stunned8165 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 My story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302201/ Well I come to work, and the Ex Gf's , girlfriends, husband who works here told me he called me last night to ask me if I had a zanex for his wife before she gets on a plane. I don't mess with that crap. Never have never will. Altough my ex always kept her prescription in her purse along with vicodin. .. But he proceeded to tell me that his wife called my ex and didn't have any with her, they were supposedly at her house and at the time they called my ex, she was at her new boyfriends house. The jerk she left me for. This was Sunday evening. .. Then of coarse the my ex never responded back to her friend... But this just bring up issues during our relationship. I laways knew something was going on between her and her boss. And she used to feed me and her mom this bull crap the he wasn't her type. Lies lies lies. Why couldn't she just come clean. I knew that llittle jerk was toying with her for months. . 6 months now and I'm still pissed off about the lies and deciept. And how can she just yank her kids from the only dad they know (me) and put her new relationship with him in their faces. They were in a stable home, happy, and they were yanked from there, to their new place, but only to go back and forth to the new guys house all the time. How can that possibly be a lasting relationship down the road. Dating your boss? Working together and trying to have a life together? What about the mass comfusion those kids must be experiencing. What the hell is wrong with people. This thing with him won't last. I know it won't. ... So frustrated. So hurt. So confused. No real reason why she left. Does she really think the grass is going to be greener over there? She hasn't even had time alone for resolve from our relationship. How is this possibe?
shayla Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I'd be pissed that this guy felt the need to tell you all that crap to begin with. And I'd let him know it. Well, not about being pissed, but let him know that the ex is no longer your problem, and whatever she is doing you don't care about. If that doesn't shut him up about it, then I'd be done talking to him at all. Hearing junk like this can set you back and who needs that?
Author stunned8165 Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 Stunned how many more of these posts are going to post? Its 6 months and you havent moved on at all. Your obsession (and that is what it is) is not healthy. Since you wont spend the money on therapy, why dont you buy the book "How to break an addiction to a person". Great book that should help. We all go through tough times, its how we respond to those tough times which determines what kind of life we end up living. I visit a childrens sick ward alot (I volunteer there) for terminally ill kids. Just spend one day a week volunteering (can be anything, many worthy causes) and realise just how lucky you actually are. Now I already know you response (you are right blah blah blah) and then another post in 7 days after the smallest setback. More great advice from LS users and another post in 14 days after more great advice and another setback. It's like a endless vicious cycle that you have to back free from. "Get busy living, or get busy dieing". The choice is yours. Those kids I visit will never have the choices you have. Don't throw you life away over someone like this.. I do what i can. Trust me. I even got involved in a toy run yesterday. But the pain is still lingering. The pain of the lies and deciept and the knowledge of knowing I was correct with my gut intinct that something was going on with them. That hurts a lot to besides losing the kids. I know she insn't worth the energy. I see all the logic. But the emotions is what still gets me. Now keep in mind, it was LC for 4 months that rpobablt kept me from moving on sooner. But it has been strict NC for almost 8 weeks now and it was helping until I had to hear this crap this morning. It just stirred up emmotions of being cheated on and lied to while I was home baby sitting HER kids. No wonder she was so angry with herself. She hated herself. It's obvious. .. I know I'm rambling but I'm upset. This just isn't right. And you know something else, the more I hear, I realize it's the reseraunt atmosphere and drugs that ruined everything. I guess she really needs to hit rock bottom before she wakes up.
Author stunned8165 Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 P.S. And I'm going to post as many times as I need to to vent. That's why we are here. Isn't it? Id it bothers someone how many times someone posts when going through something like this, then don't read it. No offense
Author stunned8165 Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 Constant reminders that surround me a work everyday doesn't help. Niether do the holidays. What makes this so difficult for me is the love I have for her kids. I appreciate everyones input, but unless you totally undertsnad my case, you will never understand what I'm feeling. .......... I'm just so exsausted from it all. All the thoughts, constant thoughts in my head too. And I'm exsausted from trying to stay busy, work out, refocus my thoughts, going here, going there. If these kids weren't involved, it would have been a cake walk. It's not the first time I have been dumped. And of coarse, the other two who dumped me wanted back in my life at some point. But this is the first time I was cheated on. Left for another man. But in that prcoess, I lost three. Her and the kids. That's a huge huge blow.
Recommended Posts