AwptiK Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 (edited) Alright, so my ex girlfriend, age 22 (i'm 20), left me almost 3 weeks ago. Ever since, I have maintained NC to LC, but only if she talked to or texted me first. At first we understood that because we will see each other in our social environment, that we'd talk there like normal friends. That was fine, but then she started texting me, to talk to me more often than 1/2 times a week. 1.5 weeks after the breakup, we ended up having some closure. It was understood that we weren't going to date again. Since, she's been texting me more and more. She'll even call work while i'm there and talk for around half an hour at a time. I've come to the thought myself, that we are sort of using each other to crutch the bridge between dating and friendship. That's fine by me, I can handle not pursuing her or pursuing more than what we have. She has TONS of friends though, why does she come to me for attention? Last night, around midnight she texted me "Are you up?", I responded. And she proceeded to tell me that she's depressed and lonely. I tried a little to cheer her up and I also tried to get any kind of response about her missing me, but she was extremely down and wasn't texting much. I offered to call her at one point, but she said she's crying too much to talk on the phone. I had the last text, but woke up this morning to her apologizing for falling asleep on me. I offered today to give her a big hug and she responded extremely well, first she's used over text since we were dating. I'll see her today and she'll expect that hug. I am actually a little nervous, we've never really touched aside from dating and the path leading-to. It'll be hard to not try and kiss her, even on the cheek.. That is the end of the story. For my personal opinion, I want to believe I have an opening but I am not sure. I figure if all this talking (we are on par with how often we talked while dating), continues for a week or so, I will bluntly ask where she stands and what she wants from me. If there's something I can or should do, to influence her...those tips would be greatly appreciated. One edit that I will probably be asked: The initial breakup was due to a stupid fight, if this was the only cause, I think we'd be together again now. Yet.........I was really mad at myself after she'd left me and made a really stupid comment out of anger. She heard it and it hurt her a lot. Yes, i'm an idiot, but i've worked a lot on that side of myself. Even when we had our closure talk, that fight wasn't even mentioned. She simply said that after hearing what I said, she's going to think about that when she's around me. For that reason, she said she wouldn't go back. Before I get "Well there's your answer", she is a seemingly fickle and slightly dramatic girl. In time, I bet she'll see the other 99% of the time when things were great and fun and how I treated her. That pre-breakup fight in itself is an example of her blowing things up a bit. Second edit, this was written in terms of this morning. The day has passed and i'll add a little. Simply, she was lightly flirty in person today. She was close to me and occasionally playfully hit me. The only other physical contact was that hug, which wasn't long, but a hug nonetheless. Edited December 5, 2011 by AwptiK
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