TaurusTerp Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 I met a woman about 2.5 months ago. Got drinks, slept together. Got dinner a few days later, slept together again. I then met another girl who I thought there was a lot more long-term potential with and started seeing. Things have fizzled out with that one unfortunately, and I'd like to get in contact with girl #1 again. However, we haven't spoken in 2 months. It wasn't a matter of ignoring her or anything - we just both stopped texting/calling each other at the same time. I don't know if she wanted to leave the contact initiation up to me or if she didn't want to see me anymore or what. Anyway, ladies, what would you think if a guy just contacted you out of nowhere after 2 months? How should I approach this?
Meeks7 Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 odds are, this is a dead case you will fail to revive. i guess it's worth a shot, but i doubt your fallback girl will suddenly embrace you again. Females have a strange 6th sense of knowing when they're your #2 option, and unless you're HOT, they will look for a fresh guy to start over fresh with, and as his #1 option.
Emilia Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Giving her a call is worth a shot (since the two of you slept together, a text probably isn't enough) but if she sensed you were going lukewarm on her or if she felt the same way about the lack of chemistry, she might just ignore you. I connected with past exes/old flings before but not if it felt we fizzled out/lost interest in talking.
eleanorhurting Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Does she know about your other fling? Mmm I think I would ignore you. 1
DearAbby Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 At this point, you have nothing to lose. Contact her. She may or may not speak to you. If not, talk to someone else, but if she was the one for you in the first place, you probably would have never stopped talking to her in the first place. Are you just bored?
Author TaurusTerp Posted December 4, 2011 Author Posted December 4, 2011 Does she know about your other fling? Mmm I think I would ignore you. No, she doesn't. At least I never said a thing. At this point, you have nothing to lose. Contact her. She may or may not speak to you. If not, talk to someone else, but if she was the one for you in the first place, you probably would have never stopped talking to her in the first place. Are you just bored? I'm not bored, but we had a good time together and the sex was amazing. I don't know if I necessarily see a long term future, but would like to see if there might be. How do I approach it is the main question, if she does answer my call. Just start talking? Address the no contact for 2 months up front?
wildtrac77 Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 No, she doesn't. At least I never said a thing. I'm not bored, but we had a good time together and the sex was amazing. I don't know if I necessarily see a long term future, but would like to see if there might be. How do I approach it is the main question, if she does answer my call. Just start talking? Address the no contact for 2 months up front? You have nothing to lose by sending her a txt, just keep it friendly and lighthearted, dont get heavy about the two months etc, just ask her how things are going with her, if she replys then great if not move on..
ScienceGal Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Well, given the nature of your relationship (rolling around in the sheets on the first date) she might answer you, especially if she wants some action
Cypress25 Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 If she has half a brain, she'll know that you're only contacting her as a last resort. No one likes to be second choice, so she'll probably ignore you. But seeing as how you've already blown your chances with her, you've got nothing to lose. Really though, she's not stupid.
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