mike588 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Broken, I am 45 with a 25 year marriage behind me. That is why it is so hard, like you. I have fight in me to win, its just very hard thats all. Glad I'm not the only "old person" here. I was in a store today and the XMas music was playing and I saw several couples smiling and holding hands and it set me back alittle. Can't wait till it's over.
Dims85 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 these last couple months have been hard for me as well. This is the first holiday time i have not spent with my ex in 6 years. Her family was jehova so they never celebrated anything and she was always there with me to celebrate all holidays. its definately weird not having her around and It sure doesnt help that we had originally planned our wedding for last month. Looking forward to January and a new year with new things
Author lolita jade Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 Well I have gone from yesterday. being distraught to today angry. see my thread. what is the likelyhood? I feel better for doing it though. I feel stronger in myself. I suppose this is the rollercoaster ride
melenkurion Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 My relationship ended October last year. I started to feel better by November, but once the Christmas season kicked in, I did go backwards. I can't lie, Christmas itself was pretty awful. After seven Christmases spent together, the whole day was just one huge unavoidable trigger. But this year it's much better. I hope that offers some comfort. Do what you can to keep happy: see good friends, see family. My little nephew was a great comfort to me, a sweet, unselfish kid. You'll get through it. With support from those you love, with a tiny bit of luck, you'll make it through. It might be hard, but you'll make it through. And the next year, things will seem just fine.
Author lolita jade Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 Thanks Mel, Things seem pretty desperate at the moment I am finding it hard to focus on other things. I do get out as much as possible but live alone and it gives you too much thinking time.
maryslamb Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 I just want to get x mas/NyE OVER WITH... I feel like the ex will be out celebrating with someone else and not me. Ill be home sad. And in tears. I just want to get past the holidays.
M2155 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 At this point, I refuse to go backwards. I think the holidays are overrated. I'm saving my money I would have spent on ex and his kids to buy myself something totally unneccessary And volunteering some of my time to bring smiles to others.
melenkurion Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Volunteering is an excellent idea. It's good thing in itself, and it has the added side benefit that you will feel good about yourself, which helps healing.
Author lolita jade Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 Good for you M2155, I have heard from someone they are buying some toys/ teddies from a charity shop to take to a local childrens hospice. I am going to find out where one is, email them and do the same, if allowed. And now I have got my rant out of the way with ex. I am back onto buying that gorgeous dress to wear to my boxing day party
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