girl friend which became enemy

[dude1986]

hi guys ..i am little confused about who is right and who is wrong in this situation..i need advice and help from you guys

so i was in a 3 year relationship with a girl in another country where i am studying now ..i met this girl 3 years before and btw i am from different country and race ..so we started meeting and i was studying and doing my model career also ..everything was ok .we were both in love and everything seemed to be perfect ..she could not live without me and all the bla bla bla

then we started living together ..like married people ..we had problem with cash but i use to pay for the flat and eating almost .she use to contribute a little also ..she was on scholarship so she use to get a small amount of money and her mother did not use to support her too much then we bought a dog .and life was going good sometimes little confusion but everything was ok..then her parents came to see us ..and everything was perfect ..after sometime we had a problem with flat and we changed the flat ..she went to see the flat and found the flat because i did not knew the language of ukraine and i only knew english and she use to talk with me in english ..then we shifted start living there then she found a job but she was studying also ..but she use to stay at the job and went sometimes to university then we use to had fights about money ..she did not liked that i started to workout too much and i do not give her enough time but i use to come after my study and then go to gym and i use to be free..if we went to discos she was always jealous why other girls look at me and always use to say she does not want to go and she never wanted to drink with me but was ready to be drunk with her friend girls ..was too much jealous of girls writing and commenting on my facebook and she got angry and angry everyday ..untill it was time that i use to not say anything and let her cool down after she came from job and maybe after 2 or 3 hours she would be normal but she use to buy food from the supermarket ..i even asked her if you can not do it so i will do this ..being looking at her angry i lost my temper oneday and said her bitch and broke her phone..but then i apologized and everything was ok for sometime and then again it became worst ..oneday she saw my messages at facebook that girl is flirting with me and i wrote sweetheart ..she said to me that she is going forever ..i stopped her and told her many times ..do not worry ..if they say anything it does not mean it is just internet and they have nothing on you .you are the one..but in all 3 years i never slept with another girl ..i use to talk ..maybe flirt but because she was angry with me evryday because everyday something happened at the job and you know guys what it feels when your girl is angry everyday because of job or i do not know..but all in these years i gave her correct advice and supported her.and i bought everything in the flat for her like new micro ...fridge ..tv ..carpets ..all i bought ..and on her birthday she was so pessimistic ..and said she does not want to celebrate but i pushed her everytime..bought golden chain and many other stuff i could possibly buy as a student.but i use to get tired of her everytime no and pessimistic behaviour..if a girl just talks with me .why she was talking with you ..anywyas things got worse she onetime packed all her stuff and said she is going and after job she will take her stuff and when she went to job and called me that she wants evrything to be ok as usual ..and came home and ate some tablets like 30 tablets of anti anxiety or what and then she told she feels pain in her heart ..i was angry but i hugged her and took her to bed and said ..what is this it was a fight but do not do this again...tell me how it feels when a girl does like this ..i mean she wants she says to me i am going ..and after she started to say that she does not want o go with me to my country and blah blah when we use to get in fight ..and then she did one time more like this and then again offcourse i was angry but when i came back from study ..everything was ok..she said to me that i always make her feel that she is wrong ..but for 3 years i did not went home and after three years i went home for just one month..she said me to send 100$ because she will have no money ..i siad ok but she was all evening crying that she can not live without me ..and when we went to the airport many of my friends were there ..which i saw after very long time and they were talking with me and my girl was standing with me near my bags i wanted to say a good goodbye but all the friends they were talking with me and i could not say good goodbye and i kissed her on the cheek and said take care and i will call you when i will be in waiting lounge but she said that i did not gave to her enough attention and i am ashamed of her..

but then i went home i had operation of eyes laser operation for i had problem in looking far ..and in short after 3 years i came home and for 15 days i was helpless after operation i could not send her money ..but i kept on calling her and i knew and ask ,,can you take a little loan from your job and i will come in one month and everything will be ok ..but then her behaviour changed ..she thought i lied with her and did not wanted to send her the money ..she said she had no money to eat but now she took it and gives **** about me and we had a hot talk on facebook ..she said she does not like to be housewife anymore ..she like her new life which is to go disco everyday and be drunk ...and i siad if you changed in just 20 days like this so then for me my study is also important and i will live alone and she said do not run like this but i was angry on her behaviour and said that ok put my stuff in my bags and i will go and live in hostel .she said ok if it is your decision then your are adult..but the next day i told her i was angry and its ok..but then things were not the same ..she said she went with a friend boy to his home and was with her in swimming pool and all the ****

i came back to ukraine ..she did not came to recieve me and when i came to flat she was happy to see me but trying to show that she is not happy..when i touched her she said do not touch me ..anyway we slept together in the night without sex but unfortunately the last night..

next day she went to sea with her family for 7 days and i called her she took sometime and sometime not.....

she came back and started to take her clothes and said she is going to live in her aunt flat untill i will decide where i will live in this flat or hostel ..i was shocked at her behaviour and tried to tell her..what is wrong ..we can fix it but she said it is too late now ..she even talked with my mother and sister ..they were so happy to talk with her but she was on ego .tears came into my eyes ..i will be honest but she took her stuff and said if you want we can be friends if not then it is ok...

i was under stress i siad ok but i tried to talk with her but she did not wanted ..it seemed how much i wanted to talk with her that much she was going away ...

then i saw her messages on facebook ,,what she wrote to other guys ..did you miss our nights and when you will call me ...i told her like my friend told me you was with a guy in summer ..first she said it is my private life and then when i told her about messages she became angry in the evening and said to me i have 7 days to change my flat or the landlady will kick me out ..she knew i had problems with language and everything ..i had to pay for my study ..but she was like merciless ..anyway i asked her what you will do if somebody will do to you like this in another country where you have no family and some friends and you do not know th language perfect ,,she said i will take my stuff as fast as possible and get out...

and all because i told about her messages which were true ..she use to open my facebook and use to check my messages and when i was at home she messaged from my profile to my friends which were girl that i do not want to talk with them ..but i did not made it an issue ..i was like ok ..chill out but what she said to me was shocking

anyway i got flat in 6 days i spent almost 700$ for the flat i left everything fridge micro tv for her just took my laptop and clothes ..

but she was like not even thanks and said goodluck

but i could see ..how ashmed and embarrased she was but ego..

and in short guys i tried for her for 3 months ..i went with flowers many times ..chocolates ..she wss sick i went with to her made green tea ..wanted to see her ..waited 4 hours outside my flAT ..btw i had the keys and i never went in ..but she never cared just said thanks ..

and oneday i saw in her flat and she went to toilet and i saw in her cupboard printed on post card photos with a guy kissing and smiling

and in discos i use to see photographs with boys she is grinding hugging and here me fighting for us..

i mean it was ok we had a fight on facebook but i did not thought it will be such a mess after 3 years

she gave me the reason that i did not treated her good..i did not took her hand when we use to go together and she said why i care now too much ..

she said you use to talk with other girl throug messages from phone ..i siad what is wrong in talking with other girl i mean she is from another city ....

but in short i also did mistakes like did not send her money if only 100$ was the cost of our relationsip and other also but i tried after the breakup ..did not listened nobody and tried to get her back and even i was in soo much trouble financially and nobody helped me to find the flat i did not made an issue

i knew if there was another guy he would have said **** you i paid for this flat and i bought everything but i knew she is pretending and she wants to show me that she is very happy and good without me but for her happiness i left everything ..

and fought for us for 3 months even she siad i am going to throw the dog ..i said i will keep him in my new flat then she called me and said no he will be with me...

how much i fought that much she went away and said she will never ever change her decision i even had the balls to go on her birthday and give her flowers and greeting card and wish her ..but after that she did not even took my phone ....

then i started to realize how cruel she is becoming and deleted all the photos with her from my facebook and it pissed her off and after 4 months i went out with a girl as a friend in a bar and she was there ..after that she wrote on facebook i give **** about him and his girlfriend ..i mean now it is more than 4 months ..she posts sad song on how alone she is ..and i broke her heart and one day she will find true love of her life ...i do not understand this

after that even i tried to talk with her sometimes i remember she wanted to come back she wrote on her facebook

i asked her you want to go out she said where ..i siad where you like she said maybe ..i said can you be more clear than maybe she said i can not be more clear ..and then in the end i wrote goodluck and goodnight

she said now never come back for me again

i thought she understood goodluck as bye forever

i even wrote to her do not be angry if i wrote a word wrong seriously

aaaah she said she wanted to find a rich old guy and marry him ..so all her problems will be solved

i mean what went in her ..and i saw her she was frustated and talking with rich guys ..flattering them and once she was drunk and called me ..and said what i did with you if you are even talking it is a miracle but you are my best friend and i am talking with a guy for last 3 months and i think we will marry ..

it just look like she wants to take revenge and make me feel bad as much as possible

and i almost forgot when i came back from home she said she slept with a guy and she felt like she knew him for 100 years ..what the **** does this suppose to mean

 

i mean we always had nice sex and i am sexually open and not shy but she use to be shy about herself

anyways guys what i must do after 4 months i am also tired ..i never showed her my back in any problem related to money or support but now it seems that i even do not know her

 

just the dog i care about because he was 2 months old when we bought him and now he is 3 years ...

what i must do ..happy for your responses

and she is libra and i am pisces

[thepedestrian]

Man. I tried really hard to read that whole thing and read most of it. Sounds like you gave her all this **** and supported her as much as you could and she didn't reciprocate. Seems like a one way street to me from what you wrote. I think you need to move on and end things with her.

 

Go no-contact. Don't be her best friend unless you want to get trampled on even more. You don't need to support her if she is unwilling to support you. You're giving her everything she wants and she is giving you NOTHING!

[PlumPrincess]

I'm not going to read this post until I see some paragraphs in this stream of consciousness.

[dude1986]

thanks man *mr pedestrian*

i am really tired myself ..just onething comes again and again does 100 bucks was such a big mistake ..she thinks i am lieing i just did not wanted to send and once i took from her 200 bucks and i gave her back when i returned ..money was never an issue but it became i think

[dude1986]

*princess*

sorry i wrote it like this

but would be happy to know your take on this