Emiliebl Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Hello, Here is the situation, tell me what you think! A couple weeks ago guys from the cable company came to the office where I work to do some work. They came to my desk to ask for a manager to come see the work they had done so that they could leave. While I was trying to reach a manager on the phone, one of the guys was asking all sorts of question and trying to have a conversation with me. I eventually left my desk to go look for someone since I hadn't been able to reach a manager by phone. When I came back towards my desk, I met the guy who had previously been trying to talk to me and he took my hand and told me that he had left me his number on my paper pad if I wanted to give him a call. I was quite surprised by this and so were my coworkers given that we had spoken for 5-10 minutes at the most. I found the whole thing weird and was wondering if maybe he gives his number to every girl he meets, but since I'm always complaining about how guys never make the first move or anything, a couple of days later I called him to see if he remembered me and see if he wanted to go for coffee or something like that. He told me that he'd love to and would call me back once he got his work schedule for the week. He called me back the next day, but I missed his call. He left a message asking me to call him the next day. The next day he called me during my lunch hour and we chatted a bit and decided that we would meet for drinks on Thursday. The next day he called again and left a message saying that he wouldn't be able to meet me on Thursday since he was leaving early on Friday morning to go to Florida for work for three weeks, but to call him back that night or to call him the next day. After that, I was thinking that he had changed his mind and simply didn't want to meet me after all and was making some story up, so I didn't call him back and wrote him a text message the next day saying that I had gotten his message to late to call back and wishing him a good trip. I didn't hear back from him that day or the next weekend. I had a couple of friends listen to the message he had left to cancel and they said that they though that he was telling the truth, that a guy who had changed his mind simply wouldn't have called and wouldn't have insisted that I call him three times in a 20 seconds voicemail. The week after that, feeling bad that I might have misjudged the situation, since it had snowed here, I took a picture of the view from my window and sent him a text saying that I was sure that he was sad to miss the first snow. He wrote back 20 minutes later, then called 20 minutes after that from a Florida phone number, but I wasn't able to answer since I was on the subway. Later that evening I replied to his text, he called back a couple of minutes later, but I once again missed the call as I was in the shower. I wrote back after that and I haven't heard from him since. I'm wondering if I should try to reach him again, as it seems that I might have misjudged the whole situation, I realize that my missing his calls a couple of times might start to look bad. But again, I'm thinking that he might have tried to reach me again if he was really interested... not sure what to do here, I don't want to annoy him either. I'm pretty sure that he is still in Florida since it hasn't been three weeks since he left. Any advice? I've heard a couple of things from friends, but I'd like some outside input on the whole thing. Thanks!
soulm8 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 (edited) I'd wait for him to come back from "Florida". If you really need to say something to him, make it short and sweet... let him know you'd like to meet up for that drink when he gets back. I hate to sound so cynical, but... there are guys who chat up office gals for numbers... every where... I think your initial thought was right on the money. For all you know, he's on vacation with his girlfriend or wife. Edited December 7, 2011 by soulm8 found a typo lol
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