stunned8165 Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 It seems like when I go into any stores, I get upset. Now with all the Christmas music, decorations, wrapped boxes and all. It really throws me into an immotion state where I just about lose my composure. I actually did once I got out to my truck. And even this morning, I went on this HUGE motorcycle run for toys. It too got to me because it all involves children. .... It just really makes me realize how much I miss those kids that I allowed myself to get so attached to. 6 months out now. I try to stay busy, work out, run here, go there........ But I still feel so empty with out those kids when ever I do something like I mentioned above. How much longer. My story to better under stand how I got SCREWED over. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302201/
mike588 Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 It seems like when I go into any stores, I get upset. Now with all the Christmas music, decorations, wrapped boxes and all. It really throws me into an immotion state where I just about lose my composure. I actually did once I got out to my truck. And even this morning, I went on this HUGE motorcycle run for toys. It too got to me because it all involves children. .... It just really makes me realize how much I miss those kids that I allowed myself to get so attached to. 6 months out now. I try to stay busy, work out, run here, go there........ But I still feel so empty with out those kids when ever I do something like I mentioned above. How much longer. My story to better under stand how I got SCREWED over. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302201/ Yea to alot of us this is not "the most wonderful" time of the year. Your only 6 months out and we all heal in different amounts of time. For you it's obviously gonna take more time,, keep doing what you've been doing and hopefully when all this holiday cheer (triggers for you) are over it will get better.
thepedestrian Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 How much longer is different for everybody. Keep strong! Just read your story and it sounds like the kids are the real ones that got screwed over - sounds like they had a good male roll model to look up to (you) and now they lost it. It sucks because you didn't just end a relationship with the kids mother but also with the kids. It sounds like you're most upset about her ruining something that was good for the kids? You sound like a good person though Stunned... which will naturally attract other good people back into your life. Ugh... sorry I cant be more help
smokey bear Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 My rollercoaster has slowed in this last week. NC is helping, but i think you have been in nc for a while, to be honest some people need to break NC and i think you maybe should as your struggling so much. Some people need to be shot down repeatedly before they give up and finally move on. Some people need to break NC to see what kind of person their ex is now and how bad they will treat you to make those rose tinted glasses fly off and help you move on. If i was you, reading all your past posts, break NC, as many times as you want in the next month. Give it one last chance cause i think you might not put it to rest until she's either mean to you or you have tried yourself silly and give up, on the other hand she may come back.
Author stunned8165 Posted December 4, 2011 Author Posted December 4, 2011 My rollercoaster has slowed in this last week. NC is helping, but i think you have been in nc for a while, to be honest some people need to break NC and i think you maybe should as your struggling so much. Some people need to be shot down repeatedly before they give up and finally move on. Some people need to break NC to see what kind of person their ex is now and how bad they will treat you to make those rose tinted glasses fly off and help you move on. If i was you, reading all your past posts, break NC, as many times as you want in the next month. Give it one last chance cause i think you might not put it to rest until she's either mean to you or you have tried yourself silly and give up, on the other hand she may come back. I was LC for 4 moths. Even sent card to the kids for theit B Days. Sent them Thanks giving cards too. The only contact I will be making in the near future is sending the kids Christmas cards with toys r us gift certificates. ....... I tried to reach out and I did get fed up. (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302528/ ....Even sent her an e mail telling her this.)........ But I was Just shut out like I was an evil mean person. I did no wrong except be a dad to her kids like she wanted me to and be a long with a good boyfriend like she wanted me to be. I'm sure she has some influence by the new boyfriend not to contact me. She's a follower... She doesn't deserve anymore reaching out. It's her turn if she wants to which I just have to accept she isn't. But if she does, we'll see what happens. But for now, now way.
smokey bear Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Sorry i thought you were nc for 4 months and still feeling like that, its normal then if you were lc and nc will help. I normally find i get really bad days like you mention right before a new step of healing, yeah its torture but just think to yourself, if i get through this its going to get a bit easier, normally lasts 3-4 days then weeks of good.
Author stunned8165 Posted December 4, 2011 Author Posted December 4, 2011 Sorry i thought you were nc for 4 months and still feeling like that, its normal then if you were lc and nc will help. I normally find i get really bad days like you mention right before a new step of healing, yeah its torture but just think to yourself, if i get through this its going to get a bit easier, normally lasts 3-4 days then weeks of good. I still get angry as hell for what she did. All for some little dump of a resteraunt. And some desperate little guy who always hits on all his employees. Oh trust me. I haven't heard the end of this. I'm SURE she will be reaching out some day. As soon as the honey moon phase is over and she realizes the kids no longer have a dad, she's paying all the bills now etc.
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