Easyguy14 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 haven't been on here in a few weeks because of work & all but since I got a few days off to recuperate I wanna touch on some things. I met a cute young woman last week that's interested in doing her residency where I'm at and I took a liking to her instantly. she's sexy and curvy though a little bit taller than me, not sure how she feels about that, but aside from it we had a pretty good connection and some engaging eye contact. the others there hinted things at me to make a move but I'm just not sure especially when I saw her light a match the other day on breaktime. Im not a smoker so I'm kinda in-between on what to do here. often smokers have issues of one kind or another.
Wolf18 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Stop overanalyzing everything. You'd be crazy to throw something like this away over that.
Janesays Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 It's a dealbreaker for me. Gross, gross habit.
oaks Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Im not a smoker so I'm kinda in-between on what to do here. often smokers have issues of one kind or another. You're asking if it's a turn off for her to smoke. You need to answer that yourself since it's you who is (or isn't) attracted to her. For me, a woman smoking is a huge turn off, but then I'm not you so this isn't very useful for you to know. Yes, I agree that smokers have issues - mostly ones relating to smelling of and tasting of smoke. Euuuwww!
Wolf18 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 If a woman your dating's worst habit is smoking, you've come out a winner. I suppose the OP would prefer a girl whose got a Manolo Blahnik addiction.
Author Easyguy14 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 You're asking if it's a turn off for her to smoke. You need to answer that yourself since it's you who is (or isn't) attracted to her. For me, a woman smoking is a huge turn off, but then I'm not you so this isn't very useful for you to know. Yes, I agree that smokers have issues - mostly ones relating to smelling of and tasting of smoke. Euuuwww! I wanna know the psychology behind why it's a huge turn-off to you? I'm just not a smoker so it feels strange to date a girl that smokes & with all the commercials on what smoking does to a person why would anyone do it these days? makes me think this is a serious red flag to stop before I go any closer because maybe some mental issues might pop up with her?
allina Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 The important thing here is how much of a turn off is it for YOU? It's a deal breaker for me for sure but you are the one who would possibly end up dating her.
laotzu Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I would never date a smoker, unless they were serious about quitting and they didn't smoke every day. Even then, they'd have to be pretty awesome.
Author Easyguy14 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 The important thing here is how much of a turn off is it for YOU? It's a deal breaker for me for sure but you are the one who would possibly end up dating her. can you please tell me why its a deal-breaker to you? maybe I can spot a few more red flags before I consider pursuing her.
Casablanca Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 can you please tell me why its a deal-breaker to you? maybe I can spot a few more red flags before I consider pursuing her. Well it is pretty disgusting, the smell follows around, stains teeth, etc...also it is people PAYING TO KILL THEMSELVES! It is a huge waste of money, and it is killing you....for me, that is why it is a deal breaker.
carhill Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 (edited) OP, since you list yourself as an undertaker, that might have play here The single most marked thing I've noted about smoking, other than the obvious potentials regarding health, is that it gets into everything. I still smell it on my leather jacket which hung in a closed closet for nearly all the time I visited my friends over Thanksgiving, both of whom smoke, but never in the wing of the house where I stayed. It just travels everywhere. I literally have to bag clothes so I have a smoke-free outfit to wear on the plane home. I cough for a couple days to get all the crap out. They're great friends but no way could I live like that day in and day out. Both my parents smoked and my memories of childhood, while otherwise a great childhood, were of a blue haze-filled house. I'm super lucky I've never had any serious health issues. What kind of 'residency' is she serving? Medical, like in doctor? Also, what does 'light a match' mean? You took it to mean smoking but did you see her smoking? I understand 'hot' but adoring from afar is very different than an intimate relationship or even dating. If she's a regular smoker, give such pursuits serious thought. Myself, I'd pass, without prejudice. Edited December 7, 2011 by carhill
Author Easyguy14 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 OP, since you list yourself as an undertaker, that might have play here The single most marked thing I've noted about smoking, other than the obvious potentials regarding health, is that it gets into everything. I still smell it on my leather jacket which hung in a closed closet for nearly all the time I visited my friends over Thanksgiving, both of whom smoke, but never in the wing of the house where I stayed. It just travels everywhere. I literally have to bag clothes so I have a smoke-free outfit to wear on the plane home. I cough for a couple days to get all the crap out. They're great friends but no way could I live like that day in and day out. Both my parents smoked and my memories of childhood, while otherwise a great childhood, were of a blue haze-filled house. I'm super lucky I've never had any serious health issues. What kind of 'residency' is she serving? Medical, like in doctor? Also, what does 'light a match' mean? You took it to mean smoking but did you see her smoking? I understand 'hot' but adoring from afar is very different than an intimate relationship or even dating. If she's a regular smoker, give such pursuits serious thought. Myself, I'd pass, without prejudice. she just graduated from aami which is a school of mortuary science so she wants to get into the funeral field. and yes I saw her smoking. the funny thing about this is that I been around her alot & never smelt cigarettes on her so it surprised me to see her doing it.
carhill Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Is smoking generally prohibited in the public and works spaces you (and she) frequent? That might be why. She doesn't load up enough in an enclosed space to smell of smoke. You'd have to encounter her privately or in spaces where smoking is freely permitted to get a better idea of her habit. Also, I've noted regular smokers tend to increase their 'volume' when stressed or anxious, even when from non-serious matters. Their 'desire' increases. I offer such observations as a lifelong non-smoker who is pretty accepting of the habit in others.
iris219 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I can't imagine having much in common with a dedicated smoker, so the fact that our lifestyles would probably clash would be a dealbreaker. I'm very health conscious. I eat well and workout regularly. Many of the smokers I know do not. I'm very active and many of the smokers I know have a much lazier lifestyle. There's also something, in my opinion, classless and immature about smoking. The fact that smokers let something like a cigarette have so much control over their lives is a turn off. Watching someone stand in the cold, trying to light up despite the wind is something I can't understand. It looks pretty ridiculous. I would also worry about their health. HOWEVER, since I have difficulty finding single men, I won't say smoking is an absolute dealbreaker (I'm not one to be picky), but it's definitely a turn off. Oddly, I've never minded kissing smokers.
Pasttense Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 OP, would you date someone who has an unpleasant body odor or unpleasant physical habit, like constantly picking her nose? These are the same type objections many of us here have, plus the risk to ourselves caused by second hand smoke. If you look at other characteristics, such as how selfish a person is, or more likely to cheat, or more likely to get violent--I believe there is absolutely no difference between smokers and non-smokers.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Deal-breaker. My uncle's beautiful trophy wife paid for her figure with the loss of her larynx from smoking a few years ago. She talks with a monotone voice box apparatus. Other than it being a terrible risk, it is disgusting and very expensive and a drug addiction that takes and takes and gives nothing in return.
Author Easyguy14 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 Deal-breaker. My uncle's beautiful trophy wife paid for her figure with the loss of her larynx from smoking a few years ago. She talks with a monotone voice box apparatus. Other than it being a terrible risk, it is disgusting and very expensive and a drug addiction that takes and takes and gives nothing in return. I agree with you. this girl is still young in her 20s & very attractive with a great body & nice tight skin. we talk all the time including today when I found out she wasn't seeing anyone because school ate up most of that time so it boggles my mind why she would wanna eventually ruin her nice appearance and her innards with this terrible habit. Im sort of hoping that she isn't addicted to it but I have my doubts.
FitChick Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Hasn't she taken the class where she cuts open the dead bodies and sees their blackened lungs? I dated a funeral director who smoked and he said having seen what he's seen his whole life (family business for over a hundred years), he lives for today. Also, smoking took away the stench of decomposition and chemicals, all part of the funeral business. He has to deal with other people's grief every single day. I couldn't do it. He also drank rather heavily. Made a lot of money though -- it's a recession proof business!
allina Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 can you please tell me why its a deal-breaker to you? maybe I can spot a few more red flags before I consider pursuing her. The main reason is that it's a sign of bad health. I do yoga regularly, I run half marathons and plan to run a full marathon in 2010, a smoker just doesn't fit with me. I also hate the smell and feel like it's a bit low class to smoke.
Lowib Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 all I gotta say that everyone that posted in here is ignorant. It's a red flag for mental issues? Really? Grow up and if it's a big deal then back off, but to classify a smoker as a different breed is dumb. I smoke. I work out. And I bet I could out run everyone on this post.
ChessPieceFace Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Deal-breaker. But I don't see what other people's opinions have to do with yours. Either you can stand it or you can't, and I CAN'T. If you can, I've heard they give head more frequently. But that could be a myth.
Wolf18 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 The main reason is that it's a sign of bad health. I do yoga regularly, I run half marathons and plan to run a full marathon in 2010, a smoker just doesn't fit with me. I also hate the smell and feel like it's a bit low class to smoke. Oh please. I've been smoking since I was 12, and I'm more fit than the average non-smoking American. Maybe if more people in America took up smoking this country wouldn't be so damn fat I went through a long yoga phase as well, of the kundalini variety that I taught myself (very different from the pop-culture crap they teach you at schools). It has nothing to do with enjoying a good smoke. "Low class"? Maybe, working people smoke more because narcissistic bourgeois *******s make our lives miserable . I have the feeling that's the big issue. I bet if I were to only smoke 40 dollar cigars a lot of anti-smoking people wouldn't mind it Men who smoke-have more testosterone, more testosterone means more people willing to do something about this wretched system. This is why they don't want us to smoke.
allina Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Oh please. I've been smoking since I was 12, and I'm more fit than the average non-smoking American. Maybe if more people in America took up smoking this country wouldn't be so damn fat I went through a long yoga phase as well, of the kundalini variety that I taught myself (very different from the pop-culture crap they teach you at schools). It has nothing to do with enjoying a good smoke. "Low class"? Maybe, working people smoke more because narcissistic bourgeois *******s make our lives miserable . I have the feeling that's the big issue. I bet if I were to only smoke 40 dollar cigars a lot of anti-smoking people wouldn't mind it Men who smoke-have more testosterone, more testosterone means more people willing to do something about this wretched system. This is why they don't want us to smoke. You are the exception to the rule and you must know it. Many smokers aren't fit and I want an energetic and fit guy. $40 cigars are no better imo. Also, when I say low class I do NOT mean rich/poor. There are plenty of great men with class that are "working class" and there are many nasty, low class men who have money. I'm just not in to smoking. I'd like to add that I was the type to have a smoke while out drinking, this was 5+ years ago. I'm extremely thankful that it never became an addictive habit for me. Now I see people smoke and I can't believe I ever did that. EDIT: I meant to say 2012 not 2010 in my previous post. I'm clearly behind the times
johan Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I didn't read the first post, but I assume you're talking about one of those things you put food in and it comes out cooked and tasting all smoky. And I'd say that's not a huge turn off. It's kind of neutral. Guess it depends on how it is used.
socialgirl73 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I do not date smokers.....I have children who have asthma.....
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