begentle Posted May 28, 2004 Posted May 28, 2004 Hi everyone well I'm just wondering well since my g/f said she was going to move in with me when she graduates I talked this over with my mom and since she is a dead christian she said no. Well me and my g/f have talked it over and we planed on doing something like this well I pretend to marry her I give her a ring (fake) and she gives me the same that way it looks like were together and what not. I just need help here is there anything else I could do I'm out of ideas in a way and I want to live with her so badly since I only see her on weekends and what not so If we were to live together it would be better I think but I don't know. I just need some feed back on what to do cause I have no clue what so ever.
sportsloving Posted May 28, 2004 Posted May 28, 2004 I don't think you want to start a life together (even living together) basing it on lies... and that is exactly what will happen if you "pretend". I just can't see it being a good idea. Are you living at home and your mom has control over if your girlfriend moves in? Or are you on your own? I respect your mom's feelings about the matter, perhaps try talking to her again and telling her what you think/feel? I guess I don't have any great advice, just hope it all works out for you
pitprincess Posted May 28, 2004 Posted May 28, 2004 I agree. Dont lie about it just to live together. If you want to live together get your own place, move out and let her move in with you. Dont lie to your mother or anyone else because it will always bite you in the hinny
Shasta Posted May 28, 2004 Posted May 28, 2004 I agree as well. But the thing I have to ask is, are you 18? Are you able to move out on your own? If you are, I would personally tell my mother that I am 18 and love the person and want to be with them. I wouldn't lie to my mother, because then I would have to keep up that lie for as long as I lived with the person.
pigeon1 Posted May 28, 2004 Posted May 28, 2004 My very Christian mother gave me the "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free speech" when I told her I was going to move in with my then boyfriend (we've now been married for 10 years). She kept loving me, though, and loves him too. It sounds like you are considering a long-term relationship with your girlfriend - if so, you won't be able to keep up a lie for long and it will be messier in the long run. Even though your mother may not be thrilled with every choice you make, give her the chance to love you in spite of it. That way everyone wins.
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