Randybrandt Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 First off I wanted to say I am not a troll thank you..... I found this forum through a mate of mine and I decided to check it out and get some advice in return. My girlfriend and I have been dating 6 months yes we have had our ups and downs but lately it has been more downs. Friday evening my girlfriend texts me on my mobile when I am in school apparently she can never remember when I am in school. Anyways..... She said Randy are you doing anything?? I said I am in school did you forget again lol?? She didn't text me until hours later saying I forgot you where in school so nevermind I was going to ask if you wanted to go to the movies but again nevermind. I get out of class and ask her want to just hang out tonight and she goes TTYL. I was a little upset because I wasn't rude when she asked me what I was doing I even made a joke about it since we joke all the time but when I ask her a simple question like would you like to hang out she doesn't even give me a answer she just says TTYL. She hasn't even spoken to me since Friday! I would text her but to be honest I am upset she didn't even say no thanks or sorry I have plans she just said TTYL like I was bothering her or something. What should I do in this situation?? Should I text her or wait for her to text me? My mates say leave her alone and wait for her to text me but my flatmate says text her. I could use more opinions:)
lululucy Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 I'm kind of curious how old the two of you are? I have a friend that sounds like her with a flair for the dramatic. If I'm not free at the drop of a hat for whatever it is she wants to do she just texts "k" and won't speak to me. With her, I don't care as she's just a friend and it doesn't make much difference if she's mad. You haven't texted her either since friday? She could just as easily be upset about the situation and waiting for your text. I'd just send her a quick "Morning " text with the appropriate smiley face or note of affection you typically do as if nothing is wrong. She was probably upset in the moment that you couldn't see her and responded accordingly. If you're otherwise happy in the relationship, it's not worth dwelling on. If she's rude in many aspects of your relationship, then it's something you should be looking at.
soulm8 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Yes, I think she was rude. I would be inclined to focus on anything but her. btw, I'm not sure if it was intentional, but you made her sound like a complete airhead.
Author Randybrandt Posted December 6, 2011 Author Posted December 6, 2011 (edited) She is a wee bit of a airhead. She never thinks she just assumes:p She will contact me at the craziest times thinking he isn't working or isn't at school or doesn't have a life. I will be working and she will say want to hang out at my place? It is like she can never figure out that I indeed do have a job or indeed go to school and just assumes. She always,always picks days when I am working or have school always. I am sure it isn't intentional because my work schedule changes alot and I do not have a set work schedule but she always manages to text me when I am working or at school. I am sure she is getting irritated it seems I am always busy but that is not intentional! It just happens and with the holidays and all I am even working more because they need people to work more for the holidays. I am 21 years old and she is 25. I play Chess with her on my mobile ( we both like chess) and she usually plays me but hasn't played with me since Friday ( when she was rude) and I know for a fact she is still playing Chess because I can see when she last played and is not playing chess with me because apparently she is sulking over something I cannot help like my education. It is funny how she is a whiz at chess but when it comes to day to day life or our relationship she is clueless. Edited December 6, 2011 by Randybrandt
lululucy Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Phone her with days that you know you're free and ask her to do something on one (or all) of them. I'm sure she just feels like she's at the end of your priority list and she isn't being clear about saying that to you. Honestly, I bet she is more upset than anything else at this point.
Author Randybrandt Posted December 6, 2011 Author Posted December 6, 2011 She never ever likes to plan things ever. I have actually said would you like to do this on this date since you are off and I am off and it never ever works she hates planning things in advance ever. She just does last minute stuff and I will tell her when I go to school and she somehow forgets and then gets upset when I am at school or work. It is like I can never win:rolleyes:
Soxfaninfl Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 First off I wanted to say I am not a troll thank you..... I found this forum through a mate of mine and I decided to check it out and get some advice in return. My girlfriend and I have been dating 6 months yes we have had our ups and downs but lately it has been more downs. Friday evening my girlfriend texts me on my mobile when I am in school apparently she can never remember when I am in school. Anyways..... She said Randy are you doing anything?? I said I am in school did you forget again lol?? She didn't text me until hours later saying I forgot you where in school so nevermind I was going to ask if you wanted to go to the movies but again nevermind. I get out of class and ask her want to just hang out tonight and she goes TTYL. I was a little upset because I wasn't rude when she asked me what I was doing I even made a joke about it since we joke all the time but when I ask her a simple question like would you like to hang out she doesn't even give me a answer she just says TTYL. She hasn't even spoken to me since Friday! I would text her but to be honest I am upset she didn't even say no thanks or sorry I have plans she just said TTYL like I was bothering her or something. What should I do in this situation?? Should I text her or wait for her to text me? My mates say leave her alone and wait for her to text me but my flatmate says text her. I could use more opinions:) How old are both of you?
Author Randybrandt Posted December 6, 2011 Author Posted December 6, 2011 I am 21 she is 25. I would text her or even call her but her attitude towards me when I was trying to be nice is uncalled for so yes I am a wee bit upset. I mean for someone who wants to talk to me later she sure is not making any attempts.
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