Author fortyninethousand322 Posted December 6, 2011 Author Posted December 6, 2011 But she's not really a friend of yours. You haven't even seen each other in awhile, it sounds like. She's not going to be very motivated to make plans with a guy she's been chatting to online for 3 years. Especially if she already has a lot of friends and an active social life. She probably thinks you have a crush on her (since you seem to be asking her out on a date) and she doesn't want to lead you on. Maybe she would have been more receptive if you invited her out as part of a group. Like "I'm going to a concert with a bunch of friends, you want to come?" Then it doesn't seem like a date. Really? I've always had problems getting women that I knew (in a friendly manner) to ever hang out with me and my friends. I think some of them felt that if they went with me it made it seem like we were a couple or something. It's always been far easier to get women to hang out one on one than with a big group. I probably just creep women out in general. Oh well...
ThaWholigan Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Really? I've always had problems getting women that I knew (in a friendly manner) to ever hang out with me and my friends. I think some of them felt that if they went with me it made it seem like we were a couple or something. It's always been far easier to get women to hang out one on one than with a big group. I probably just creep women out in general. Oh well... The creep element. I've experienced this before, and it isn't a nice feeling. One of the odd things about my autistic experience is that I don't lack empathy, and I have developed myself enough to be able to read a social situation quite accurately, and I can see how I come across as creepy sometimes: When you're not relaxed, it shows, and women in turn will also not become relaxed (bare in mind, this is real life). There's a way to talk to people too that puts them at ease, as I have observed, and it took me a long time before I began to get better at it, and I'm still not as good as I want to be. As I said, develop yourself to become who you want to become, social skills and all. I'd even look into reading some PUA, the books might be a little amoral, but often they have lots of great information on how to talk to women effectively (without manipulating them, believe it or not)
Dust Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 It's been years of course it had good chance of failing. Let me explain something to you. All you have to do is try. Yes trying is hard. Heck its hard just to get up the force to go and do your online banking some times. The thing is if you just do it... it will get done. Heres what you do. You go and shamelessly flirt with some chick the way you always wanted to. Then you ask her to suck your dick. Serioulsy make sure she is hott and has a pair of DSL (dick sucking lips) (you know the sexy lips hot girls have)!!! Just do it. Will it work. Probably not. Will it make you cool. Yes, it most certainly damn well will. Enough of your lame stories. I want to hear a story of how you tried! TRIED! I mean really fricken tried. A girl says her name is "Lisa" you ask if her last name is "Simpson" She says "no" you keep going you ask if she has a sister "maggie" and a brother "Bart." You makes jokes. Then you go in for the kill. "I'd really like to see you again" and you look her up and down and you let her know her see you looking her up and down damit. You take her out for something good to eat and then you have her for desert.
gaius Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 (edited) Why would a girl waste time hanging out with a guy who doesn't want to sleep with her?? It's like going to a restaurant that has no food, it makes no sense unless she has horrible self esteem. Edited December 6, 2011 by gaius
grkBoy Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 I guess I just expect people to act like me and my friends did when we were 19. I know dude. The late teens and your 20s will be a strange time as many transition from adolescence to adulthood. I always see this happen. It happened with me and now I see it happening to younger friends. People reach their mid to late 20s and they find they're losing some or most of their friends. Usual case is that they want to "grow up" and settle down in life while the friends still act like crazy teenagers/early 20somethings. So the friends get angry because the one person now is more a homebody with their SO, or they won't go out clubbing all the time now. Worse is when the friends are still working crappy jobs and spending their money on junk while the one person is now thinking longer term. Just take people at face value. Don't believe everyone will or should carry themselves as you do. Walk when you see this person wants to be a kid while you want to be an adult.
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