Jlovestruckx0 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He has dumped me twice, and came back both times 2 months later. Hes given me the whole he's going to change b.s. A lot of the time I just feel flat out unimportant, and unappreciated. I have made my best efforts to make this relationship work, and we both know he is the one holding it back. So I have kept asking myself over and over, why Im still with him. I can't seem to break up with him. I still do not want to. Im upset all the time, I know he should treat me better, but im holding on to the good and trying to fix the bad all on my own which is impossible! Has anyone else out there felt like they had no other choice but to break up with your other half, even if you truly did not want to? I want to be the dumper in hopes that he will realize what he is losing, but I guess that would be stupid of me. Anyone else been in a similar situation? If so, enlighten me, please.
twinkles Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Sometimes what keep you there is comfort, laziness or fear. Comfort..it's better than nothing or good enough for now Laziness...couldn't be bothered to look for anyone else Fear...that you may not find someone Which is it?
Author Jlovestruckx0 Posted December 11, 2011 Author Posted December 11, 2011 I think it might be that im comfortable with him. I mean this is really my first, serious, and longest relationship so i feel a bit stupid being so stressed about but i feel like ive done evrything possible on my part...i really love him and the times we broke up in the past i was heartbroken, i dodnt even want to think about being with anyone else, i still cant think about it... i just really dont know if its time to let it go even if i dont want to
CaliBabe Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Theres a saying: If it didn’t work out the first time, it won’t workout the second. Or the third. Or the fourth. [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT]
hooliganization Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 ...A lot of the time I just feel flat out unimportant, and unappreciated... ..Im upset all the time, I know he should treat me better... Speaking from my 5 year relationship that ended about a month ago (we never broke up during that time), I felt the way you did a month before the break up. I confronted him about it trying to work it out, but he just ended up breaking up with me instead. If you know it's now going to work out (or commit in my case)... don't wait for the inevitable. It will only make it harder when it does happen. I contemplated ending it myself a few times, but never went through with it like twinkles mentioned because I was comfortable and fearful. I loved him, yes.. and I was afraid of not having that sort of connection/relationship with anybody else. I had hope that one day he would change his views of marriage and having a family. It will only hurt more when HE ends it, if you wait.
Author Jlovestruckx0 Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 My main source of confusion lately is trying to decide whether or not there is hope anymore. How do you know when it is basically unfixable?
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