Lonely Ronin Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Ahhhh ok....we were a bit off topic. Oops sorry:o Doesn't every LS thread gets off topic after about 10 replies?
D-Lish Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Doesn't every LS thread gets off topic after about 10 replies? It can, sometimes does, LS isn't a dating site though.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 It can, sometimes does, LS isn't a dating site though. Very true, but some times you just gotta role with it!
jstobo Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 It can, sometimes does, LS isn't a dating site though. Well, it's a good thing ShannonMI got a pic out of me before they were deleted. Anyway, I hope I can end my dry spell soon as well. Even though dating sites have increased my frequency of dates, it hasn't led to a meaningful relationship.
D-Lish Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Very true, but some times you just gotta role with it! Keep rolling... As long as we all work together and keep trolls and spammers off LS, we can save our site. Report trolls, report abuse, report spam. I've had success reporting. Someone is answering. Attracted to Shannon MI? Send her a PM... Back to the thread in question. 8 Months, I've been okay with going without. It doesn't phase me.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 8 Months, I've been okay with going without. It doesn't phase me. 15 here, and while I wouldn't say it phases me, I'm definitely starting to yearn for the intimacy & passion again.
Ilovewater Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 The longest I've gone without sex was 4 months. I suppose that's not too long.
laotzu Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 I went a few months after my recent breakup, but the sex I've had lately has only been okay. I really miss relationship sex. Also, I'm really concerned that I'll never find anyone I'm very attracted to again to be in a relationship with. Low point. Monday. It's nice to know there are pretty girls out there in the same, or similar, boat. I'd like to find one.
somedude81 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 I suspect it has to do with going off topic. Dry spells aren't the worst thing in the world- I'd rather have nothing than sex for the sake of sex. That's all I've ever had. And I'm still not sure if it's better than nothing. Honestly, I know that the only way I can get laid this year is if I pay for it. And that would cost about $200 for something decent. But if I had $200 to blow, I'd rather spend it on games or something for my car. $50, maybe. Though I'm still going to miss out on the whole emotional thing which is what I really want
thatcatlady67 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 14 month drought for me, too, and no end in sight.
Saxis Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Just ended my 9 month dry spell last week! Must've been ok... we're planning a mid-week overnight and the entire next weekend with promises of not leaving the bedroom. Apparently she couldn't wait till mid-week... She showed up about 1am this morning for a sleepover. Minus the sleep! It's a wonder I'm not exhausted at work today!
lululucy Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Saxis, those are the best kind of sleepovers! My longest dry spells have been about five weeks. One was during a relationship and one in the spring.
9Lives Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Im starting to see that my "treasure chest" is good not to share unless we are seriously heading towards commitment. I know it sounds really really old fashion but sex has got in the way for me. NOT TRYING TO TELL ANYONE ELSE TO DO THE SAME. Im just ready to try to do something else.
Author shocked_confused Posted December 6, 2011 Author Posted December 6, 2011 Apparently she couldn't wait till mid-week... She showed up about 1am this morning for a sleepover. Minus the sleep! It's a wonder I'm not exhausted at work today! Ok Saxis, I officially hate you now. How did you meet your new sex partner? Was it when you least expected it?
Saxis Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Ok Saxis, I officially hate you now. How did you meet your new sex partner? Was it when you least expected it? Online dating... Tried it several years ago with absolutely no luck. Introduced to someone through mutual friends which lasted in a 2 year relationship. Back to online dating again last spring when that ended, at the start of my dry spell, again no luck. Cancelled it and chalked it up to the fact that it's a numbers game for guys, and that I live in a small area with minimal numbers. Probably a hundred messages sent and maybe 6 replies, only 1 led to a couple dates. So last month I tried again to see what was new... saw only ONE new profile I was interested in. So with ZERO expectations, I sent the message. Luckily for me, it was the right ONE and it's working out great so far!
Author shocked_confused Posted December 6, 2011 Author Posted December 6, 2011 Online dating... Tried it several years ago with absolutely no luck. Introduced to someone through mutual friends which lasted in a 2 year relationship. Back to online dating again last spring when that ended, at the start of my dry spell, again no luck. Cancelled it and chalked it up to the fact that it's a numbers game for guys, and that I live in a small area with minimal numbers. Probably a hundred messages sent and maybe 6 replies, only 1 led to a couple dates. So last month I tried again to see what was new... saw only ONE new profile I was interested in. So with ZERO expectations, I sent the message. Luckily for me, it was the right ONE and it's working out great so far! Aww good for you! All that hard work has paid off. Do you think it will evolve into a relationship or more of a FWB situation?
Saxis Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Aww good for you! All that hard work has paid off. Do you think it will evolve into a relationship or more of a FWB situation? Considering we already clarified that we are exclusive and were originally both looking for a relationship, I'm guessing we'll be putting a label on it very soon. Currently, just exclusively dating I guess...?
JohnP82 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 I'm going on 4 months, a little more than 3 months since my break up. I miss it all; sex and even cuddling. There is no end in sight for me because I'm about to start studying for a Bar Exam which will cast me into oblivion for the next 3 months. Sigh...time to repress
iris219 Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Im starting to see that my "treasure chest" is good not to share unless we are seriously heading towards commitment. I know it sounds really really old fashion but sex has got in the way for me. NOT TRYING TO TELL ANYONE ELSE TO DO THE SAME. Im just ready to try to do something else. Agreed. I'd rather have no sex than sex without an emotional connection and not in a committed relationship. I'd just feel gross and regretful afterward if I did it any other way; I have no interest in casual sex.
Titania22 Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Agreed. I'd rather have no sex than sex without an emotional connection and not in a committed relationship. I'd just feel gross and regretful afterward if I did it any other way; I have no interest in casual sex. I feel the same way iris, except I wouldn't feel regretful afterwards, so much as it was a disappointment and a waste of time and effort. The thing is the older i am getting the less interested I am in getting into a relationship either. It would take someone really special to get me interested again. I think that is why I am not so fussed about the drought anymore. I figure most people get to an age where sex is no longer going to happen anymore. Some just get there sooner rather then later.
El Brujo Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Hey guys, This is more of a venting thread than anything, not really asking for advice, though advice is welcome if you feel like it Anyhow, it's been 5 months since I've had sex and it's making me go bananas a bit. I was in a relationship for a really long time until a year ago, so during that time I was having sex very regularly with my boyfriend at the time. After we broke up I went through a 6 month dry spell until I met a guy in the summer. We had great sex for a couple months until that fizzled out and there's been no one since! And I don't think the issue is that I'm unattractive because I have guys and girls tell me I'm beautiful a lot. But I think the issue is that I'm too chicken to have random sex/one night stands. I know I could if I wanted to but i can't bring myself to do it. But I feel like that's the only way I can break my dry spell. I guess the other option is to get another boyfriend, but I'm having trouble with that right now (a whole other issue). Oh and I have a vibrator that's been working wonders but it's not the same as d*ck. Anyhow, anyone else in a dry spell like me? How have you been dealing?? And what's random sex like? I can't imagine it being that great if there's no connection between you and the guy...is it worth it? Ok, so maybe I am asking for advice now! Thanks peeps. So what? My dry spell has been my whole life. I find other ways to occupy my mind. Plus I'm no longer pursuing "catches", I'm working on BEING the catch. Think of it this way: we have to make ourselves worth pursuing.
Soxfaninfl Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 In my opinion, it's easier to meet people these days with online dating. There are so many dating sites. I'm just finding this out after being with the same woman from the age of 22 till the age of 35. These weren't around when I was single at 21. So nobody should have dry spells for long. You have to get yourself out there if you want to end your dry spell.
joystickd Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 My dry spells make my game stronger. I sit and reflect on how I can improve my dating situation. I will say now I do good but now I want to extend it to the level that is the title of this song lol
Disillusioned Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 In my opinion, it's easier to meet people these days with online dating. There are so many dating sites. I'm just finding this out after being with the same woman from the age of 22 till the age of 35. These weren't around when I was single at 21. So nobody should have dry spells for long. You have to get yourself out there if you want to end your dry spell. I wouldn't put too much stock in OLD... it looks like Meetup groups are going to do to OLDSs what OLDSs did to Great Expectations, if you catch my drift. Ha ha, all those OLD trolls will have no place to stuff their fake profiles... poor devils...
Glove_slap Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 Hey guys, This is more of a venting thread than anything, not really asking for advice, though advice is welcome if you feel like it Anyhow, it's been 5 months since I've had sex and it's making me go bananas a bit. I was in a relationship for a really long time until a year ago, so during that time I was having sex very regularly with my boyfriend at the time. After we broke up I went through a 6 month dry spell until I met a guy in the summer. We had great sex for a couple months until that fizzled out and there's been no one since! And I don't think the issue is that I'm unattractive because I have guys and girls tell me I'm beautiful a lot. But I think the issue is that I'm too chicken to have random sex/one night stands. I know I could if I wanted to but i can't bring myself to do it. But I feel like that's the only way I can break my dry spell. I guess the other option is to get another boyfriend, but I'm having trouble with that right now (a whole other issue). Oh and I have a vibrator that's been working wonders but it's not the same as d*ck. Anyhow, anyone else in a dry spell like me? How have you been dealing?? And what's random sex like? I can't imagine it being that great if there's no connection between you and the guy...is it worth it? Ok, so maybe I am asking for advice now! Thanks peeps. i haven't had sex in about a year and a half, wtf are you complaining about
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