Cyclo Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 I did it once... Went in to a book shop and saw a girl behind the counter that looked fairly cute so I got her to look up a book for me. Started chatting from there. Made her laugh. She stroked her hair a little so I took it as a sign that she was interested. I left and gave it half an hour and went back and said "Oh, by the way, do you fancy going out for a drink ?" She shot me down right away. I was so embarrassed. I couldn't leave quick enough. Only, I made the mistake of pulling quite aggressively on a locked door causing it to rattle fairly violently to complete my suffering before finally negotiating an accessible exit I must have looked like such a lost cause lol. Needless to say I haven't been in that book shop since.
Author jobaba Posted December 9, 2011 Author Posted December 9, 2011 (edited) I almost pulled the trigger. I was chatting up and joking with a woman as I picked up a piece of clothing. She remembered me from the last time I was there to get fitted, but she was bouncing around the place. She was just moving around too much and I didn't get the right moment. I had my line of "You look like XXX celebrity", but just didn't get the shot. Anyways, I almost asked for her number even though there was a family of a bunch of kids sitting there right next to me and also a few of her co-workers. It felt good that I was almost able to do that in front of those people without being too embarrassed. Embarrassment is for f@cking p@ssies. 11 days left... Edited December 9, 2011 by jobaba
Sith Apprentice Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 (edited) Glad to see you're making an effort. Clothing stores are always gold mines for hot women especially if you go on weekday nights. On weekday nights they're more likely to be alone and approachable as opposed to the weekend when they're out in packs or with boyfriends. Hell, I got 2 rejections down at the mall this week. 1 woman told me she already had a boyfriend. The other refused to give me her number after I approached and introduced myself. Don't give up! Edited December 10, 2011 by Sith Apprentice
Sith Apprentice Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 For further inspiration read this thread http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16725&highlight=rejection+collection
Wolf18 Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 I almost pulled the trigger. I was chatting up and joking with a woman as I picked up a piece of clothing. She remembered me from the last time I was there to get fitted, but she was bouncing around the place. She was just moving around too much and I didn't get the right moment. I had my line of "You look like XXX celebrity", but just didn't get the shot. Anyways, I almost asked for her number even though there was a family of a bunch of kids sitting there right next to me and also a few of her co-workers. It felt good that I was almost able to do that in front of those people without being too embarrassed. Embarrassment is for f@cking p@ssies. 11 days left... The celebrity line sounds really lame. A woman who is hot enough to be compared to a celebrity probably gets sick of hearing it, save the compliments and ego-stroking for when she's actually on a date with you IMO, by validating her just for being there you are giving her the attention women want without getting anything in return.
Author jobaba Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 I'm bringing back this thread. Since I started it, none of the non-GF guys have made any progress. That really makes me sad. I'm curious to see as how this experiment would have worked but I got a GF before I could put it into action. So man up yall. I won't be playing for a while out of respect to my ex-GF. But soon enough...
Bob_Funk Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I recently met a player who told me if I approach one woman then I should make sure I approach a minimum of 20 women within the next 24 hours. Since it gets him a lot of women I can't see it as bad advice. I've been doing it. I've gone up to any woman I found attractive, even married women. I've gotten several numbers. Numbers mean nothing. Watch them all flake.
somedude81 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I'm bringing back this thread. Since I started it, none of the non-GF guys have made any progress. That really makes me sad. I'm curious to see as how this experiment would have worked but I got a GF before I could put it into action. So man up yall. I won't be playing for a while out of respect to my ex-GF. But soon enough... Hey, since this thread was made, I've asked out and been rejected by one girl. And odds are I'd get another rejection this month or the next. And I'll probably get a few more once summer classes start.
Author jobaba Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 I'm bringing back this thread. Since I started it, none of the non-GF guys have made any progress. That really makes me sad. I'm curious to see as how this experiment would have worked but I got a GF before I could put it into action. So man up yall. I won't be playing for a while out of respect to my ex-GF. But soon enough... Update to this thread. In the past couple of weeks, I have decided to start hitting on women. My number of rejections is up to about ~ 5-7. Recently I went to an alumni event for my college. I went with my buddy, but other than that, I knew nobody there. The alumni angle is a great in though. Anyways, I had balls of steel that night. I was going up to groups of 2, 3 and 4 women and just chatting away ... solo. The results? About 3 solid rejections and about 2 semi-rejections. Now, just to quantify things, I don't consider myself the most attractive man, but neither do I really care that much about looks. I can objectively say that most of the women I talked to that night were on my looks level (I went to a really nerdy school). One was pretty cute, but other than that, all of them would have been considered by most men less attractive than any of the women I've ever dated. Add to that the fact that we have the same educational background. I can feel the desensitizing working. More to come...
Snowman219 Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 I think some of us have got to get past the "pre-rejection" filters that appear to have formed in our psychi. What do I mean? Script runs a bit like this.. 1. See attractive women 2. Immediately flood mind with a dozen reasons not to approach women. 3. Shutdown, ignore her and fail to make eye contact with women of interest 4. Beat self up for freaking out and not approaching. 5. Repeat. No idea how to fix that. I'm tempted to try and "trick" myself by just doing something small, like asking for the time. Just to get me over the approach anxiety. Maybe we should all try to think approaching someone is like trying to overcome a difficult situation. You don't see a woman at all but a metaphor. Please no Matrix responses aha, beat you to it!
Badsingularity Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 I can feel the desensitizing working. More to come... yep, that's how it works. Your doing exactly what you need to do. Soon enough you won't be nervous or be worrying about what to say at all. You won't care and you will be totally relaxed while talking to women. This is when a guy if finally being his true self when talking to a woman. This is when he will start seeing success.
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