... much .love Zabs
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