Lemons Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Boyfriend ended it after almost 5 months. He claims he felt "detached" for the last week (Since Monday or Tuesday), and it just came up last week, and it's best we split. The guy used to tell me that he wanted to grow old with me, always added himself into my future, while i was more resistant and cautious. From day 1 I never fully put myself fully into the relationship with him because I knew his relationship history, and it just shows I was right. Last Monday he met a new girl as a 'friend'. Apparently she became flirty and visited him at his work. He also found her cute. Does anyone else see a coincidence here? Something tells me that he jumped ship to test things out with the new girl, he looked guilty when I saw him, but I know he won't admit to it. He told me he "doesn't know if he was making a mistake" or if he was just having a tired week. I agreed that it would be best for us to split and I was on my way. I also got "I don't think I can do relationships" & "It's not you, you're amazing in every way, it really isn't you." from him. Anyone else agree that this new girl is likely the reason? He told me he loved me, you can't fall out of love in a week.
Butterfly21 Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 (edited) I also got "I don't think I can do relationships" & "It's not you, you're amazing in every way, it really isn't you." from him. Sounds like something i went through with an ex. The exact same words came out of his mouth. To this day i don't know if he cheated or if he started seing someone else because he was living in England at the time but was visiting home. I'm convinced he did something because he also had a guilty look and just about cried and slammed doors after he told me. Edited December 4, 2011 by Butterfly21
silly_panda Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Girl/woman's instinct is very accurate... If you feel that he is, then he probably is... But as you said yourself, you were cautious with him... I guess you had held back emotionally and not dive in head first with him... I believe you are able to move on quite well...
Graceful Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 You knew him barely 5 months. So how well did you really get to know him? The guy used to tell me that he wanted to grow old with me, always added himself into my future, while i was more resistant and cautious. From day 1 I never fully put myself fully into the relationship with him because I knew his relationship history, and it just shows I was right. Now, what kind of person is going to tell you he wants to grow old with you after knowing you, what, a few months? Well, that's just idiotic, isn't it? No wonder you kept your emotional distance from this lame a$$. Of course you were cautious. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, far superior to this immature dolt you dated for a few months. He told me he "doesn't know if he was making a mistake" or if he was just having a tired week. I agreed that it would be best for us to split and I was on my way. I also got "I don't think I can do relationships" & "It's not you, you're amazing in every way, it really isn't you." from him. Of course he doesn't know if he's making a mistake. But the reason is because he sounds like an immature person who doesn't know his a$$ from his elbow. Has nothing to do with you is right. He can't "do" relationships? Well, then this means he's just prowling around for now, the next girl will be treated just as you were. Anyone else agree that this new girl is likely the reason? He told me he loved me, you can't fall out of love in a week. No, the reason is because he's a lame, immature, irresponsible, superficial, bored, unaccountable, untruthful, fickle, idiotic bit of a confused male specimen that you should be glad to be rid of. He told you he loved you within a few months, so how deeply "in love" can anyone be after such a short period of time? That's not enough time to even know someone's middle name, the name of their family pets growing up, or their favorite color, now is it? I'm being facetious, but you get the idea ... right? Done and done. It's an utter waste of your time to analyze him, he's more transparent than a pane of clear glass. You have better things to do with your time and brain cells. Don't you see this? Are you with me? Hope so, and if not today, then some day soon. He's kicked to the curb, where he belongs. Good for you.
BoredAgain Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Does it really matter if he cheated? You seem to already agree that the split was a good idea. There were some red flags there you seemed to notice, and whether he cheated or not, you're better off without him.
KathyM Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 If he met this girl on Monday, and he says he's felt detached towards you since Monday or Tuesday, I'd say she's the reason he broke it off with you. I doubt that means he's actually had sex with her yet, but for whatever reason, he is more interested in this other girl and wants to be free to pursue a relationship with her. Sorry. I know it must be very difficult to understand how a guy can be pledging his undying love for someone one week, and then move on to someone else the next. I'm guessing he's a player that told you all those over-the-top things about growing old together, etc., so that you would have sex with him, and then as soon as someone else came in the picture, he's ready to move on. You mentioned he had a reputation. I think the past is a pretty good indication about a person's true character, regardless of what they tell you in the present.
Author Lemons Posted December 4, 2011 Author Posted December 4, 2011 I agree with everyone here. I knew what I was getting into from the start. The man never had a relationship that exceeded 4 months. When I started dating him I wasn't looking for anything serious either, seems as I got what I wanted. He did treat me well while we were together, so I'll just take it for what it was. I don't think I'll have any issues moving on. Thanks everyone!
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