bimmerfan Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Hey guys, I'm sure everyone around here's different, but for those of you who aren't familar with me or my issues, I went through a rough break-up like five years ago. I was planning on making my five year update after some time, but the day I actually decided to do so, the forum told me that there's like a 60 day max on follow up posts. If you're curious, you can look at the original thread here. Anyways, after five years post break-up, I have some good news, bad news and even no news. But let's first start with the positive: -I've drastically improved my grades in school (university) and I'm graduating next semester. -I'm in the best shape of my life. -I go to social gatherings pretty often (even though I'm not really into alcohol that much, and don't really enjoy talking to people) -I have friends now And then here's the negative: -I'm still single (have had flings here and there but wasn't interested) -Still lonely (but it's way more manageable these days) -Still getting passed over by women I'm interested in (even while making approaches and overtures) -Still have trouble fitting in (but that's mostly my fault since I like who I am) So that's pretty much it. Five years since a serious relationship (some would even consider it a joke since it was highschool) and I'm still having trouble finding the "spark". I've considered accepting a lifetime of singledom, but hormones keep telling me otherwise. It's a real load if you ask me, but there's really nothing I can do. I just want to not want that special someone anymore, but the moment I choose to say '"I'm done with this" it only takes a few days before I start feeling compelled to find someone again. I should also note that it's not like I can't get ANYONE, it's that I can't get the woman I WANT. I've tried seeing past what it is that I actually want by becoming friends with this one girl in hopes that maybe I'd find her more attractive as time went on. But no matter how hard I try to find her attractive, I can't get my self to like... Want her. She's got a great personality, and isn't too bad looking, but she's not what I want physically (I know, superficial much? Sorry, I have my tastes). Anyway, any tips or questions, feel free to chime in and/or pick my brain. Thanks in advance guys.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Hey guys, I'm sure everyone around here's different, but for those of you who aren't familar with me or my issues, I went through a rough break-up like five years ago. I was planning on making my five year update after some time, but the day I actually decided to do so, the forum told me that there's like a 60 day max on follow up posts. If you're curious, you can look at the original thread here. Anyways, after five years post break-up, I have some good news, bad news and even no news. But let's first start with the positive: -I've drastically improved my grades in school (university) and I'm graduating next semester. -I'm in the best shape of my life. -I go to social gatherings pretty often (even though I'm not really into alcohol that much, and don't really enjoy talking to people) -I have friends now And then here's the negative: -I'm still single (have had flings here and there but wasn't interested) -Still lonely (but it's way more manageable these days) -Still getting passed over by women I'm interested in (even while making approaches and overtures) -Still have trouble fitting in (but that's mostly my fault since I like who I am) So that's pretty much it. Five years since a serious relationship (some would even consider it a joke since it was highschool) and I'm still having trouble finding the "spark". I've considered accepting a lifetime of singledom, but hormones keep telling me otherwise. It's a real load if you ask me, but there's really nothing I can do. I just want to not want that special someone anymore, but the moment I choose to say '"I'm done with this" it only takes a few days before I start feeling compelled to find someone again. I should also note that it's not like I can't get ANYONE, it's that I can't get the woman I WANT. I've tried seeing past what it is that I actually want by becoming friends with this one girl in hopes that maybe I'd find her more attractive as time went on. But no matter how hard I try to find her attractive, I can't get my self to like... Want her. She's got a great personality, and isn't too bad looking, but she's not what I want physically (I know, superficial much? Sorry, I have my tastes). Anyway, any tips or questions, feel free to chime in and/or pick my brain. Thanks in advance guys. First off, congrats on your improvements. Those are essential in life and also essential in meeting women. I say just keep up what you are doing with those aspects. But maybe we need to analyze details. What are you into? Are you having trouble meeting people that share your same interests? What kind of friends are you usually hanging out with?
nikkiej Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I wish I had some positive input, but I'm still too young and inexperienced on life/love. I just have one question though, do you still keep in contact with your ex?
Soxfaninfl Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Hey guys, I'm sure everyone around here's different, but for those of you who aren't familar with me or my issues, I went through a rough break-up like five years ago. I was planning on making my five year update after some time, but the day I actually decided to do so, the forum told me that there's like a 60 day max on follow up posts. If you're curious, you can look at the original thread here. Anyways, after five years post break-up, I have some good news, bad news and even no news. But let's first start with the positive: -I've drastically improved my grades in school (university) and I'm graduating next semester. -I'm in the best shape of my life. -I go to social gatherings pretty often (even though I'm not really into alcohol that much, and don't really enjoy talking to people) -I have friends now And then here's the negative: -I'm still single (have had flings here and there but wasn't interested) -Still lonely (but it's way more manageable these days) -Still getting passed over by women I'm interested in (even while making approaches and overtures) -Still have trouble fitting in (but that's mostly my fault since I like who I am) So that's pretty much it. Five years since a serious relationship (some would even consider it a joke since it was highschool) and I'm still having trouble finding the "spark". I've considered accepting a lifetime of singledom, but hormones keep telling me otherwise. It's a real load if you ask me, but there's really nothing I can do. I just want to not want that special someone anymore, but the moment I choose to say '"I'm done with this" it only takes a few days before I start feeling compelled to find someone again. I should also note that it's not like I can't get ANYONE, it's that I can't get the woman I WANT. I've tried seeing past what it is that I actually want by becoming friends with this one girl in hopes that maybe I'd find her more attractive as time went on. But no matter how hard I try to find her attractive, I can't get my self to like... Want her. She's got a great personality, and isn't too bad looking, but she's not what I want physically (I know, superficial much? Sorry, I have my tastes). Anyway, any tips or questions, feel free to chime in and/or pick my brain. Thanks in advance guys. Have you tried online dating? It's easier now to meet women these days. I've found this out after being with the same women for 13 years. It's unbelievable how many dating sites are out there.
Author bimmerfan Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 Wow.. Thanks for the fast replies guys. What are you into? Are you having trouble meeting people that share your same interests? What kind of friends are you usually hanging out with? I think you hit the nail on the head with that one. I'm really different and get called weird all the time. I do have trouble meeting people with similar interests as me, since it seems that everyone in my age range likes to drink in excess and do drugs. Either that or they just don't have any self respect/diginity. Is it really that square to like, you know... Just have a cup of coffee with someone? Anyway, I recently bought a classic bike so I've been riding quite a bit (when it doesn't break down). My friend just bought a bike too so we're going to be riding to a bunch of different cafes once I sort out some of his bike's issues. I guess my biggest problem is that because I'm not much of an alcoholic or drug user I'm sorta considered either close minded or just plain anal. Maybe even a bit of both. For some reason, I keep thinking that all this liquor consumption is some new hyped up craze in order to mask people's insecurities, but that's just my opinion. I should admit though that at the end of the day, I don't mind having the odd amber beer or glass of wine. I just have one question though, do you still keep in contact with your ex? No. I chewed her up, spat her out, and I don't feel a single gram of guilt for it. A couple months after I made my initial post here on the forums I found out she ended up having sex with some other guy two weeks after our break-up. Haven't spoken to her since. Have you tried online dating? It's easier now to meet women these days. I've found this out after being with the same women for 13 years. It's unbelievable how many dating sites are out there. I've tried online dating since 2008, and have been a member on three different sites. Since my online dating career I managed to score a date with one fat chick and it went absolutley no where. If I message some of the more mediocre girls, I'll get responses. But for the girls I really want, I get left out in the cold. Thanks again, I appreciate all the advice!
soulm8 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 As a fellow Aquarian, I'm quite familiar with marching to a different beat... and I wouldn't have it any other way. She's out there ... keep working on yourself and the life you want so that when you do find her... she'll be the icing on your cake.
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