MrSimple Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Okay guys, my ex has told me she would try a last ditch attempt to make things work with her rebound on Tues. I wasn't very pleased, of course, but I just took it in my stride. I told her to let me know her choice the next day, which was Wed. Well, she refused to tell me anything, she even kept running away from the question. I felt I had enough, and just told her everything i was going through, how i felt and such. Just straight to the point. I don't know how much I managed to move her, but it has been done. She appears to be quite happy that i told her all those, but then again, her signs completely make no sense to me. Should I continue to try to convince her to come back to me? She's on the fence now, deciding which side to tip over to now. I don't know if i should continue persuading her(may make things worse) I just told her: "Whatever your choice is, just stick to it" and she replied: "I don't know" I replied: "Don't give up on yourself" and she has yet to reply. How badly have I messed up? I just needed an answer, to see if everything I'd done so far was worth it. And she just refuses to give it to me. Is there an effective way to tip her back to my side? After all I've done, is it still possible? Girls like honest guys, so I gave it to her. Complete no nonsense, straight to the point. I've a gut feeling she's still confused. how do I assure her that she will make the correct choice? Please advise, thank you!
oldguy Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Did I read this right? She is trying out a new guy but if it doesn't work out she''ll hang on to you!? WTH? For how long, until someone else comes along? If I misread this I'm sorry but if not; "get a pair"!
silly_panda Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 You had told her everything that you wanted to tell her... Don't persuade her anymore... I fell for that trap a month ago... My ex told me she keeps on thinking about me, why can't she forget me like she wanted, why is she not feeling what she should in her current relationship, why when there is something that happen I am the first person that she wanna tell... Then kept on saying "I don't know..." Just wan her current relationship to work even though the guy does not care about her, that she doesn't love this guy and she knows this guy doesn't love her... All of those, doesn't mean anything... If she still have strong feelings towards you, she will not even have to consider whether to stay in her current relationship or to try again with you... You see the logic here..? If she really wan you, she will not think twice about getting rid of this new guy and come back to you... She never did think twice when she dumped your sorry a** rite..?
Author MrSimple Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 Yea, I know the reason now. I still got one last go at this, no matter how hopeless this may seem. If it works, it works. If not, all I ask for is just a proper goodbye. Panda: Back to NC again?
silly_panda Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 MrSimple, just do what you feel like doing... At the end of the day, whatever her decision is, you will have no regret... Yea... Back to NC but this time is letting her go and get my life back on track... She made her decision and she chose the other guy... So I guess I should walk away and take back some dignity...
flitzanu Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Yea, I know the reason now. I still got one last go at this, no matter how hopeless this may seem. If it works, it works. If not, all I ask for is just a proper goodbye. Panda: Back to NC again? this isn't a matter of being hopeless, it's a matter of you allowing her to trample all over your face. you just gave her approval to try dating this other guy and if that doesn't work you're going to be right there to support her through HER breakup with HIM. seriously?
smokey bear Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Okay guys, my ex has told me she would try a last ditch attempt to make things work with her rebound on Tues. I wasn't very pleased, of course, but I just took it in my stride. I told her to let me know her choice the next day, which was Wed. Well, she refused to tell me anything, she even kept running away from the question. I felt I had enough, and just told her everything i was going through, how i felt and such. Just straight to the point. I don't know how much I managed to move her, but it has been done. She appears to be quite happy that i told her all those, but then again, her signs completely make no sense to me. Should I continue to try to convince her to come back to me? She's on the fence now, deciding which side to tip over to now. I don't know if i should continue persuading her(may make things worse) I just told her: "Whatever your choice is, just stick to it" and she replied: "I don't know" I replied: "Don't give up on yourself" and she has yet to reply. How badly have I messed up? I just needed an answer, to see if everything I'd done so far was worth it. And she just refuses to give it to me. Is there an effective way to tip her back to my side? After all I've done, is it still possible? Girls like honest guys, so I gave it to her. Complete no nonsense, straight to the point. I've a gut feeling she's still confused. how do I assure her that she will make the correct choice? Please advise, thank you! She gave you an answer, she doesnt know, she was being honest. To tip it back in your favour, go extreme nc, Do you want someone you had to persuade to be with you...no. Go nc, right now its the only hope youve got
Author MrSimple Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 Yep, the only time I'll reply is when the things I ordered arrive from quite awhile back(She is the one to facilitate the transactions). Apart from that, I'm not gonna bother about her. I've had enough. If something happens, it happens. I'm tired of jumping at every single sign she gives. Now I finally understand why ppl keep telling me: "Don't jump at everything she says, read deeper into it" Sorry guys, it took me 2 months to finally understand that. Thank you for your patience with me.
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