MIK1000 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Traumatic break up in Late August. Treated like dirt by someone who I thought was madly in love with me for the year and a half that we went out. So that's about 3 and a half months. Was totally broken hearted, wanted her back every day but now it's like I've finally come to the realisation that she is a **** person, despite her good qualities, she is totally selfish, disloyal and lacks any conscience and she has no business being with a good person like me. I don't know if this is just a stage, but I'm think about her about ten times less, in fact when she pops into my head, she pops straight back out. Got two phone numbers off girls this weekend, feel attractive and want to make the most of my youth (I'm only 20). Thank god the pain has gone and I'm rational enough to never ever want to get back with a person like that. This song sums up it up perfectly
BardoPond Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 May I just say now that I've hit a bit of a rough patch the past few days and this post has given me serious hope. I might not get any phone numbers, but here's hoping I can stop thinking about her... That'd be nice. Cheers dude.
Author MIK1000 Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 May I just say now that I've hit a bit of a rough patch the past few days and this post has given me serious hope. I might not get any phone numbers, but here's hoping I can stop thinking about her... That'd be nice. Cheers dude. Don't put yourself down, I bet if you went out to pull you would surprise yourself. I lost some weight that I had put on while going out with her, bought myself some nice new clothes, far more stylish than what I used to wear, new hair cut/style and I feel about ten time more attractive than I did when a few months ago. And believe me you will stop thinking about her, you just need to come to the realisation yourself that she's not worth thinking about. Your friends will tell you that, but you need to come to the realisation yourself and REALLY believe it. Glad I've made you feel better dude. I should also say that I stopped coming on here for a week because i felt I was becoming addicted to this place, and just reading threads about Ex's coming back ect. I felt better that i was able to give it up for a week without the urge to go on it.
Lowib Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 nice man....i'm 6 weeks out of mine and totally still heart broken....but glad to see time does heal. thanks for the story.
BardoPond Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Don't put yourself down, I bet if you went out to pull you would surprise yourself. I lost some weight that I had put on while going out with her, bought myself some nice new clothes, far more stylish than what I used to wear, new hair cut/style and I feel about ten time more attractive than I did when a few months ago. And believe me you will stop thinking about her, you just need to come to the realisation yourself that she's not worth thinking about. Your friends will tell you that, but you need to come to the realisation yourself and REALLY believe it. Glad I've made you feel better dude. I should also say that I stopped coming on here for a week because i felt I was becoming addicted to this place, and just reading threads about Ex's coming back ect. I felt better that i was able to give it up for a week without the urge to go on it. I'm not putting myself down, I believe I have a lot to offer, but I'm fully aware of my limitations. If anything it's not leading to anymore disappointment for the time being but I'm sure I'll have to do something at some point. I think I'm slowly starting to realise that, it's weird though. I never really thought that realising something would be a process. Knowing and actually realising it are two different things, it's been a real learning process for me I must say. I think I might take a week off as well, I don't post that often but I love reading the stuff here and I think maybe it's another habit I'll need to break out of. I definately think it's been the best decision since the break up to join the forum though but I am starting to sit here refreshing to page every while to see what's going on... maybe a week is called for. All the best.
Ginger Beer Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 OP, I had that realistation also. It was about two weeks ago, I'm nearly 6 months NC now but on and off I've been trying to get over her for around 15 months now. When I type that out and read it, that does seem too long. It's a good feeling. Still not over her though. Well done OP.
Author MIK1000 Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 OP, I had that realistation also. It was about two weeks ago, I'm nearly 6 months NC now but on and off I've been trying to get over her for around 15 months now. When I type that out and read it, that does seem too long. It's a good feeling. Still not over her though. Well done OP. Thanks. I mean obviously there is still some sort of feelings there, they don't disappear but I think my broken heart has mended. Glad you finally got there. Obviously it takes longer for some than it does for others and it will greatly depend on what stage in life you are at, and what is going on around you.
Author MIK1000 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 Think I may have jumped the boat a bit when making this thread as feelings of hurt and anger have remerged. I was watching a drama on the TV earlier in which a guy was messed about by his GF and i suddenly became overwhelmed if anger and sadness and couldn't hold back the tears. However I am maintaining the feelings of not wanting her back, which is a big positive because I wanted her back for so long but the feeling of not wanting her back never lasted, until these past few weeks. Now I just need to handle the next breadcrumb or the next time i bump into her in a better fashion than I have before so it does not set me back.
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