alexa137 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 why would a man rather stay at home alone that come visit a woman that he has been involved with off and on and for 7 months? I just dont get it! especially when he asked me 8 hrs ago what i was doing and i told him i got off work at 2pm and that i was going home and i asked him if he wanted to come over-he said he probably would after the gym- then i told him i cooked a homemade meal and asked him if he wanted some and he said sounds good but wasnt sure if he could come at that moment, i meant anytime tonight i would save him some- but no he can text me almost daily and invite me over for drinks and a sleepover a few times a week but now i noticed for the past 5 hours he has been on all the dating sites! what the heck else are you looking for? i mean we get along have great chemistry have aalot in common and have been having great the best sex for 7 months( broke up for 2) i havent hard from him and its his only day off this week and its now almost 8:30 i am so tired of trying to figure out what men what in a woman i thought i had all the good qualities( i mean at least what i am looking for) im about to give up and be single forever! its too stressful and depressing and tired of getting hurt for 20 + years in this dating game!
soulm8 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I wish I had the answer. The "grass is always greener" comes to mind...
neowulf Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 The answer isn't complicated. It's just not an answer you're going to like very much. "Involved with on and off" = Casual fling. It's that simple. He doesn't love you. You are someone to pass the time with while he finds the women he'll settle down with and marry. If that situation isn't what you're looking for, then you should take a stand and move on. I'm constantly stunned and saddened by the amount of crappy situations women will put up with from men. He isn't respecting you. He's using you. You're letting him lead you on and use you. You think this is some kind of reflection on your quality as a women. It's not. He's simply getting his needs met and you're letting him do it. You on the other hand are not getting your needs met. That's on you. Don't sell yourself short by putting up with this crap. If you want a real relationship, go find one.
Author alexa137 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 why would a man rather stay at home alone that come visit a woman that he has been involved with off and on and for 7 months? I just dont get it! especially when he asked me 8 hrs ago what i was doing and i told him i got off work at 2pm and that i was going home and i asked him if he wanted to come over-he said he probably would after the gym- then i told him i cooked a homemade meal and asked him if he wanted some and he said sounds good but wasnt sure if he could come at that moment, i meant anytime tonight i would save him some- but no he can text me almost daily and invite me over for drinks and a sleepover a few times a week but now i noticed for the past 5 hours he has been on all the dating sites! what the heck else are you looking for? i mean we get along have great chemistry have aalot in common and have been having great the best sex for 7 months( broke up for 2) i havent hard from him and its his only day off this week and its now almost 8:30 i am so tired of trying to figure out what men what in a woman i thought i had all the good qualities( i mean at least what i am looking for) im about to give up and be single forever! its too stressful and depressing and tired of getting hurt for 20 + years in this dating game! I meant to say the sleepovers were a few times a month
Author alexa137 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 I thought amybe he was testing me, but i start to think that after knowing me since may he would know me by now! i can say i know him probably 90 percent anyways, yea the meeting a talking to other men have been a no win situation ive talked to probably 10 other men this year and they dont meet up to my standards etc.. just not worth trying and starting with another man because i can just tell by there dating profiles and there attitudes and how they text and all the other info that they are no good I am hoping to make my decision with this guy by the first of the new year0 its just so hard because i am falling for him again b/c of the majority of his actions especially when he asks me to spend the night with him i guess mostly b/c in the 20 yrs of dating ive never had a man ask me that!
sugarmomma Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Neowulf said it best. I mean I really couldn't say it better.
FitChick Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 i am falling for him again b/c of the majority of his actions especially when he asks me to spend the night with him i guess mostly b/c in the 20 yrs of dating ive never had a man ask me that! I find that incredibly sad. For him it's simply a matter of convenience to have you over to his place. Go on youtube and look for videos of Morty Lefkoe talking about how his Method can raise your self esteem so you won't be attracted to jerks like this one.
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