singlelife Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 What's the deal with these chicks changing their mind and being hot and cold. I would think a girl isn't interested. But it seems sometimes they are. Can anybody explain this behavior.
WhiteChocolate Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Hm....many explanations? Maybe she is just being friendly, then when you showed too much interest she didn't want to lead you on and decided to turn cold. Or maybe she is interested, but doesn't want to seem TOO interested, and wants you to do the pursuing. Guys do this too sometimes.
grkBoy Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 What's the deal with these chicks changing their mind and being hot and cold. I would think a girl isn't interested. But it seems sometimes they are. Can anybody explain this behavior. I believe in many cases, it's the man who took her friendly behavior as interest, when she was just being friendly. In some cases, it's the girl not knowing how to be friendly versus flirty. Had women flirt like crazy with me, but when I asked them out they went cold and ran. The rest of the cases are just girls being flakey and wishy-washy. One moment she thinks you're incredible, the next she's into someone else and you've been friendzoned. The biggest problem is how many men allow bad behavior to happen because she's probably hot.
mo mo Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 ~sigh~ I remember the days of dealing with these situations. From what I have seen, these "women" are playing a game of manipulation. If you really want to pursue them, you ought to play the game too, except, you need to be the one doing the manipulating if you want to get anything out of it. Extremely attractive "women" that do this kind of stuff run away from guys they have real feelings for because they are just looking to "do their thing". You could either play along or look elsewhere.
phineas Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 ~sigh~ I remember the days of dealing with these situations. From what I have seen, these "women" are playing a game of manipulation. If you really want to pursue them, you ought to play the game too, except, you need to be the one doing the manipulating if you want to get anything out of it. Extremely attractive "women" that do this kind of stuff run away from guys they have real feelings for because they are just looking to "do their thing". You could either play along or look elsewhere. Pretty much this. untill a woman actually shows I just assume she's a tease / game player. I'm never disapointed & sometimes pleasently surprised. I've had women ask me out then flake last min. and afterword they act like it never happened & if I try to pursue they act like they never asked me out or even know me. Then do it again a month later. So I learned these women are good for sex only & never relationship material so when they pull this type of stunt you freeze them out. At my age, they must be running out of men to manipulate because they ALWAYS circle around. Whether it's 6 months to a yr, I will get a phone call from them. I let it go to VM & if they don't leave a message I assume it must not of been important & don't call back. LOL!
mo mo Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Pretty much this. untill a woman actually shows I just assume she's a tease / game player. I'm never disapointed & sometimes pleasently surprised. I've had women ask me out then flake last min. and afterword they act like it never happened & if I try to pursue they act like they never asked me out or even know me. Then do it again a month later. So I learned these women are good for sex only & never relationship material so when they pull this type of stunt you freeze them out. At my age, they must be running out of men to manipulate because they ALWAYS circle around. Whether it's 6 months to a yr, I will get a phone call from them. I let it go to VM & if they don't leave a message I assume it must not of been important & don't call back. LOL! Agree 100% with the bolded. Trying to get one of these women to settle down and appreciate a good guy is the equivalent of taming a "bad boy"-- it's possible, but more often than not, not worth the trouble.
phineas Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Agree 100% with the bolded. Trying to get one of these women to settle down and appreciate a good guy is the equivalent of taming a "bad boy"-- it's possible, but more often than not, not worth the trouble. When I was heavier, women pulled this crap on me quite a bit. 55lbs later, not so much. I hardly ever meet women that try to waste my time. These days they just don't return the ONE VM I leave them before I forget about them. I had one flake on me last min. She was supposed to be on her way to my house for a movie when she sent the txt that she was "sick" and had been sleeping all day. I didn't bother responding. Later that week I was out & ran into her. She was with her BF. LOL!
monkey00 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Either these women have mental issues or just like to play this hot and cold to see how persistent the guy is in chasing them. Either way these games are dumb and any guy with the right mind would drop her at the first sign of it. Maybe it's just me but I noticed younger women tend to do this, it could be the lack of maturity? Or it's just for the ego boost. A few years ago I met this girl once on a speed date and it took a couple weeks of on/off contact to actually get her to come out for a date. Eventually when we did meet and I got to know her better, I had completely lost interest. There was no second date.
phineas Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Either these women have mental issues or just like to play this hot and cold to see how persistent the guy is in chasing them. Either way these games are dumb and any guy with the right mind would drop her at the first sign of it. Maybe it's just me but I noticed younger women tend to do this, it could be the lack of maturity? Or it's just for the ego boost. A few years ago I met this girl once on a speed date and it took a couple weeks of on/off contact to actually get her to come out for a date. Eventually when we did meet and I got to know her better, I had completely lost interest. There was no second date. Sadly I met a number of women almost 40 playing these games. So did my friend divorced my age also. another commonality, they all have a LOT of guy friends I was really shocked women this age acted like that & it did take me a few before I learned how to deal with them.
KathyM Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 I think it's an ego thing. Some women want to feed their ego at the expense of some poor shmuck. They'll put the bait out there to see if they can hook a guy, and as soon as he bites, they'll throw him back. She never really wanted the guy, she just wanted to attract him in order to feed her ego so that she can then have the pleasure of rejecting him. I know a woman who used to do this. It's pathetic, but some women have such a need for attention that they'll do this without regard for how it makes a guy feel.
rosejovovich Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 that is why they are called women. most of women always do that
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