Genghis Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 OK I just want to say that I'm new to this whole forum thing. Posting, at least. So if I did it wrong, I'm really sorry. So around March last year, I was exclusive with someone and we talked everyday and thought we were 'in love' and all that rattle. Then a year ago this person basically stopped talking to me and then after about a month told me she didn't need me for anything anymore. I was wrecked. Felt sick and all of that. These days, I am fine. YESTERDAY, I got a text from this person asking what's going on in my life. I was uneasy about texting back for obvious reasons but I did and I just explained that a few things have changed but it's much the same. Just the usual. She knows that my life is very average (though I like it) and I don't have much money to do any fantastic things. So she's acting all happy about hearing from me but I still feel uneasy. Anyway so I ask how she is doing these days and WOW. Apparently, after what happened with me her life has improved ten-fold. She lost 30 kilos, became 'popular', had lots of attention from guys, got the job she wanted and is now traveling the world. At this point, I feel like she's bragging and honestly I don't want to talk to her anymore. The fact that she can just text me all this means that what happened between us wasn't a terrible heartbreak for her like it was for me. Otherwise she wouldn't rub my face in it like this. Anyway I text her that I'm happy for her but I couldn't think of the words to write. I thought I was being genuine but she tells me that it sounded like I wasn't at all happy for her. I was really trying to be but I felt strange. Numb almost. Anyway now she thinks I'm jealous of her and that I'm a bad person. She just seems so different. I liked her before any of her changes. Doesn't she remember that? Why did she even contact me? What does she want me to say?! Please tell me. Am I a bad person for the way I acted?!
BoredAgain Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Okay, something doesn't add up here. You write, "Apparently, after what happened with me her life has improved ten-fold. ... she tells me that it sounded like I wasn't at all happy for her. ... she thinks I'm jealous of her and that I'm a bad person." If your life was amazingly happy, would it upset you if an EX didn't jump for joy over your accomplishments? I doubt it. No, this doesn't make you a bad person, but if I were in your shoes I'd stay far away from this Ex for awhile.
othersideofthepillow Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 No you are not a bad person in the slightest. She is. There is no reason for her to even contact you let alone start accusing you of not being sincere. If i were you id say "ok that your opinion" and just never talk to her again.
Chi townD Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Dude, she was fishing for an ego boost. She thought about you and thought about how she ended with you. She probably had some guilt and stated all those things just to re-affirm that she made the right choice in her head with everything she's done and accomplished outside of your company to make herself feel better. If you would have said, "OMG!!! That's amazing! I'm sooo proud of you. You are such a special person.. I'm literally standing outside and I see a rainbow in the sky; you are so special that I KNOW that it's shooting out your ass right now. You're amazing!" Truth is, doesn't matter what you could have said. She would have found fault in it to let herelf believe that she was right to dump you because, "apparently" you're a jerk. Dude, the girl isn't worth your time if she's pulling this crap.
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