Boyfriend walked out

[ligirl2011]

Hi! I am looking for advice on what to do. I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year. We are both 38 and neither of us have been married. He has an 8 year old son from a previous relationship. He does not talk to his son's mom he just picks his son up every other weekend at a neutral spot.

After we had been dating 4 months I became pregnant and had a miscarriage. I was very upset and wanted to try again but he said he was not ready. So we continued to date and it has been a serious relationship. However, he still has refused to make a commitment and it bothered me because he comes over and does not help out at all with cleaning (he leaves stuff laying around), chipping in for food, or anything. When I was pregnant he was going to move in. I have asked him to move in and when I found a place close to his job he said it was too much money. Now I have given up asking. I have started to really really resent him because I am doing everything for him and his son and feel like i get nothing in return. For example for 4 months his car was broken down so I was driving him to work and picking him up and picking up his son for the weekend. During the summer I would book the hotels so we could go to Hershey and Great Advenutre (he paid for the tickets). Every once in a while his son will make a comment that is kind of mean and he will have to yell at his son to stop it. His son will also cry when he does not get his way and then my boyfriend gives in to him. Last month I couldn't take it anymore and walked out. Him and his son showed up at my house and told me that his son was crying when I left. Now it is Christmas. He says he can't think of what to get me. He keeps asking how much he should spend. I told him it is the thought behind it and that he should know me well enough to decide what would be good. Last night I bought a cake tin to make a santa cake because his son wanted to make a cake. It turned into a disaster with his son upset because I wouldn't let him do what he wanted with the frosting. I was trying to make it look cute for him and was letting him help but there was one part that I wanted to look cute. I didn't think it was a big deal. So he goes and cries on the couch. My boyfriend was trying to ask him what was wrong and he kept saying he wanted to help with the cake. I felt like I am being manipulated in my own house. My boyfriend asked him if he wanted to leave and his son said yes. I told my boyfriend if he left not to come back. I turned off my phone and now have all his stuff packed to drop off at his house while he is dropping off his son. Am I doing the right thing?

[mike588]

Hi! I am looking for advice on what to do. I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year. We are both 38 and neither of us have been married. He has an 8 year old son from a previous relationship. He does not talk to his son's mom he just picks his son up every other weekend at a neutral spot.

After we had been dating 4 months I became pregnant and had a miscarriage. I was very upset and wanted to try again but he said he was not ready. So we continued to date and it has been a serious relationship. However, he still has refused to make a commitment and it bothered me because he comes over and does not help out at all with cleaning (he leaves stuff laying around), chipping in for food, or anything. When I was pregnant he was going to move in. I have asked him to move in and when I found a place close to his job he said it was too much money. Now I have given up asking. I have started to really really resent him because I am doing everything for him and his son and feel like i get nothing in return. For example for 4 months his car was broken down so I was driving him to work and picking him up and picking up his son for the weekend. During the summer I would book the hotels so we could go to Hershey and Great Advenutre (he paid for the tickets). Every once in a while his son will make a comment that is kind of mean and he will have to yell at his son to stop it. His son will also cry when he does not get his way and then my boyfriend gives in to him. Last month I couldn't take it anymore and walked out. Him and his son showed up at my house and told me that his son was crying when I left. Now it is Christmas. He says he can't think of what to get me. He keeps asking how much he should spend. I told him it is the thought behind it and that he should know me well enough to decide what would be good. Last night I bought a cake tin to make a santa cake because his son wanted to make a cake. It turned into a disaster with his son upset because I wouldn't let him do what he wanted with the frosting. I was trying to make it look cute for him and was letting him help but there was one part that I wanted to look cute. I didn't think it was a big deal. So he goes and cries on the couch. My boyfriend was trying to ask him what was wrong and he kept saying he wanted to help with the cake. I felt like I am being manipulated in my own house. My boyfriend asked him if he wanted to leave and his son said yes. I told my boyfriend if he left not to come back. I turned off my phone and now have all his stuff packed to drop off at his house while he is dropping off his son. Am I doing the right thing?

 

Yes your doing the right thing and it sounds like you have done to much!

 

You want a commitment and he obviously doesn't and your just being used,, dump him there a alot of guys out there who won't treat you like that.

 

It irks me as I read so many threads/posts her how bad guys treat their g/fs. There are so many guys on this site who treated their g/f so well,give so much love,respect help out around the house,never cheat etc. and they get dumped.

 

I guess it all boils down finding the right person who will appreciate you,truely love you and it seems like he's not the right person for you.

[BoredAgain]

Are you doing the right thing? That's your decision. My question is, are you prepared to deal with these issues for the rest of your life (which could happen if you have a child with him)?