PJKino Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 being muscular doesn't make you masculine either. If you think masculinity is about how many inches off the ground or how muscular you are, you are dead wrong and chasing a dead end. You'd be surprised at how many tall and muscular guys run away screaming when the **** hits the fan. Time to stop relating masculinity or feminity to superficial things like how tall you are. By that logic, tall women are masculine, yet it's safe to say there are countless graceful and feminine tall women. If women are sexually attracted by tall guys, that's one thing, but numerous anectodal experiences make the concept of "tall guys are masculine by default" pretty laughable. I agree im just using xeamples i dont think being tall or muscular means youre definitely masculine It just annoys me that women are allowed to be shalow as hell and label guys becasue of somethigng physically they have or lack yet a mans a pig if he judges women the same way
somedude81 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I don't even know why I read these threads. All they do is make my hate myself more and more while getting rid of any hope I have.
ShannonMI Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 being muscular doesn't make you masculine either. If you think masculinity is about how many inches off the ground or how muscular you are, you are dead wrong and chasing a dead end. You'd be surprised at how many tall and muscular guys run away screaming when the **** hits the fan. Time to stop relating masculinity or feminity to superficial things like how tall you are. By that logic, tall women are masculine, yet it's safe to say there are countless graceful and feminine tall women. If women are sexually attracted by tall guys, that's one thing, but numerous anectodal experiences make the concept of "tall guys are masculine by default" pretty laughable. Don't you think tallness equals being more masculine in the eyes of women that want tall men?
PJKino Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I don't even know why I read these threads. All they do is make my hate myself more and more while getting rid of any hope I have. Yeah i never knew how important height was till i came on sites like these its depressing how shallow and picky women are.. And i hate the height with Men weight with women comparison,most women dont like fat guys either Women contrary to popular belief have stricter standards physically then Men do in women Women just need a pretty face and not to be fat Men need to not be fat handsome AND tall
Soxfaninfl Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I'm happy being 5'6. I rather be short with a goog size penis than be 6'0 tall with a small penis. That's what really matters. When women say that size doesn't matter, they are full of it.
ShannonMI Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I'm happy being 5'6. I rather be short with a goog size penis than be 6'0 tall with a small penis. That's what really matters. When women say that size doesn't matter, they are full of it. Hahahahahahaha true true:p
Wolf18 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Don't you think tallness equals being more masculine in the eyes of women that want tall men? Of course, but that doesn't mean it isn't based on something completely wrong. It's like having a boobyman equate big breasts with femininity. If it happens, it couldn't be farther from the truth. Both sides are idiotic, and just proof at how people let tv, porn, and hollywood convince them to attribute physical traits to personality/spiritual ones. In a society where men and women are no longer widely tested by combat, early child birth, etc people get their images of masculinity and femininity from fantasy caricatures like Fabio or Pamela Anderson. Why? Because we don't really interact with either elements personally anymore in a "post gender" society.
LexiB Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 It just annoys me that women are allowed to be shalow as hell and label guys becasue of somethigng physically they have or lack yet a mans a pig if he judges women the same way "Allowed" by whom? The same powers that be who allow you to have your own opinions and preferences for attractiveness, no? Or are you implying that you, yourself lack any physical standards when it comes to the women you seek out?
Meeks7 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 To all the short guys, check out elevatorshoes dot com My friend who is 5'5" and a half uses it, it gives him a solid 2+ inches. Luckily I've been blessed with height (5'11")
in_absentia Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 It would be a deal breaker for me, I'm afraid. I just like a guy to be taller, or AS tall as me, maybe it's some kind of weird biological thing to be attracted to good providers or whateverbut I would not be happy dating anyone significantly shorter than me. I'm 5ft 9 and would probably go as low as 5ft 7 but I just can't see it working, it kills attraction too much for me. I dated a 5ft 5 guy before and feeling like I was so tall in comparison was a real passion killer (I love being tall though). My bf is about 6ft which is definitely enough for me.
counterman Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Most girls I have met tend to like taller guys, even those who are really short themselves. Reasons could be it makes them feel more feminine, makes them feel protected, they're more attracted to tall guys, etc. The thing is if a girl prefers taller guys, there's nothing you can do about it. Just don't bother with her and move on to another girl, because there are girls who don't put that much importance on height. It's not something you have control over, so why focus on it so much? It is what it is, so rather focus on something you can improve on.
Anela Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 The other day, you were talking about being attractive and sexually-confident, and how you were concerned about this forum being full of "uglies" You were also concerned about having only being able to get it up, when you thought of men, and that your girlfriend wasn't doing it for you. Now your height is the problem?
stillafool Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I'm a 5'1 gentleman myself, would my height be a deterrent from woman talking to me? It's definitely been a deterrent in me having confidence in approaching beautiful woman among other things. My question is, do you think my height is to short to ever consider dating me? Or do you think my personality could some how compensate for it? What would you think on first glance? I'm 5'7 without heels. I always dated tall guys and as a matter of fact my husband is 6'4. However I remember before I married walking out of a club and a man caught my eye and I was damn near hypnotized by him. He was only about 5'1 and I was crazy about him from first sight. We dated a while but I soon found out he had others and broke it off. So I think it depends on the man.
somedude81 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 (edited) To all the short guys, check out elevatorshoes dot com My friend who is 5'5" and a half uses it, it gives him a solid 2+ inches. I've been wearing those for a year. So I'm 5'8 with shoes on. Which is still two inches shorter than average. Come on...men are just as shallow. Not really. Most men want somebody who is their equal. Hey, I'm only 5 feet tall and I actually prefer men NOT to be too tall. 5'7" or 5'8" is good for me in a guy. I don't require him to be 6' tall and over. So somebody who is 5'4 isn't tall enough for you? Want to know something ironic? As a 5'6 guy, I think you are too short for me. Short women are "lucky" that most men don't care about height. If they do, the fact that she has a vagina makes up for it. So next time you're with a tall guy, just be happy with the thought that he may wish you were taller, but your vagina makes you good enough for him Edited December 5, 2011 by somedude81
LexiB Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Not really. Most men want somebody who is their equal. Which is first of all, a completely subjective standard and second of all, unavoidably chock full of each man's own minimum threshhold requirements. Stop comparing degrees of shallowness and just admit that both sexes ARE. I'm 5'9". I've encountered many men about my height who prefer to date "petite" women because they can "fling 'em around" and tower over them, etc. Should I be crying "boohoo, what a bunch of shallow jerks"...especially when I myself, have a preference for men who are 6'+ for very similar reasons? People like what they like. You just deal with it and move on.
somedude81 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Which is first of all, a completely subjective standard and second of all, unavoidably chock full of each man's own minimum threshhold requirements. Stop comparing degrees of shallowness and just admit that both sexes ARE. I'm 5'9". I've encountered many men about my height who prefer to date "petite" women because they can "fling 'em around" and tower over them, etc. Should I be crying "boohoo, what a bunch of shallow jerks"...especially when I myself, have a preference for men who are 6'+ for very similar reasons? People like what they like. You just deal with it and move on. And how many men the same height as you, would refuse to date you because of your height? Zero? That's what I thought. A man may prefer a shorter woman but it's not a dealbreaker. If that was the case, then tall women would never date... And we all know what women think about shorter than average men.
jobaba Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I've been wearing those for a year. So I'm 5'8 with shoes on. Which is still two inches shorter than average. Elevator shoes for a man your height are dumb. 1) They are so obvious as to be ridiculous sometimes. There was a guy who worked in the office next to me who wore them (who was about my height). All of the girls in my office could tell and they used to laugh at him behind his back. 2) You're not short enough to warrant wearing them. 3) If your game is good enough, you can get a woman into a position where your shoes are off (if you know what I mean) in short order. Then, she will think you are an idiot and have no self esteem for being a 5'6" man wearing elevator shoes. You can wear regular shoes which have a relatively thick heel or even boots and that's fine. But don't do the monster 2.5 to 3" elevator shoes. I guarantee women are laughing at you.
Anela Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 By the way, I'm 5' 2 1/2" and I've liked a man who was around my height, and a boy who was shorter than me (in high school). So it is possible, for anyone out there who is short and seriously concerned about it.
somedude81 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Elevator shoes for a man your height are dumb. 1) They are so obvious as to be ridiculous sometimes. There was a guy who worked in the office next to me who wore them (who was about my height). All of the girls in my office could tell and they used to laugh at him behind his back. 2) You're not short enough to warrant wearing them. 3) If your game is good enough, you can get a woman into a position where your shoes are off (if you know what I mean) in short order. Then, she will think you are an idiot and have no self esteem for being a 5'6" man wearing elevator shoes. You can wear regular shoes which have a relatively thick heel or even boots and that's fine. But don't do the monster 2.5 to 3" elevator shoes. I guarantee women are laughing at you. Actually, I'm not wearing elevator shoes, but special shoe inserts that make me about 1.5" taller in any pair of shoes. Nobody can tell. Yes I am short enough, because even with the inserts, I'm still not average height. If I do manage to get naked with a girl, hopefully that means she likes me enough to not instantly reject me when she realizes that I'm not 5'8.
LexiB Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 And how many men the same height as you, would refuse to date you because of your height? Zero? That's what I thought. A man may prefer a shorter woman but it's not a dealbreaker. If that was the case, then tall women would never date... And we all know what women think about shorter than average men. What?? Plenty of men my height or shorter wouldn't want to date someone as tall as I am because it'd make them feel emasculated. You can't deny this fact. And yeah, it's every bit as shallow as a woman not wanting to date a man shorter than, or close to her height.
somedude81 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 What?? Plenty of men my height or shorter wouldn't want to date someone as tall as I am because it'd make them feel emasculated. You can't deny this fact. And yeah, it's every bit as shallow as a woman not wanting to date a man shorter than, or close to her height. Do you have experience to back it up or are you just guessing? For the record, the girl I was absolutely crazy about, is 5'8. That's right, two inches taller than me.
LexiB Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 (edited) Do you have experience to back it up or are you just guessing? I have had guys tell me that they only date short girls, yes. Granted these were buddies of mine and not men I was pursuing, but the point still stands. Moreover, like everyone else I've been rejected in my lifetime and who's to say height wasn't a factor? Most people don't go around telling their dates/admirers why they're being rejected...particularly if the reason is physical. I don;t understand why you wont acknowledge this as truth. You seem hard-pressed to even see it as a possibility. For the record, the girl I was absolutely crazy about, is 5'8. That's right, two inches taller than me. That's great. So a girl being taller isn't an absolute deal-breaker for you. Now what about the 5' tall girl mentioned earlier by another poster who you said was "too short". You'd still be passing her by based on height. Is that not shallow as well? My point is, that everyone, male and female, has physical standards for who they date. Every now and then when an amazing person comes along, hopefully we all have the sense to deviate from those preferences. For the record, my best relationship to date, was with a guy who was 5'7". That's right, two inches shorter than me. Go figure. Edited December 5, 2011 by LexiB
EnigmaticClarity Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Want to know something ironic? As a 5'6 guy, I think you are too short for me. That makes you pickier than the average woman and just FAR too picky overall. Average woman is 5' 4", average man is 5' 9.5", so on average, men are 5.5" taller than women. If you're 5' 6", the average spread would put a woman who is 5' 0.5" or 5' 1" as the height that is a proportional match for you going by average heights.
EnigmaticClarity Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Has to be at least 5'6? Damn. Not a lot of women are as tall as that or taller. Do you have trouble finding women who meet your height requirements? I've never had trouble with it. The lower range of my preference is 5' 8", and the shortest I've dated for any length of time is 5' 7". Current girlfriend is 6' 1" (I'm 6' 2") and I LOVE it, although I'm sure she wishes I was 6' 4" or 6' 5" so she could wear heels and not be taller. I tell her to go ahead and wear heels but she avoids it, I presume because she doesn't want to look taller herself. Either that, or she thinks I DO care and am lying. I've told her I'd totally date a girl who is 6' 7", but she doesn't believe me--I would though, it'd be fun.
AD1980 Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 That makes you pickier than the average woman and just FAR too picky overall. Average woman is 5' 4", average man is 5' 9.5", so on average, men are 5.5" taller than women. If you're 5' 6", the average spread would put a woman who is 5' 0.5" or 5' 1" as the height that is a proportional match for you going by average heights. A women 5'0 in this thread said 5'6 is too short for her Women want to be towered over Especiay in heles which are as important as the guy
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