prosense Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I am a male in my early 30's and she is in her mid 20's. She and I belong to the same volunteering group that I organized. We volunteered together about 3 times with some others. And on separate occasions, she and I met and went to a local bike shop to get her bike fixed. She is new to town that I live in so I helped her a bit. I got to know her and found her quite attractive and very funny...Anyhow.. at the latest volunteering activity, after everyone was gone, we hung back and went Christmas shopping together. It was quite all right.. and at the end of the night, we got in the same bus and got off at the same stop. As we were parting I asked her if she would be interested in going out with me and she said yes. I told her I'd give her a call. That was last Sunday and I called her to arrange something this afternoon, but she did not answer. I know for sure she was at work. I thought she'd call me back or say something.. or at least say something on FB while we were both on it. but nada. I am pretty sure she's got my call and saw me on FB. So, I am thinking this is a bad signal whatever the reason (well maybe she does not run the risk of ruining the whole dynamics at the volunteering group or is not attracted to me at all) I know I am tad over analyzing, but should or can I give another call? or should I just text? or can I leave a message on her FB saying I understand if she's changed her mind? She and I are regulars at the volunteering so I really do not want the things to be awkward b/w me and her. Thanks!
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Leave it alone for now and when you see her, don't bring it up. Just go on like you never asked her out. If she says nothing about it (you know she got the message and also know she made no effort to contact you on FB to make arrangements), you do nothing about it. If she asks about where you two are going to go, then assume it's a date! Let her make the move.
jobaba Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I am a male in my early 30's and she is in her mid 20's. She and I belong to the same volunteering group that I organized. We volunteered together about 3 times with some others. And on separate occasions, she and I met and went to a local bike shop to get her bike fixed. She is new to town that I live in so I helped her a bit. I got to know her and found her quite attractive and very funny...Anyhow.. at the latest volunteering activity, after everyone was gone, we hung back and went Christmas shopping together. It was quite all right.. and at the end of the night, we got in the same bus and got off at the same stop. As we were parting I asked her if she would be interested in going out with me and she said yes. I told her I'd give her a call. That was last Sunday and I called her to arrange something this afternoon, but she did not answer. I know for sure she was at work. I thought she'd call me back or say something.. or at least say something on FB while we were both on it. but nada. I am pretty sure she's got my call and saw me on FB. So, I am thinking this is a bad signal whatever the reason (well maybe she does not run the risk of ruining the whole dynamics at the volunteering group or is not attracted to me at all) I know I am tad over analyzing, but should or can I give another call? or should I just text? or can I leave a message on her FB saying I understand if she's changed her mind? She and I are regulars at the volunteering so I really do not want the things to be awkward b/w me and her. Thanks! Call her again tomorrow. You deserve an answer not just to be blown off like you're not a human being! Get your answer and your no. If things are awkward for her at the volunteer event, that's her problem. Some guys have to be aggressive to get anywhere and if she doesn't realize that, then she's immature. Also, join our club... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t309643/ You're already covered through December 20th.
allina Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Do not call her. She knows that you attempted to contact her and she is choosing to not get back to you. If by some rare chance she was "super busy" and she is interested she will contact you. No reason to chase her.
socialgirl73 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 She knows you tried to contact her, so do not torture yourself by leaving her more messages. For whatever reason, she is not interested.....I am sorry to say.....
Author prosense Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 I called her again and she answered. I said if she still would like to get together to which she said yes we set the time and the place. we are meeting this friday. I still don't know why she hadn't contacted me until I just did, but maybe she just tested me or genuinely did not get my call (I did not tell I called yesterday) but yay
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