amythan Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 At the beginning it was confusing, now it is getting annoying ... This guy and i went out a couple of times and we slept together. I wouldn't say we are friends so there is no need to keep in touch beyond a fwb/dating scenario. We text each other from time to time and he always says things like let's go out this week and things like that but this never happens. Of course I realise that if he was that interested he would come with a precise date but he never follows up. So I just moved on. But of course last week, in a very childish way, he invited me to a party but i could not make it because i was traveling. Today again we exchange two texts and he said let's meet up this we if we are both around ... I didn't reply. Why is he doing it again? There is no need, i didn't ask to go out and it is getting annoying ... I do not know if i should reply with a precise plan or delete his number.
Coil Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I think that he wants to "hit it again" / possibly wants to date you. Sounds like he has very little experience. You might need to be a little bit more aggressive if you are interested in him.
Author amythan Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 Dunno .. he does not seem shy or inexperienced. Just a bit childish. Sometimes it is difficult to say if people are just too polite or if they mean their words. With this guy i am lost. He replies right away, always says that he would love to see me and blah blah but acts do not really follow his words. And I do not want to put him in an uncomfortable situation if he does not want to go out with me ..
FitChick Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Just text him "Thank you for your interest but we are not a good match. Good luck on your search!"
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 He's just using you for a booty call and when you're available for him. He makes plans with you but then decides he has something else or someone else to do that's better. I don't think he deserves the nice response that FitChick recommends because I think it's obvious to me that he's just playing you. He doesn't want to date you or eventually have a relationship, you're just his backup option in case the other things don't follow through. So don't waste your time unless you enjoy being used, up to you.
LostInTurn Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 It's never easy detecting what someone truly means. However, if he can't make a commitment to seeing you, that tells me he wouldn't be able to make one in the future. If it did work out between the two of you, there is too much question and I don't think he'd be reliable. The person you're with should be so interested and excited about getting to know you that nothing stands in their way of seeing you and following through. Also, as difficult as it may be. Don't sleep with someone after only seeing them a few times. It gives the wrong message all the way around, no matter your intentions. Waiting is never a bad thing. It only helps your case.
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