sleepykitten Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Ok, brief run through-mat a guy in a pub had a brief chat, i was with friends so didnt stay with him long. He called me the next day, we went out a few days later for a drink. I went away for 5 days, he text a couple of times, one saying he missed me which was wierd as he didnt even know me but he did say that too. He asked to see me on the fri when i returned but then said when i got back he was working could we meet after his work on saturday at 11pm! I said ok, was out with a friend, but then he called and cancelled said he was ill at 1030 pm. We arranged it for the following day at 7pm, he called in the morning and changed it to 5pm and had to leave for work at 8pm! So-pretty unreliable, he rarely texted, always phoned. But appeared very keen with what he said, ie, referred to me a "girlfriend" on 2 occasions, said things like "i can see myself totally falling in love with you", and other stuff like that. I hadnt slept with him, and he had bought me a clothes rail, which as he then dissapeared i find odd. Wed night he picked me up on his insistance from a work meal, drove me home-brought in clothes rail, bit of kissing i had to fight him off a bit mind you! last text to me was "goodnight princess, cant wait to see you again." we had arranged to see each other sat, i called thurs afternoon, nice chat, he said he would call later regarding plans for saturday day. I never heard from him again! So, i am not devestated as i didnt really get to know this guy, but can anyone shed any light on this as i hate not knowing!! I am thinking he had a girlfriend, or maybe he just wanted a shag but didnt get it. Any comments or insights would be appriciated! p.s- i havent done the mental bunny boiler thing, i text once asking him to call me, and if he didnt want to see me again thats fine but a reason would be appriciated and could he please just man up and do the right thing!
Author sleepykitten Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 Anyone, would be good to get any views on this??
ditzchic Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Guys who move that quick and lay it on so thick tend to be like that with every female they meet and hit it off with. Chances are he met someone else to latch on to. Don't be upset about it. You dodged a bullet here.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Ok, brief run through-mat a guy in a pub had a brief chat, i was with friends so didnt stay with him long. He called me the next day, we went out a few days later for a drink. I went away for 5 days, he text a couple of times, one saying he missed me which was wierd as he didnt even know me but he did say that too. He asked to see me on the fri when i returned but then said when i got back he was working could we meet after his work on saturday at 11pm! I said ok, was out with a friend, but then he called and cancelled said he was ill at 1030 pm. We arranged it for the following day at 7pm, he called in the morning and changed it to 5pm and had to leave for work at 8pm! So-pretty unreliable, he rarely texted, always phoned. But appeared very keen with what he said, ie, referred to me a "girlfriend" on 2 occasions, said things like "i can see myself totally falling in love with you", and other stuff like that. I hadnt slept with him, and he had bought me a clothes rail, which as he then dissapeared i find odd. Wed night he picked me up on his insistance from a work meal, drove me home-brought in clothes rail, bit of kissing i had to fight him off a bit mind you! last text to me was "goodnight princess, cant wait to see you again." we had arranged to see each other sat, i called thurs afternoon, nice chat, he said he would call later regarding plans for saturday day. I never heard from him again! So, i am not devestated as i didnt really get to know this guy, but can anyone shed any light on this as i hate not knowing!! I am thinking he had a girlfriend, or maybe he just wanted a shag but didnt get it. Any comments or insights would be appriciated! p.s- i havent done the mental bunny boiler thing, i text once asking him to call me, and if he didnt want to see me again thats fine but a reason would be appriciated and could he please just man up and do the right thing! I would say that he's not entirely interested in you. Reliability should be number one in a man. It's one thing not making plans because you are busy, but another thing when you make plans and either cancel all the time or don't hear from the guy. If he's playing the "i'm busy got a life" game then he failed. Seriously you really want a guy that says "I can see really falling in love with you" and "princess" so soon? It just means he says it so often that it quite possibly lost all meaning to him. Either he's got no game, or he's not interested in you that much. Either way, not a victory for you. Move on. How old is he btw?
dasein Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Be wary of guys who start in with the "could fall in love with you" talk right off the bat, and other similar things, they tend to be using those stale "princess" lines on lots of women at the same time. Amazed that women fall for this, glad for you that you didn't fall for it. Wouldn't be surprised to see him resurface a week or two down the road singing the same tunes. Avoid.
mtber75 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Not only is he terribly unreliable. But I is very clingy/needy! I mean who said stuff like girlfriend and in love when he don't really know you? My advise is to not call him and ignore his calls. Unless you like this type of a behavior in a man. I highly doubts that he has a girlfriend if he's this needy! He probably does want to have sex with you or any female that gives him a remote chance!
Feelin Frisky Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 My male perspective is that similar to most others so far. I don't want to down the guy and tell you to move on so I'll just hum a few bars and you can guess the song. mmmm mmmm mmm mm mm m duh dum dum dum:)
Author sleepykitten Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 Thanks guys, appriciate the time and input. Pizzaman81, he's 33. I will definatly avoid if he does ever call again, but i dont think he will. I do think I had a narrow escape though, wierd behaviour. He made out he was a decent guy! But busy, 3 jobs etc. Even when he was saying all the "keen" stuff i did feel something wasnt quite right....instincts! Should trust them.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Starts fast, ends fast. Yeah I'd agree someone who has a more consistent pace and doesn't jump the gun is a more reliable interest. I wouldn't trust much of what is said in the beginning. However with myself, I usually start extremely intense and strong, but It doesn't just die out like that for no reason for me, but then again some may say that I am not the most reliable people to date!
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