Is being able to dance important for girls when they consider dating a guy?

[you_can_not_see_me]

I never felt the need to learn dancing cause I never liked clubs and dancing always seemed gay to me when I was a kid:p.

 

But now It has occurred to me that some girl I want to date might actually really like dancing. so I am wondering if most girl here actually care if a potential romantic partner isn't good at dancing??

 

I am willing to learn dancing and I also do have an innate interest in moving my body, so I have no problem with dancing now, I just don't know how to do it! and I am worried that a girl I date might think worse of me If she finds out that I can't dance.

[ThaWholigan]

I never felt the need to learn dancing cause I never liked clubs and dancing always seemed gay to me when I was a kid:p.

 

But now It has occurred to me that some girl I want to date might actually really like dancing. so I am wondering if most girl here actually care if a potential romantic partner isn't good at dancing??

 

I am willing to learn dancing and I also do have an innate interest in moving my body, so I have no problem with dancing now, I just don't know how to do it! and I am worried that a girl I date might think worse of me If she finds out that I can't dance.

 

Only had this problem at bashment raves, girls were doin the dutty wine and if you weren't bold enough to get in there and "dagga dat", you were standing around doing a dumb shifty dance looking stupid.

 

I doubt thats where you're gonna be, and besides quite a few girls suck at dancing too, so you should be fine, learn some simple moves, get a bit of rhythm, no problem.

[coffee.girl]

I am wondering if most girl here actually care if a potential romantic partner isn't good at dancing??

 

I am willing to learn dancing and I also do have an innate interest in moving my body, so I have no problem with dancing now, I just don't know how to do it! and I am worried that a girl I date might think worse of me If she finds out that I can't dance.

 

This will only be a problem if you have represented yourself as something you are not.

 

If you are honest and willing to try new things and have some fun, I can't see the problem? It could even be a cute thing to have her give you some dancing lessons.

[ditzchic]

I love to dance and I've dated quite a few guys that haven't cared for it. It's not a problem for me as long as he doesn't mind if I get out there on the floor without him. Of course if I know he hates dancing but will try for me anyway because he knows I like it, that's bonus points. It doesn't really matter if you're good. I mean we aren't expecting you to get out there and go into some b-boy Usher type stuff. Just moving to a basic rhythm is enough to get by for most guys.

[Cypress25]

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Not all girls like to dance. Personally, I hate it, I would never dance for fun. That's just not my idea of a good time, lol.

[somedude81]

Define dancing.

 

I can do Salsa, Waltz, Tango, Swing and a little two-step.

 

Though none of that has helped me get a woman.

[iris219]

Define dancing.

 

I can do Salsa, Waltz, Tango, Swing and a little two-step.

 

Though none of that has helped me get a woman.

 

Those types of dancing aren't in high demand in most social interactions. When have you ever been asked to waltz in public?

 

You'd have to go to specific venues to use those skills. Unless you frequent salsa clubs, I don't see how being able to salsa will help you with dating, so are you really surprised it hasn't? Women in dance classes aren't usually there to find dates.

Edited December 7, 2011 by iris219

[lululucy]

I love dancing but no one I've ever dated has liked it. They'll dance with me (usually inebriated) but generally prefer watching. I couldn't care less as long as they don't try to tell me to sit down when we're at the bar.

[Ilovewater]

Define dancing.

 

I can do Salsa, Waltz, Tango, Swing and a little two-step.

 

Though none of that has helped me get a woman.

 

Do you go to those dancing clubs/events (whatever they're called)? I have quite a few female friends who go salsa and swing dancing on the weekend, and they like to dance with random men at those events. Maybe that's a way to meet women? I'd be very impressed if a guy tells me he can do all of that even if I'm not into dancing myself.

 

For the OP, since you don't dance well, you can take this opportunity to ask the girl you're dating to help you out. That might turn into fun times .

[somedude81]

Those types of dancing aren't in high demand in most social interactions. When have you ever been asked to waltz in public?

 

You'd have to go to specific venues to use those skills. Unless you frequent salsa clubs, I don't see how being able to salsa will help you with dating, so are you really surprised it hasn't?

Want to know why I first took a dance class? Because I kept hearing that girls like guys who know how to dance.

 

Women in dance classes aren't usually there to find dates.

And why not?!

 

That is the problem that I have come across.

 

In the dance classes, there are always more women than men. Almost 3 to 1. But at the actual dance clubs, the numbers are reversed.

 

If I want to meet a girl who likes to dance, my odds are much greater at a class than the actual venue. For women it's the other way around, if she wants to meet a guy who dances, all she has to do is show up to the club and the men come to her.

 

So I can't meet a girl at a class, and there are few single women at the clubs, then what the hell should I do?

Do you go to those dancing clubs/events (whatever they're called)? I have quite a few female friends who go salsa and swing dancing on the weekend, and they like to dance with random men at those events. Maybe that's a way to meet women? I'd be very impressed if a guy tells me he can do all of that even if I'm not into dancing myself.

I would love to know where your friends go. All the dance clubs have been sausage fests.

 

And no, I've never had a woman show me that she was impressed when I told her I dance.

 

Honestly, I'm considering giving it up because I can't find a partner to practice with. I've taken the beginning classes a few times, but if I want to get better, I need to have a steady partner that I can work on the more advanced steps with.

[Ilovewater]

I would love to know where your friends go. All the dance clubs have been sausage fests.

 

And no, I've never had a woman show me that she was impressed when I told her I dance.

 

Honestly, I'm considering giving it up because I can't find a partner to practice with. I've taken the beginning classes a few times, but if I want to get better, I need to have a steady partner that I can work on the more advanced steps with.

 

Really? They've told me there are a lot of women who go to clubs they frequent (UPenn and others around Philly). My friends usually go in groups of 10 women and 2-3 men, so they're always looking for male partners haha.

 

I'm impressed by men who know how to dance (not the club grinding kind) because it's something I can't do...at all.

[jobaba]

Define dancing.

 

I can do Salsa, Waltz, Tango, Swing and a little two-step.

 

Though none of that has helped me get a woman.

 

Swing is kind out right now, but...

 

Being able to Salsa should help you a lot. Next time you get a date, take her to a Salsa club. The man leads, so she doesn't need to know what she's doing for the most part. If you are really good, it can really impress the right girl.

 

I would totally learn, but it's just one of the things on my list and it's not very far at the top.

[Lonely Ronin]

Define dancing.

 

I can do Salsa, Waltz, Tango, Swing and a little two-step.

 

Though none of that has helped me get a woman.

 

Salsa, has an un-written rule, don't date people in your salsa circle. IN other words, regulars at the club are just that regular dance partners, if you want to date someone, talk to the woman who shows up once a month.

[somedude81]

Salsa, has an un-written rule, don't date people in your salsa circle. IN other words, regulars at the club are just that regular dance partners, if you want to date someone, talk to the woman who shows up once a month.

That sounds incredibly pointless.

[fishtaco]

Outside of salsa dancing, being a good dancer is a plus, but it's not necessary. If you can go out and have fun, even in your awkward uncoordinated-ness, and not be a party-pooper, then you're good enough.

[Wolf18]

That sounds incredibly pointless.

 

I wouldn't be caught dead in a dance class, but I agree completely.

 

 

Seems like there are so many little rules and norms dedicated to making sure men don't getting laid.

[fishtaco]

Define dancing.

 

I can do Salsa, Waltz, Tango, Swing and a little two-step.

 

Though none of that has helped me get a woman.

 

These skills, like being able to play guitar, being a bad ass at a sport... etc, are tools that you can use to get women. But you still have to know how to use them. The only thing that is automatic and guaranteed is money, and you need a lot of it. Flash it and certain types of women will come running. Outside of that, you still need to have game.

 

Being a good dancer gets you positive attention. But that's all you get. Now you need to convert that positive attention into whatever you're looking for, be it date or sex or whatever.

 

I dance salsa, I've gotten as far as recreational amateur performances and competitions. But I gave it up because it's too much work, now I just dance for fun. I get women, probably average success. There are salsa dance instructors that are carving a path of destruction through all their hot students. I can't compete with those guys, nor do I feel the need to. I do alright.

 

But if I didn't dance salsa, I'd get women too, except I'd have one less avenue of meeting women and getting their attention.

 

Learning a skill like salsa just to get women is too much work. But if it's something you like (it's something I like), then you can turn that into an advantage. But like I said, unless we're talking about having loads of cash, nothing is automatic.

[Lonely Ronin]

That sounds incredibly pointless.

 

It actually makes sense in my opinion, because it prevents awkward/volitile situations. Mixing alcohol, sensual dancing, low lighting, and someone else's bf/gf, and things can go south fast.

[Lonely Ronin]

Another thing to consider. Assumes you start dating a regular, but it doesn't work out or ends badly, do you think she is going to still dance with you at the club? If she does what do you think the chances of it not being awkward are?

[Lonely Ronin]

I wouldn't be caught dead in a dance class, but I agree completely.

 

Your missing out Wolf, Bachata is becoming popular here with the ladies.

These two are pretty damn good.

[cerridwen]

Your missing out Wolf, Bachata is becoming popular here with the ladies.

These two are pretty damn good.

 

Huh.

Somedude, do you know how to do this dance?

[somedude81]

I've done a little bit of Bachata, but as you can see in the clip, it's a little too racy to be taught on campus.

 

So the only place where I can learn it is in Salsa clubs, which for some reason, always have a bunch more men than women. I don't know about other people, but it's really hard for me to learn a couples dance without a partner. Sure we rotate, but half the time I'm dancing with a ghost.

Edited December 7, 2011 by somedude81

[cerridwen]

I've done a little bit of Bachata, but as you can see in the clip, it's a little too racy to be taught on campus.

 

So the only place where I can learn it is in Salsa clubs, which for some reason, always have a bunch more men than women. I don't know about other people, but it's really hard for me to learn a couples dance without a partner. Sure we rotate, but half the time I'm dancing with a ghost.

 

Oh, okay.

Just wondering.

 

That guy's upper thigh is getting so much action.

 

It's not a particularly nice-looking dance but could be a hell of an ice breaker.

[Lonely Ronin]

So the only place where I can learn it is in Salsa clubs, which for some reason, always have a bunch more men than women.

Are you going to actual salsa/Latin dance clubs, or bars that happen to have a salsa night?

[Wolf18]

Your missing out Wolf, Bachata is becoming popular here with the ladies.

These two are pretty damn good.

 

 

Ahh so that's what bachata is. Sounds like brothel music

 

Dancing is not my forte . I would prefer to show my virility by doing something masculine like riding a bull or downing a pint of whiskey in 60 seconds.

Edited December 7, 2011 by Wolf18