ZimboGon Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 (edited) (NOTE, sorry boredagain, i just wantedsome input. I know i asked about this awhile ago.) Okay, well... Its a long story so i will use fake names for everyone. So, i was 18 and i dated a 15 year old. Yeah, i know, senior and a sophomore. So, lets call her katie. Katie and i had a great relationship for the first year, we saw each other every day, we walked to class all the time, and we hung out after class every single day. 24/7 pretty much. She was really dependent on me, and she lost most of her friends because she saw me so much. I couldn't care either way, but it got to the point where she would get upset when i went with my friends and not her. Point being, i was her world. I had no fear of losing her. She and I had a great relationship, excellent chemistry, similar interests ect. So, i graduated and that summer i saw her every single day. Unfortunately, i couldn't afford a car. My family is rather poor, so we ended up hanging out at my house, cuddling, watching shows or walking to places and eating. Then, school started back up for her and she started to change somewhat. I suggested we see each other less so our time would be more meaningful, and she was upset with that but she agreed. So, we started to see each other 3 or 4 times a week or so. Then, she was given a car. So, unfortunately she drove us around and we could go on dates and such (i have a job, so i always payed regardless) So, around october we get in a fight and i suggest a temporary split because she doesn't seem happy. She gets really upset, starts crying, but agrees. 4 days later, she calls me and asks for me back. So i take her for a walk, and i ask her. Whats going on, what can we do to fix it? I love you and i want to make it work. She basically tells me that her feelings are fading a bit, she always loved me, but since i am her first real relationship she doesn't know what she wants. I told her i loved her and we could make things work, and she agreed. So, we have the best two weeks we have had in awhile. Its great, and this guy, we will call him Rick, keeps texting her. I tell her to just say "I'm with my boyfriend right now" so he'd stop, and she refuses, insisting she doesn't want to lose one of her only friends. So, one night she and i are on a date, and he texts her confessing his feelings for her. Of course, i instantly shut him down and everything. So, a few days later i get to talk to him in person, and i respectfully tell him to back down, we love each other, yada yada. Katie refuses to say anything. So he leaves, and i look at her and say "Glad thats over, its a good thing you didn't like him or anything." She is unable to respond. I get up, and storm out and she chases me. Apparently she told him she liked him too, but she insists its a mistake and she realises she has been and idiot and wants to be with me, she wants to finally try for once. I give her one more chance, and i tell her to CUT contact with him. So, i see her friday and we get in a fight over some things, and ultimately we break up. That night when she is crying, she texts rick "I wish you were here right now, i still smell like you when you hugged me." I surprise her the next day, we agree to work things out and i told her... CUT CONTACT. we have been together so long and we are so great together, its not worth throwing away. She tells me she sees me and so many pros, and she sees him and there is nothing but she still has this feeling for him. I suggest its just the chase because we were getting a bit stale and he is all over her. this guy is really pathetic, whenever she is upset he rushes to her side and says things like "Pick who you want to be with. i know you like him, but im always here for you and i like you too. do whatever you want beautiful." Pretty much playing her like a card. So, next wed she blows me off to hang out with her friends. Later that day, we talk. Apparently even though i asked her to cut contact, she kept talking to him and she hung out with him that day even though we had plans. Obviously, we both agree to break up. The next day, she texts me saying she made the biggest mistake of her life and she doesn't want to lose me. The day after that, she and rick hook up. I hear about it, and i confront her about leading us both on and i tell her once and for all, PICK. She says that she likes us both, and that apparently i'm a better lover, but he's more fun in public or something. Ultimately, she picks him. Guess what, the next day she tells me she made a huge mistake and she doesn't want to lose anything with me. She's talking to him the whole day, and ignoring me. That night, she tells me she invited him over and told him off, saying she wanted to be with me. The next day, i see her and she shuts me out and she's really cold and we both agree to be single for awhile. Guess what, the next day she tells me she misses me and she is really confused. So, a few days later i show up at her house to return her things and what do i see. Her, under the blanket i bought her with rick. I look at her, tell her to never contact me again and i leave. Two weeks later, they are dating. She sends me a message saying she is really sorry for everything, she felt it was best we broke up because i seem happier and now she doesn't regret everything. She also adds, "I don't know if i will ever be able to say honestly that breaking up with you wasn't a mistake." Then, she keeps stalking my facebook and she messages me about it occasionally. Why? Whats the point? She left me for some guy without a job, a car, or anything. A guy who doesn't have anything to offer because of some spur of the moment thing. A guy who completely played her. So i sent her a message, saying that i just heard she and him were official and i told her to stop stalking me, stop sending me messages and stop messing with me. I told her to live with her decisions, and that i hope she doesn't regret them because at some point i really did love her. I warned her if i got another message, i would block her so she wouldn't be able to stalk my facebook for whatever strange reasons she does. Then, yesterday i ran into her and him. They were holding hands, and they both looked at me and smirked. Apparently, she had been telling everyone that i was a bad boyfriend, and i yelled at rick and everything to make me look like the bad guy. So people decided to confront me about it, and i replied that it was untrue and she cheated on me. Everyone said she's turned into a B**** lately, being cold, insulting people and starting fights. But... deep down. I really want her back. She was a great person when we dated, but things changed when i graduated. She was really young, immature, and i'm not really sure what to do. I did everything i could for her, i supported her emotionally, i took her out, i made her happy and she pulls this. I mean, is she going to come back? Should i take her back? Edited December 6, 2011 by ZimboGon Link to post Share on other sites
Soxfaninfl Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 This girl keeps playing head games with you. One minute she wants you, and the next minute she wants the other guy. She is young and immature. You can meet someone else. I know you want to be with her, but do you really want to continue with the bulls*** that this girl has put you through? She just going to keep breaking your heart and causing you misery. You deserve better. It's easier these days to meet women now with online dating. Move on! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZimboGon Posted December 6, 2011 Author Share Posted December 6, 2011 I feel like its due to her immaturity and youth that this is happening, and before this our relationship was bliss. I understand everything she has done to me, i know i should quit, but i don't want to throw it all away. I'm really stubborn, and i don't like to play the field much. When i find a girl i like, i stick with them completely. I had my target on her, and i was completely loyal our entire relationship. I don't like the idea of some other guy making her happy when i know its supposed to be me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZimboGon Posted December 6, 2011 Author Share Posted December 6, 2011 Well, uh.. Bump.. :3 Link to post Share on other sites
Soxfaninfl Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 I feel like its due to her immaturity and youth that this is happening, and before this our relationship was bliss. I understand everything she has done to me, i know i should quit, but i don't want to throw it all away. I'm really stubborn, and i don't like to play the field much. When i find a girl i like, i stick with them completely. I had my target on her, and i was completely loyal our entire relationship. I don't like the idea of some other guy making her happy when i know its supposed to be me. How are you both? You sound young. Get yourself an older woman that doesn't play games and wants a relationship. I don't play the field much too, but I'm not going to date someone that plays these types of head games. You deserve someone better. I was faithfull to my wife fot 12 years, and she left me for a fat older guy with more money than me. This girl didn't appreciate your loyalty just like my ex-wife. Life is too short to be with someone that causes you heart ache. Take it from me. I'm 36, and I was with the same woman for a long time. You can't make her happy. Only she can make herself happy. This other guy is along for the ride. Once she is tired of him, she will probably do the same thing that she did to you. Do you really want to go through that again with her? Link to post Share on other sites
Coil Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 IMHO You at least tried and were more tolerant than at least I would be. I recommend that you focus on forgetting her and move on. Be glad that you did not marry this girl or get her pregnant. She obviously cannot be trusted and carries a lot of drama. Chalk this up as a lesson. Stick to your guns, take some time to focus on yourself and make improvements in your life. Do not just rush into another relationship. After a while you will hopefully be in a better life situation. Then you can focus more on finding a worthy partner in life. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
fishtaco Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 Pretty soon you'll be 19 and she'll be 16, and you'll end up in jail with your name on the sex offender's registry for life. Move on dude. Find another girl that's 18 or over. Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 hahaha she needs to grow up a lot. Can't help you with the 15 year olds. I'd say just have sex with her and don't take things too seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
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