cdm369 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Just wondering everyones opinion of texting or pm on facebook with the opposite sex when married or in a committed relationship. Any thoughts?
HeavenOrHell Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Being in a committed r/ship doesn't mean you can never communicate with the opposite sex again. I text, and talk to my male friends, my partner does the same with his female friends. It's only a problem if you can't trust them, or you feel insecure with them. Just wondering everyones opinion of texting or pm on facebook with the opposite sex when married or in a committed relationship. Any thoughts?
ditzchic Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I think it's unique to every couple. And every friendship. Personally, I don't have a lot of male friends. I have a few that I keep in occasional touch with but none that I actually spend considerable amounts of time with. When I am dating someone, I stay completely away from the opposite sex. Especially if there is any kind of history there or if I have even the slightest inkling that they may be looking for something more than a few pleasantries. When I am with someone I like I really REALLY don't want even the smallest chance drama from other men. I prefer the men I date keep some kind of similar philosophy but I understand not everyone is going to see it the way I do. If there is a mutual trust and respect between us I see no problem with my SO talking with opposite sex platonic friends who they have no sexual or romantic history with. I'm cool with them keeping in occasional touch with exes as well. But if they are spending a majority of their time hanging out with other girls or have never fully cut the ties with an ex, that's a problem for me. If it bothers you, talk to him about it and hammer out where you both stand.
Author cdm369 Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 My girl posted a new profile pic....nothing bad....she was sent a private message that said...you are very beautiful.....she responded ....thank you. I was happy with her response but the comment should have been posted in public. Private indicates a play and it annoys me that her knowing that she should have told him not to pm her.
ditzchic Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 My girl posted a new profile pic....nothing bad....she was sent a private message that said...you are very beautiful.....she responded ....thank you. I was happy with her response but the comment should have been posted in public. Private indicates a play and it annoys me that her knowing that she should have told him not to pm her. Have you talked to her about it?
Author cdm369 Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 Yes I did...she can't understand why it bothers me. I told her I felt like it may give him the impression there was a door open there for him because of the way she handled it. Or didn't handle it. I don't accept pm from females out of respect and if I get one I let her know and let the other person know not to do that.
HeavenOrHell Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 She's nothing to hide seeing as she told you about this PM, she didn't need to mention it at all, so she's being upfront with you. She was just being polite with him probably, it would be over the top to tell him not to PM her, if it's just a one off he sent, if he kept messaging her to say how beautiful she is, then that would be a different matter. It sounds extreme to not accept PM's from the opposite sex. Should we all just stop interacting with the opposite sex once we've got a partner? Yes I did...she can't understand why it bothers me. I told her I felt like it may give him the impression there was a door open there for him because of the way she handled it. Or didn't handle it. I don't accept pm from females out of respect and if I get one I let her know and let the other person know not to do that.
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