twinkles Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 It's funny what you can learn about yourself from these boards by posting or responding. I remember one day a friend asking me what do you need to feel happy and feel loved in a relationship. I though about it and said I don't know. The words I love you? I get that love from my god, myself, my family and my friends so I know regardless I am loved. Security? I've always been able to provide myself with the necessities in life. I'm not that materialistic, I have what I need and I get what I want. Respect and support. I give that to myself. They make you happy? I know how to make myself happy. I'm fine alone. It wasn't until helping someone with their "crisis" and he asked do i have to tell her than I miss her...I replied yes that's very important. I dwelled on this for a few days and realized that what I need to feel loved is hearing the words I missed you. I always wondered why it was that I would cry like a fool when I would see two people embrace followed by the words I missed you on tv or a movie. What was missing from the man I loved were the words I missed you. I would say those words freely to him but he would reply with a thank you. I would ask did you miss me, I would get no answer. I would think to myself... Why can't he say he missed me? I ask myself did I stay only to one day hopefully hear those words from him? Did not hearing those words keep me there. More things I have to figure out. But in the end I'm really thankful that I finally realized what I need to be happy in a relationship. Funny what you can learn from someone else. Maybe it's in those posts you reply to that you find your answers.
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