Lowib Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Hey guys, so I need some serious help....i'm at almost 6 weeks of NC. My ex left me for another man and yesterday I saw a FB post and within this time period they have fallen in love and have formed a family. She has not shed a tear for me at all, no remorse or guilt. She will never contact me again and I just want to tell her how much she hurt me. I helped raise her daughter from birth and now I've just been replaced.
smokey bear Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Dont break NC, Go and research rebound relationship before you think about breaking NC.
Author Lowib Posted December 4, 2011 Author Posted December 4, 2011 I don't think it's a rebound relationship.....she is very clingy. She will hold on to this guy because he is just as desperate. They are dropping L bombs within weeks of dating. I know I won't get any justification by contacting her. She's gone ahead and had her family block me from FB. She wants me gone so I left and haven't bothered her. Our last time talking was just an ugly name calling mess. Question is, how can you replace someone so quickly? She used to tell me she'd die if I ever left her. But, she did it to me and she doesn't feel any pain. It just makes me feel like I'm a loser. I had no say in any of the break ups. She knows she has full control and she's always had him on the side. I'm just a loner who didn't meet anybody because she wouldn't let me out and If i did go out she'd get jelous...
Bryanp Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 There is no point telling her how much she hurt you because her actions clearly show that she does not give a damn about you. You are much better off without her. You may also want to get checked for STD's.
Seneca Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 I just want to tell her how much she hurt meEven if you told her how much she hurt you, it still will not heal the pain you are feeling now. Forgive, and let go. Right now you are in the shackles of pain, resentment, and anger. By forgiving her you are making a personal decision to be free. Here are some quotes, I hope something here rings within you: "Forgiving is rediscovering the shining path of peace that at first you thought others took away when they betrayed you." - Dodinsky "Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting." - William Arthur Ward "Without forgiveness life is governed by... an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation." - Roberto Assagioli "Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself." - Suzanne Somers
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