sarahkm Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 the ex and i broke up fairly amicably but i'll call myself the dumpee and i definitely still have some feelings for this guy. he took me out for my birthday and got me an expensive gift 2 months post breakup. the dinner was awkward. i saw him one other time between my bday dinner and our breakup. it wasnt awkward due to drama or anything. we were just cordial and i get the vibe he does not want to get back together with me. there is a large group outing this wkend i'm debating whether or not i should go. it's going to be 50+ people, most of which are his friends. he grew up in this city, i did not. so he knows everyone there. i'm afraid if i go, i might not have alot of other people to talk to besides him. and if he's preoccupied with his friends, i might just be ignored. the only reason i want to go is so that we can get over our awkwardness. but i dont even know if that is even worth it at this point. i dont think in my head i want to ever get back with him, although at this time, my heart feels differently. any advice is appreciated!
BoredAgain Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 You write that you "definitely still have some feelings for this guy" and that "the only reason i want to go is so that we can get over our awkwardness." Don't you think your interactions with him will be awkward as long as you have feelings? Just ask yourself, would it bother you to see him with another girlfriend? If it would, then you should probably keep your distance. Trying to be friends right after a break-up almost always ends in disaster. Take time and space for yourself to heal.
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