Queen Zenobia Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 On anything dating related really. Different types of people, different situations, age groups, etc.? Before I came to LS, I never really knew there were so many guys in their 20s and beyond who hadn't really dated all that much (or ever). My fiance was such a guy when I met him, but I thought he was a real rarity. I also never realized that there were guys who were self conscious about height and race. Height especially never stood out to me as a big deal, but I guess to some people it is. So anyone else have previously held beliefs about dating challenged after coming to Loveshack?
Wolf18 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 You didn't know that the majority of women, atleast in the Anglosphere, have a strong preference for males 6 feet and taller? You didn't know that east Asian males in America are pretty invisible, even to their own Americanized kinswomen ? That's like me saying I'm shocked at all the posts about women chasing rich and outrageously attractive males and getting cheated on here.
verhrzn Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I have gained some new perspectives, but I'm not sure they're entirely positive ones. If anything, I wonder a lot if this board has made me more cynical. Before coming to this board, I felt a kind of kinship with guys who were having hard times in dating, thinking that if a guy was single it was due largely to the fact that he hadn't found a woman who could really appreciate him, and he just needed a nudge in the right direction of where to meet good girls. Now, though, I look sideways at longtime single guys, and wonder if they're that way because they're players who use and dump women as revenge for their years of rejections, or men who see me as both the enemy and someone to be ignored, even though I've had just as many rejections and been just as hard-up as they've been.
Author Queen Zenobia Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 You didn't know that the majority of women, atleast in the Anglosphere, have a strong preference for males 6 feet and taller? You didn't know that east Asian males in America are pretty invisible, even to their own Americanized kinswomen ? That's like me saying I'm shocked at all the posts about women chasing rich and outrageously attractive males and getting cheated on here. No. Not to the extent that I see on here. I know some very nice, attractive women who are dating men shorter than 6 feet tall. And, I personally find Asian men attractive, even dated an Asian man for a while who broke up with me.
Wolf18 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Oh yeah verzhn, you must be really cynical at all the compliments we shower upon you. I'll bet anything that your PM box is full of horny guys who want to meet you
Wolf18 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 No. Not to the extent that I see on here. I know some very nice, attractive women who are dating men shorter than 6 feet tall. And, I personally find Asian men attractive, even dated an Asian man for a while who broke up with me. Some individual examples that break from the standard don't mean that it isn't a lot harder for a guy under 5'10 or who is oriental to date. I'm of european descent but live in an area that is 99% asian, and while I am not interested in dating Asian women for a variety of reasons, even I get offended at the type of mouth breathing pear shaped old white guy fetishists some of the Asian girls here would rather date over a fellow Asian.
verhrzn Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Oh yeah verzhn, you must be really cynical at all the compliments we shower upon you. I'll bet anything that your PM box is full of horny guys who want to meet you Thanks for proving my point that guys exactly like me only see me as the enemy, that I MUST be lying about what difficulties I face. When exactly will you be satisfied that I'm just as down-on-my-luck as some guys here? Ya know what my inbox contains... yes, messages from a few helpful guys, but all of them in relationships and NOT wanting to meet me, because they're honest guys who are loyal to their wonderful girlfriends. And in the six months I've been posting here, I can count the number of them using less than one hand.
freestyle Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Well...I've been in a relationship for years, so it doesn't apply to dating for me. I'd say that reading/posting here has expanded my awareness---I used to think I was really open minded---and now, I realize there were times that I wasn't seeing much further than the end of my own nose. I'm more willing to see a guy's point of view, and can understand where a lot of men are coming from (at times, anyways) So, that's a good thing. On the downside, I think I am a bit more cynical than I used to be. A man I dated years ago once said this to me...' "At best, human relationships are like porcupines trying to huddle for heat.You can only get so close, and with one false move, the spikes will come out...." I didn't understand it very well at the time (I was 23) but it makes sense to me now.
futuregopher Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Some individual examples that break from the standard don't mean that it isn't a lot harder for a guy under 5'10 or who is oriental to date. I'm of european descent but live in an area that is 99% asian, and while I am not interested in dating Asian women for a variety of reasons, even I get offended at the type of mouth breathing pear shaped old white guy fetishists some of the Asian girls here would rather date over a fellow Asian. Hey Wolf, do you mind disclosing what area you live in? I certainly wouldn't mind living in an area with 99% asians. I mean, eventually, the chances would be in my favor right? hahahaha
joystickd Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Thanks for proving my point that guys exactly like me only see me as the enemy, that I MUST be lying about what difficulties I face. When exactly will you be satisfied that I'm just as down-on-my-luck as some guys here? Ya know what my inbox contains... yes, messages from a few helpful guys, but all of them in relationships and NOT wanting to meet me, because they're honest guys who are loyal to their wonderful girlfriends. And in the six months I've been posting here, I can count the number of them using less than one hand. I would be an exception.
Wolf18 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Thanks for proving my point that guys exactly like me only see me as the enemy, that I MUST be lying about what difficulties I face. When exactly will you be satisfied that I'm just as down-on-my-luck as some guys here? Ya know what my inbox contains... yes, messages from a few helpful guys, but all of them in relationships and NOT wanting to meet me, because they're honest guys who are loyal to their wonderful girlfriends. And in the six months I've been posting here, I can count the number of them using less than one hand. Hey I already told you if you're really that desperate you can come to where I live and I'll bang the bejesus out of you. Then you can go out on a date with my friend seb whose a virgin IT guy after, he would love you. It's a situation where everyone wins but you don't want to take my help so I don't feel sorry for you. Hey Wolf, do you mind disclosing what area you live in? I certainly wouldn't mind living in an area with 99% asians. I mean, eventually, the chances would be in my favor right? hahahaha [/Quote] Are you Chinese or Korean? Its an area with a huge Korean population, knowing the language would help you greatly since many of the girls here are young and recent immigrants. The odds are heavily in your favor because they are Asian like you and also they have not been Americanized (yet). Worst case scenario, you can come and enjoy a "massage" in one of my towns many Parlors Haven't been to one yet, but they get good reviews and the guys advertise really aggressively. I'll pm you the area.
ShannonMI Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Hey I already told you if you're really that desperate you can come to where I live and I'll bang the bejesus out of you. Then you can go out on a date with my friend seb whose a virgin IT guy after, he would love you. It's a situation where everyone wins but you don't want to take my help so I don't feel sorry for you. Are you Chinese or Korean? Its an area with a huge Korean population, knowing the language would help you greatly since many of the girls here are young and recent immigrants. The odds are heavily in your favor because they are Asian like you and also they have not been Americanized (yet). Worst case scenario, you can come and enjoy a "massage" in one of my towns many Parlors Haven't been to one yet, but they get good reviews and the guys advertise really aggressively. I'll pm you the area. Hahahahahahahaha you're not banging the beJesus outta anyone on LS but me Wolfie:lmao::lmao:
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 I came here for heartbreak, that's how I found the forum...thinking it was somewhat of a rare circle of people (I know I know, first time for me so it's a big deal). As far as the dating scene and all of that, I'm pretty knowledgeable so I didn't come here looking for advice than to express pain since I'm the blogger type. I find it interesting though as I read through forums how much people aren't aware of or don't know, it makes me feel like I have a wealth of insight to things so I try responding to much of it even as its just out of interest. Plus it's quite cynical and depressing unfortunately lol, but overall It seems like a good website with a diverse group of people from a lot of different backgrounds which is why I've stuck around so far (about a week)
ThaWholigan Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Not really, I've lurked on and off for years before getting this account, I can honestly say that all my dating perspectives have been formed out of my own unbiased analysis. I have realised one thing though in all my time posting on forums: I am a lot better looking than I gave myself credit lol
Nexus One Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 It has. Not only have I learned from this forum, but also from self-reflecting and just plainly trying to apply common sense to the many recurring issues you see resurfacing on this forum from time to time. I've also changed my standpoint and view regarding several topics. I stumbled upon this forum by complete accident. In December 2010 I got a strong desire to find an SO for life. Then in January I was reading some website and someone on that website made a comment about Loveshack and posted a link. I would have NEVER clicked on a link like that had I not been under the spell of that feeling. Note that I was the kind of guy that walked out of a room when there was a romantic movie on, because I found it boring as f*ck. So let alone I would start hanging out on a love forum talking about love. My pre-loveshack self would have never believed it. Yet here I am.
Wolf18 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Hahahahahahahaha you're not banging the beJesus outta anyone on LS but me Wolfie:lmao::lmao: How selfish of you! You've got to pee on me before even thinking about getting territorial .
ShannonMI Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 How selfish of you! You've got to pee on me before even thinking about getting territorial . Oh you like the golden shower? You are a dirty, dirty little boy Wolfie, but I like it.
verhrzn Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Hey I already told you if you're really that desperate you can come to where I live and I'll bang the bejesus out of you. Then you can go out on a date with my friend seb whose a virgin IT guy after, he would love you. It's a situation where everyone wins but you don't want to take my help so I don't feel sorry for you. How is telling me to fly halfway across the country so two desperate guys will bang me "helping" me??
ShannonMI Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 How is telling me to fly halfway across the country so two desperate guys will bang me "helping" me?? Oh lighten up girl. Sometimes a good pummeling helps.
futuregopher Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Oh you like the golden shower? You are a dirty, dirty little boy Wolfie, but I like it. Jeez, SO much PDA. When are you guys going to bang already? There is so much of this tension taking over LS!!! haha But I am Chinese. Everything where you live sounds great but I am trying to find a chinese version of where you live hahaha. I'm going to try Chinatown in Manhattan and maybe Chinatown in Flushing lol.
ShannonMI Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Jeez, SO much PDA. When are you guys going to bang already? There is so much of this tension taking over LS!!! haha But I am Chinese. Everything where you live sounds great but I am trying to find a chinese version of where you live hahaha. I'm going to try Chinatown in Manhattan and maybe Chinatown in Flushing lol. Right?? I know you could cut that sh*t with a knife. I heart Wolfie in a big way though. He's a good dude.
Wolf18 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 How is telling me to fly halfway across the country so two desperate guys will bang me "helping" me?? Um, I got a B- in a 300 level psychology class last semester i know what I'm talking about. Oh you like the golden shower? You are a dirty, dirty little boy Wolfie, but I like it. [/Quote] If I'm wearing a bonnet and diapers and you step on my genitals in heels while doing it, even better. .
TheBigQuestion Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Not really, I've lurked on and off for years before getting this account, I can honestly say that all my dating perspectives have been formed out of my own unbiased analysis. I have realised one thing though in all my time posting on forums: I am a lot better looking than I gave myself credit lol Same here. I posted a picture here in a pictures thread a long while back and apparently I am one good looking cat. Posting here hasn't really changed my perspective on dating and relationships, but it has reinforced and helped to expand many beliefs about dating that I've developed over the years.
ShannonMI Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Um, I got a B- in a 300 level psychology class last semester i know what I'm talking about. If I'm wearing a bonnet and diapers and you step on my genitals in heels while doing it, even better. . Hahahahahahahahahaha oh I have some sexy, black patent leather stilettos that would do the trick. You make me laugh soooooooooo hard:lmao::lmao:
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