dlb311 Posted May 28, 2004 Posted May 28, 2004 I met a guy back in December. I really liked him. He and I talked and hung out a couple times over three weeks. Then he started to show me a different side to him and he wasn't so nice. He would tell me he thought I was a clingy chick but I don't act like it. But really I am not. So I was so confused? It was like he was looking for faults and reasons not to like me. Then I moved on but talked to him on the internet alot. I got back with my ex for about three months. When he found out through friends we got back together he started calling me and asking me to come out and see him. I did once but I realized I liked him to much I shouldn't put myself in that temptation. So I stayed away. And we just kept talking via internet and text messages. Then things with my ex were going down hill again. And since he and I had become pretty good friends. I turned to him and asked questions and for advice. He was nice about it. Didn't seem to not want to help me. At the same time he kept asking me to do things with him. I kept declining saying that wouldn't be cool I have a boyfriend. Then my ex and I broke up for the 2nd time. I came into work the next day and we were iming each other and I told him what had happened. He said I was better off which I knew but then asked if I had any guys in mind that I wanted to start dating? I was like umm a little to early to be thinking about that. I told him I hadn't thought about it. He said oh then he gave me a week and then he asked me out to the movies. I seriously knew I liked him but I figured we were just friends. So I went. He acted like my friend that was it. no holding hands kissing or flirting. We had a good time though. Then he asked me to hang out with him and his friends that weekend. So my friends and I went out to hang with him and his friends. We had a good time but things got messed up when a friend of his did something bad to one of my friends. (his friend and my friend dated or slept together for a month or two). So we all had to leave and we went our separate ways. All night he was calling me and texting me asking me to come over that his friend went home. I was like no way. Then he asked me to dinner the next weekend. we had a good time and we ended up having our first kiss that night. Then after that it was normal I hung out with him once a week and then on the weekends. we got intamint and it was realy good. I liked him alot. But also knew that I didn't want anything serious because I had just gotten out of a relationship that I thought was a forever thing and I was crushed that my dreams were gone. I had to make new ones and it was going to take me some time. But I liked this guy and I always had a really good time with him. We went on a mini vacation together with my friend and his. We had such a good time. By this time we had been dating for about a month. He started to bring up relationships everyday. He would say I think about us taking this to the next leave or he would say what if I told you I was thinking about a relationship with you. And before I could really get into it he would say ummm...I am not sure. Then I would tell him to leave it alone because I wasn't asking or thinking about it. I was just going with it and having fun because I have tons of fun with him. Then about a week later I went to stay with him and he told me how special I am to him which he told me often and that he really likes me and I am everything he wants in a girlfriend but that he is emotionally scared of getting hurt. And he wants to warn me be cause he doesn't want to hurt me I was the last person he would ever want to hurt. So I was like okay so I should walk away from this. And he said I don't want you to that would hurt me more then it would hurt you. I was confused but let it go. Then the following weekend he barley contacted me and that next week we had plans to both take a day off of work and hang out. So I was confused what was up with that. But he said he wanted me to come out. So I did. He acted like we were just friends. But we drank that night and of course we ended up together. But the next day when we hung out all day he was again acting like just my friend. I left his place in the evening and he told me he would call me. He didn't So that weekend he didn't call either. Then the following monday at work he imed me and I said so you just want to be friends or what. And he said that would be best I think. I was like okay. fine. I stopped logging on because I was hurt. But once a week I would and chat with him for a little bit because I missed him alot. Then the past weekend I met a guy and he took me to the movies. this guy I was seeing asked me what I had done that weekend. So I told him and I said I went to the movies didn't say who with or anything and he asked if it was a guy I said ya he said did you kiss him I said no he said was it a date I said kinda. And then he told me that his girlfriend said hi. Granted that week before I was with him. He said just kidding jealous? I said it doesn't matter. And then he said kidding but kinda seein someone. I never wrote him back I was hurt. I know he doesn't have a girlfriend. But its like you wanted me to move on you don't want to hang out with me anymore so why get jealous and be rude about it? I know this guy is no good for me, but I like him so much. I am more upset over this break up then I was about my last one with my ex of 2 and half years. I don't get it. He wont call me or text me and i am staying off of aim. But I need advice or someone to tell me how dumb I am being for liking him so much. My heart is hurting I want him in my life.
PlentyLV007 Posted May 28, 2004 Posted May 28, 2004 Okay...I'm going to be honest....this guy seems like he was just messing with you. Most guys when they realize that there is a girl that they like and she has a boyfriend it makes her more attractive and more wanted. Why? Because he couldn't have you. Most men/women want things they can't have. It's like a challenge thing. Then when he had you and he knew you didn't want to get hurt...neither did he. Plus he knew you just go off a relationship. He started dating pretty quick after you. Trust me...your better off without him. Just go out with this new guy and don't worry about the other. If he email's you or text you...ignore him. If he really wants you in his life he will come back to you. Then in that time take it slower....build your trust with him. Let him earn your love. You know that saying if it was once yours and it goes....if it comes back to you it was meant....if not then they don't deserve you..... Hope I was of help. I wish you luck!
Author dlb311 Posted May 28, 2004 Author Posted May 28, 2004 Thank you very much. It is helpful. I don't seriously believe he has someone already. But its possible but I wouldn't believe him. He likes to try to make me jealous. When we started to date he would tell me he hung out with some chick and she did something with her tounge...and then umm he would see my reaction which was gross okay...and he would then say to me I wanted to see how I fit into your life. that is why I said that. I know that he wants me to be jealous. You are right if he wants me he will come back. I do have to stay away for my own protection. Its very hard. Each day at work I want to log on so bad because I miss him. But I have to let it go. Thanks for the advice......
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