Wolf18 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 A girl I've known for a few years who I almost got with (I was thwarted by a much older, "established" slob that she refuses to leave) but friendzoned me talks to me online and texts me. We have arguments that go nowhere, because this is the only girl I've sincerely cared about and feel a powerful connection to, she claims to feel the same way but won't get with me So I haven't hung out with her regularly for almost a year. I don't mind her , but I do not "love" her and don't give her any of the attention as I once did. She's weird, and possibly manipulative. The other day I mentioned that I want to leave this place, maybe even this country, and she said she would come with me and be with me. I told her why I wasn't good enough for her now, but in the future I would be? She had no response. I told her that if I'm not good enough for her now, she's not good enough for me in the future. What would something like this mean? Why would a girl want to be with another guy now and with me in the "future"? Last ditch effort to keep my attention while giving me nothing in return?
D-Lish Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Sounds like a case of "I enjoy your attention, and want to keep giving you false hope so you don't turn your eye elsewhere"....
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 A girl I've known for a few years who I almost got with (I was thwarted by a much older, "established" slob that she refuses to leave) but friendzoned me talks to me online and texts me. We have arguments that go nowhere, because this is the only girl I've sincerely cared about and feel a powerful connection to, she claims to feel the same way but won't get with me So I haven't hung out with her regularly for almost a year. I don't mind her , but I do not "love" her and don't give her any of the attention as I once did. She's weird, and possibly manipulative. The other day I mentioned that I want to leave this place, maybe even this country, and she said she would come with me and be with me. I told her why I wasn't good enough for her now, but in the future I would be? She had no response. I told her that if I'm not good enough for her now, she's not good enough for me in the future. What would something like this mean? Why would a girl want to be with another guy now and with me in the "future"? Last ditch effort to keep my attention while giving me nothing in return? Why are you even bothering? This girl has a boyfriend and is still with him. Seems you're wasting energy and time on someone who truly isn't interested in you. It's the ego feed all around, even for you.. You say you don't even love her, it's attention and a connection you feel. So, why not try with someone else who is available?
dasein Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 This is the type to tell that your rich uncle/aunt left you their Hawaii condo in their will and you will be moving out there for a few years.
Author Wolf18 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 Sounds like a case of "I enjoy your attention, and want to keep giving you false hope so you don't turn your eye elsewhere".... That's what I think. Do you think she's doing this consciously or does it just come to her naturally? What's her age? [/Quote] 20 Why are you even bothering? This girl has a boyfriend and is still with him. Seems you're wasting energy and time on someone who truly isn't interested in you. It's the ego feed all around, even for you.. You say you don't even love her, it's attention and a connection you feel.[/Quote] Yeah, this girl also gives me a lot of affection. I've gotten her to do sexual things with me as well, but she just randomly stopped one day and romantically tuned out from me. So, why not try with someone else who is available? [/Quote] I stopped trying with her and don't really talk to any girls I've known anymore. I've got no prospects at all and havent for a while. Had one girl who was about 30 years old recently (I assumed because she was older she wanted more than the typical shallow criteria) , but I went on vacation for 3 weeks and in the meantime she got a job in the fashion industry in a very wealthy part of NYC, I got back and she hit me with the "friends" speech; ended up geting whisked away by some french millionaire. I hate New York.
Author Wolf18 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 Also when I was doing sexual things with her (never had intercourse however) one of her male mangina "friends" who I also know was interrogating me about it. I told him im a gentleman that doesn't kiss and tell but he wouldn't let up. Finally I admitted that she performed fellatio on me and he told on me that loser. That was the icing on the cake and she stopped fooling around after that, but she never wanted to be with me before that either.
Nexus One Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 (edited) 20 Perhaps she first wants to have fun in her twenties and get slammed in her p*ssy by other men. Then when she's done being slammed in her p*ssy by other men, then and only then perhaps you'd be good enough for her. Perhaps she's counting on the fact that you'd be loyal enough to wait for her until she's done having fun. Perhaps she feels you're good enough as a loyal husband, so maybe she wants you to wait until she's done being excavated and stretched out by other men, so that you can have the leftovers, the sloppy seconds so to speak. You should confront her about it, then walk away like a man. Edited December 7, 2011 by Nexus One
futuregopher Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 She seems pretty manipulative to me. It seems like she wants the best of both worlds; her "boyfriend" and your friendship. But what do you want from a relationship like this? Do you want her to be your girlfriend? If she becomes you're girlfriend, what will stop her from doing what she did with you sexually with another guy? If not, keep on being friends but try your best to not be frustrated at being friend zoned. Wake up Wolf!! You're too good for this girl!! "I told her that if I'm not good enough for her now, she's not good enough for me in the future." You da man Wolf!!!!!!!!!!!
Author Wolf18 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 Perhaps she first wants to have fun in her twenties and get slammed in her p*ssy by other men. Then when she's done being slammed in her p*ssy by other men, then and only then perhaps you'd be good enough for her. Perhaps she's counting on the fact that you'd be loyal enough to wait for her until she's done having fun. Perhaps she feels you're good enough as a loyal husband, so maybe she wants you to wait until she's done being excavated and stretched out by other men, so that you can have the leftovers, the sloppy seconds so to speak. I'm almost positive she's only having sex with 1 guy, and not very often either. I do think she might be waiting for her "type" (freakishly tall blonde males with long hair) to come along with my personality, then settle for me when it inevitably doesn't happen. Most women do this in their 20's. But **** her today and tomorrow, my machismo does not allow this. What a shame, she's not going to find anyone else like me and I'm not going to find anyone else like her. When women have the power, everyone loses
lululucy Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 She sounds like a manipulative b-tch. My bf's roommate is in a kind of similar situation. He's liked this girl for a long, long time, always pursued her and she's never turned out him down completely but she's never accepted his advances either. She told him one day when they were hanging out (because she oh-so-graciously allowed him to pick her up and buy her food) that she had four other guys trying to get her too. Plus her actual boyfriend. I tell you, when I met this girl I was expecting Gisele but she was maybe a four if she put on makeup. I was astounded. The roommate isn't particularly good looking but he has a good job and he is a good guy -- before this whole scenario, I was going to set him up with one of my best friends. Nixed that whole scenario when I realised what he was morally into. Sorry got lost on a tangent (too many beers while watching nhl) -- anyway, this girl has now got him taking her to an nhl game, buying her presents, driving her around.. she has a freaking live-in so I don't know what lies she's telling him. Roommate is convinced she'll leave her bf for him. Probably will, but she's not going to lose the numbers of the other 4 guys when she does it. Don't give that girl the ego-boost she's looking for, she doesn't deserve your time.
Nexus One Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I'm almost positive she's only having sex with 1 guy, and not very often either. To which she isn't very loyal, as she's talking with you about leaving for the horizon in the future. I do think she might be waiting for her "type" (freakishly tall blonde males with long hair) to come along with my personality If you emigrate and she tags along, then make sure you don't go to Scandinavia, but rather Papua New Guinea or some place like that, at least somewhere where she won't find a blonde elfish guy. That'll teach her.
Author Wolf18 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 She sounds like a manipulative b-tch. My bf's roommate is in a kind of similar situation. He's liked this girl for a long, long time, always pursued her and she's never turned out him down completely but she's never accepted his advances either. She told him one day when they were hanging out (because she oh-so-graciously allowed him to pick her up and buy her food) that she had four other guys trying to get her too. Plus her actual boyfriend. I tell you, when I met this girl I was expecting Gisele but she was maybe a four if she put on makeup. I was astounded. The roommate isn't particularly good looking but he has a good job and he is a good guy -- before this whole scenario, I was going to set him up with one of my best friends. Nixed that whole scenario when I realised what he was morally into. Sorry got lost on a tangent (too many beers while watching nhl) -- anyway, this girl has now got him taking her to an nhl game, buying her presents, driving her around.. she has a freaking live-in so I don't know what lies she's telling him. Roommate is convinced she'll leave her bf for him. Probably will, but she's not going to lose the numbers of the other 4 guys when she does it. Don't give that girl the ego-boost she's looking for, she doesn't deserve your time. Wow, I would never do any of that. If I go out with this girl everyone pays their own way precisely because it isn't an actual date. I do feel she genuinely loves me and my company not any gifts or free food, I just can't figure out why she won't be with me. I don't care any more As for your buddy, he deserves whatever he gets if he lets women take him for a ride like that. The girl I'm talking about has yet another male "Friend" (the one who ratted me out) that is exactly like your boyfriends roomate, and he gets nothing out of it.
lululucy Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Wow, I would never do any of that. If I go out with this girl everyone pays their own way precisely because it isn't an actual date. I do feel she genuinely loves me and my company not any gifts or free food, I just can't figure out why she won't be with me. I don't care any more As for your buddy, he deserves whatever he gets if he lets women take him for a ride like that. The girl I'm talking about has yet another male "Friend" (the one who ratted me out) that is exactly like your boyfriends roomate, and he gets nothing out of it. Good for you. I really am blessed in knowing very few crazy girls so I don't have a lot of knowledge to give to you in this department, but all I can think of is that the less you invest (emotionally or financially) in this scenario the better. Maybe in five years she'll be mature enough to know what she wants... or maybe not. It sucks that she's so happy to string you along emotionally. I think I did that when I was sixteen but I definitely grew out of it. I don't think it's true that you don't care anymore but I do think this acknowledgement is a good leap towards genuinely not caring. Somehow emotional manipulation can get under my skin so much easier and more enduringly than any other type of abuse. I definitely agree with you about the roomie. I tried having a heart to heart with him one night and explain to him that I think he picks women with a significant other already because he's afraid of someone being with him 100% and then rejecting him -- and he got really upset (he's former military, his upset was punching a wall and drinking a beer before he replied) but knowing what he's doing to himself hasn't changed his behaviour. I mean, he had a kid with a woman while she was married and her husband walked in on them multiple times. dude does not know how to pick them.
socialgirl73 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 She wants you to be her "Plan B" in case the other guy does not work out......Do not let her keep you hanging on by a string......
insertnamehere Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 this is the only girl I've sincerely cared about and feel a powerful connection to The problem is you. If you don't cast a wider net, you have no room to complain about your catch. And, please, please, don't ascribe all this one chick's faults to all women.
Feelsgoodman Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 What would something like this mean? Why would a girl want to be with another guy now and with me in the "future"? Last ditch effort to keep my attention while giving me nothing in return? Yes. Attention implies validation, which women crave more than drug a drug addict needs a hit. Why are you even talking to her?
grkBoy Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 She wants to sow her wild oats. She wants to bang 100 douchebags before she gets married to the "good guy". She should realize the "good guy" could end up finding another woman, so when she's suddenly ready to marry she'll find her options are gone. That and one broken condom or a "pull out champ" who doesn't pull out soon enough will only give her one big turnoff for many men.
joystickd Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 You got to let that woman get on like she got sh*t on. there are too many women out here to be dedicated to just one. The day you get out here and get some women is the day she will jump on your d**k. The only reason she aint on it now is because you havent really given her a reason to. I say forget that one and get on to the next one. Its thing like this that is the reason I give women sh*t for friendzoning when they could just say no. Its just an ego thing for them. They like knowing that several men want them. Thats why when I say how I feel and she says lets be friends that woman becomes damn near dead to me. I'm not going to be a sucker that waits around for her to finally want me. Get out here and get your d**k wet. That is why I hit and run or hit a few times then run because its a lot simpler than dealing with all this other bulls**t with women.
joystickd Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 She wants to sow her wild oats. She wants to bang 100 douchebags before she gets married to the "good guy". She should realize the "good guy" could end up finding another woman, so when she's suddenly ready to marry she'll find her options are gone. That and one broken condom or a "pull out champ" who doesn't pull out soon enough will only give her one big turnoff for many men. by that time he wouldn't want her. you can't turn a tramp into a champ lol
ShannonMI Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 A girl I've known for a few years who I almost got with (I was thwarted by a much older, "established" slob that she refuses to leave) but friendzoned me talks to me online and texts me. We have arguments that go nowhere, because this is the only girl I've sincerely cared about and feel a powerful connection to, she claims to feel the same way but won't get with me So I haven't hung out with her regularly for almost a year. I don't mind her , but I do not "love" her and don't give her any of the attention as I once did. She's weird, and possibly manipulative. The other day I mentioned that I want to leave this place, maybe even this country, and she said she would come with me and be with me. I told her why I wasn't good enough for her now, but in the future I would be? She had no response. I told her that if I'm not good enough for her now, she's not good enough for me in the future. What would something like this mean? Why would a girl want to be with another guy now and with me in the "future"? Last ditch effort to keep my attention while giving me nothing in return? This girl is a bitch Wolf. She had no response because she's talking out her ass. She just wants to keep you hanging on. Girls love when men desire them, even when they have a SO and have no real intentions of getting with you. It makes them feel good. Tell her to go take a sh*t.
ShannonMI Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Perhaps she first wants to have fun in her twenties and get slammed in her p*ssy by other men. Then when she's done being slammed in her p*ssy by other men, then and only then perhaps you'd be good enough for her. Perhaps she's counting on the fact that you'd be loyal enough to wait for her until she's done having fun. Perhaps she feels you're good enough as a loyal husband, so maybe she wants you to wait until she's done being excavated and stretched out by other men, so that you can have the leftovers, the sloppy seconds so to speak. You should confront her about it, then walk away like a man. Hahahahahahahahaha yeah she wants a good pussy slamming. If she wants you after she's done getting filled up by other men chances are she'll have some sort of disease or she'll just be used and abused. YUCK!! You can do better Wolfie
OnyxSnowfall Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 If you really... truly, want to be with someone and you know they want to be with you as well --- and there are no real crazy obstacles in the way --- then you two will be together. (usually even when there's crazy obstacles in the way) Chances are she's just using you for her ego and perhaps as a *temporary* back up plan. Sorry... She's probably extremely immature and selfish and you're projecting a lot of this "amazing connection" etc onto her... how much of it is even real? Something you have to unravel and discern... but it's probably in your best interest not to further involve yourself with someone who is just likely stringing you along for too many wrong reasons. Even if she genuinely adores you in some way, which she probably does --- it's obviously not enough........... She likely has a lot of growing up to do heh... a lot of mistakes to make... that she may or may not learn from.
ShannonMI Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 If you really... truly, want to be with someone and you know they want to be with you as well --- and there are no real crazy obstacles in the way --- then you two will be together. (usually even when there's crazy obstacles in the way) Chances are she's just using you for her ego and perhaps as a *temporary* back up plan. Sorry... She's probably extremely immature and selfish and you're projecting a lot of this "amazing connection" etc onto her... how much of it is even real? Something you have to unravel and discern... but it's probably in your best interest not to further involve yourself with someone who is just likely stringing you along for too many wrong reasons. Even if she genuinely adores you in some way, which she probably does --- it's obviously not enough........... She likely has a lot of growing up to do heh... a lot of mistakes to make... that she may or may not learn from. Yeah the bitch is making him more bitter about women. Like he needs that? I say steer clear from her, Wolfie. Tell her to go suck a dick. And not yours either.
OnyxSnowfall Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Yeah the bitch is making him more bitter about women. Like he needs that? I say steer clear from her, Wolfie. Tell her to go suck a dick. And not yours either. :lmao: yeah. Seriously!
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