SunsetRed Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I am now in month 3 of NC and have been stuggling like crazy but now I finally have a pay off. I just got an email from my xMM and he was upset that I havent contacted him and accused me of sleeping with my co worker. I am speechless. I didnt have a choice but to do NC. He had cold heartedly disposed of me and he was the one not contacting me..I was fighting the urge to call/email him and do the "how could you do this to me" thing. so just because I didnt chase after him crying, he's mad...ha ha...another reason to keep doing NC. For all of you struggling with NC. Keep doing it...it pisses them off. Whether you get the pleasure of knowing that it pisses them off, it does so keep doing it. These a-holes notice that we're not calling which is a great motivator to hang in there when you're struggling. As Jimmy Buffett sang If the phone doesnt ring, its me!
sayitasitis Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 You're absolutely right! I'm currently in NC. The only thing I fear is him contacting me and giving me an earful for it. He has some anger issues, I think.
Emme Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 The two of you just stick in there and congrats on your no contact.
2sure Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Can you believe some of these guys? Angry that he is not the only fish in the sea for you...and he is married and you are single. Sums it up doesnt it?
despicableME Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I just got an email from my xMM and he was upset that I havent contacted him and accused me of sleeping with my co worker. What... he's mad that he's not tossing you anymore, so the cheater accuses the mistress of cheating on him. Sounds like a typical narcissist. See... you're one of those chicks that can detach, and doesn't feel sorry for herself. Much props.
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 He's baiting you, waiting for reaction.. Good or bad reaction, he's hoping you'll break NC. Delete that email account if possible. Or block him if you can't delete that account (is it a work one?), direct his address to the trash can. What an idiot he is!
Thunderbolt Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Congrats on the 3 months of NC. I love reading threads where others have been strong enough to endure NC. Very typical of a MM to accuse YOU of cheating on him. How dare you Mine did the same, and at the time I was always scrambling to do anything to convince him otherwise. I think he secretly enjoyed it. Some of his accusations were so out of right field, I wondered how he came up with some of it. Wow, looking back, I had some serious issues. Good for you in resisting his communication attempts. You give me strength to keeping looking forward. He's doing anything he can at this point to get you to react, even if it's in a negative way.
spice4life Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Wow, sunsetred, that's crazy. You have been NC fo 3 months and he feels it's okay to try and upset your apple cart with outlandish accusations?! Sounds a bit cuckoo for coco puffs to me. Good for you for not responding to that nonsense. He is probaby lashing out at you because he is frustrated with his own situation. Keep up the good work sunset...you don't have to play into that.
Author SunsetRed Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 Thanks guys, and I wont respond. I just wanted to point out once again that all of these MMs are alike. Lots of MMs have wanted the OW to prove her devotion to him or to prove she's 100% on board or to prove that she's being faithful to HIM. People have posted about their MM accusing them of breaking trust in the relationship and the idiot man HAS A WIFE!! All these men are made from exactly the same mold. Once again, each time you are tempted to break NC, just realize how much it makes them squirm and how much it pisses them off!
robf1971 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 the idiot man HAS A WIFE!! And only an idiot woman would get into a relationship with an idiot man who HAS A WIFE lol
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