nikkiej Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Back right before Halloween, I met this guy at a bar, and we clicked. In the next 2 weeks that followed, I saw him a few more times and we hooked up once. After we hooked up, we continued to talk, but then it kind of seemed to fizzle out. After 2 weeks of not talking, he texted me and we had a brief conversation and then back to no contact. Then this past Wednesday, I saw him on campus, and he texted me after saying it was so nice to see me, and how he hopes to see me again soon. Do you think this guy just wants to hookup again and is trying to keep me around kinda? Maybe waiting for me to make a move? Or just trying to be flat out friends? I just can't really read this guy, and I was hoping for some input.
ShannonMI Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 (edited) Back right before Halloween, I met this guy at a bar, and we clicked. In the next 2 weeks that followed, I saw him a few more times and we hooked up once. After we hooked up, we continued to talk, but then it kind of seemed to fizzle out. After 2 weeks of not talking, he texted me and we had a brief conversation and then back to no contact. Then this past Wednesday, I saw him on campus, and he texted me after saying it was so nice to see me, and how he hopes to see me again soon. Do you think this guy just wants to hookup again and is trying to keep me around kinda? Maybe waiting for me to make a move? Or just trying to be flat out friends? I just can't really read this guy, and I was hoping for some input. Well he got what he wanted. Got into your pants, so now he doesn't have to pursue you anymore, really. He may want to keep you around for a bootie call. Doesn't sound like he wants a relationship though if he's not actively pursing you. Do you want a relationship with him or are you satisfied with just being a bootie call for him? Edited December 5, 2011 by ShannonMI
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 He most likely fancies the idea of 'hooking-up' with you again. If every day at noon you were to text him with just about any message, and end with "let me know when you're free to meet up soon" (or the like)... AND THEN you were to chart the times of day when he messages you unprovoked, you might be able to tell from that exercise just what he wants. (when he texts after midnight... well... you know...)
Dust Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Well he got what he wanted. Got into your pants, so now he doesn't have to pursue you anymore, really. He may want to keep you around for a bootie call. Doesn't sound like he wants a relationship though if he's not actively pursing you. Do you want a relationship with him or are you satisfied with just being a bootie call for him? Young girls often say "we hooked up" and mean made out... Maybe he didn't get into her panties! Obviously if he is ignoring her now it can't be a good sign... still I wonder what she meant by "we hooked up?" Did they just make out, maybe he fondled her, maybe oral... or was it all out sex!!!!!!!!!!
ShannonMI Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Young girls often say "we hooked up" and mean made out... Maybe he didn't get into her panties! Obviously if he is ignoring her now it can't be a good sign... still I wonder what she meant by "we hooked up?" Did they just make out, maybe he fondled her, maybe oral... or was it all out sex!!!!!!!!!! I don't know. In my book, hooking up is sex. Maybe it's not what OP meant. He's not ignoring her, he's just really pursuing her anymore. That tells me she put out and he got what he wanted. No need to chase now.
phineas Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Using "hooked up" for anything other than sex is like saying you won the lottery when you really just got your money back on the scratch-off.
Author nikkiej Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 Sorry guys! I should have specified about the hooking up term. Around here everyone uses that term for making out, but i'll just say it was a little more than just making out. You get the idea. The only thing is he doesn't text me late at night when it would be perfect booty call time; it's usually during the day, and he asks me how I'm doing or how my week's been.
mitchell Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Guys are not that complex. If he really liked you and wanted a relationship, he would pursue you. Especially after having sex. His lack of effort sounds like he's just being polite and doesn't want to burn any bridges.
DeusExMachina Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Unless he is gay, I don't think he wants to be strictly friends. I can safely say he wants sex. A FWB relationship and not a committed relationship. I know during my college days I wanted no relationships and had a few FWB around so if I was unsuccessful at the club/bar/party with a one-night-stand, I would have someone to fall back on. Unless you are will to participate in a FWB relationship and can deal with him being with other women beside yourself, I suggest move on. Obviously, I'm expressing my opinion from my own experiences and from a scant amount of information. I suggest a more direct approach if you really want to know and are interested in him. Ask him what he wants and express what you are looking for. Obviously, he will feed you a line of BS if he not sincere, but he really does have honest intentions then hopefully he can be honest enough and express them to you.
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