rocketboy9 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 There was a woman I was somewhat involved with on many levels. Back in the beginning of August she faded out on me. One day she just stopped emailing and calling. After a few weeks I contacted her and I got the speech about how nothing is wrong, how busy she is, how she has been thinking a lot, blah, blah... I didnt pressure her and just said ok and backed off. I wished her luck, told her I was her friend and told her to stay in touch knowing that it wasnt going to happen. Today she has reappeared. She wants to "reconnect" whatever the frig that means. I will be honest I was bit annoyed with her behavior. I was very close with her and was very supportive of her when she was going through some tough times in her life. Than poof - gone. Just like that. I kind of surmised I was her in between guy until she lined up the BBD. So what does she want? I am very tempted to just delete it.
Meeks7 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 She probably found a guy she found more interesting than you but it bombed, so she's running back to you, her next best (but 2nd) option. If you want to give her the benefit of the doubt, it's possible she disappeared due to non-guy related life issues (i.e. job, family, etc.) it's your call. Doesn't look like a healthy situation though.
Author rocketboy9 Posted December 6, 2011 Author Posted December 6, 2011 She probably found a guy she found more interesting than you but it bombed, so she's running back to you, her next best (but 2nd) option. If you want to give her the benefit of the doubt, it's possible she disappeared due to non-guy related life issues (i.e. job, family, etc.) it's your call. Doesn't look like a healthy situation though. I have no doubt you are right. I realized after the fact that I was her emotional tampon. I cant imagine why she would contact me after almost 5 months. She probably wants something.
phineas Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 I have no doubt you are right. I realized after the fact that I was her emotional tampon. I cant imagine why she would contact me after almost 5 months. She probably wants something. Yep. she needs a cuddle bitch. At least that's been my experience. And sadly i've had more than my fair share of women make their rounds on me last summer. When i give my time & attention to a woman & she just blows me off then comes around again, I invite her over for a movie. The smart one's understand they can't waste my time anymore & decline. The dumb one's actually show up thinking i won't try anything & just be happy to be their cuddle bitch. yeah, they couldn't of been more wrong. Once the movie starts they have a choice, get naked or GTFO. The look on their face when they realize i'm serious is priceless. LOL! The look on my face when they get naked is probably even more so. Yeah, i'm an ass-hat. but i'm an ass-hat that didn't waste his evening on an attention whore.
Author rocketboy9 Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 I have to say forcing their hand by asking them to get naked is a nice touch. It forces them to either put out or go away. This one wasted enormous amounts of my time and energy to totally disappear on me. I realized afterwards, just what was I doing? Being nice and listening to her endless crap hoping she would see the light - yeah sure like that was ever going to happen. At times I felt like she was sucking the life out of me. She probably went and dated some douche who dumped her and now her ego needs some stroking.
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 She must have met someone else and now things have changed she's coming to look for you again. She does owe you an explanation, reguardless if you choose to 'date' her again or take things slowly, or walk away. Though she does probably think you're a friend since you did tell her to keep in touch.
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