El Brujo Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Everyone knows that promiscuous men tend to be viewed positively, but promiscuous women tend to be viewed negatively. Well, another double standard is that it's ok for a woman to have a laundry list of what she wants in a man, but it's against the rules for us men to have a laundry list. At least, that's been my experience.
SlevinKalebra Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 True but with reason. Women can be choosy. Women are like a kid in a candy store with a wad of fifties. I blame media and society, but 99% of the dating world belongs to women. If you had the choice of dozens of different girls plus the knowledge that if nine of the twelve got sick of groveling for you, wait a week and a new dozen is chasing you, wouldn't you be picky too? This is also why so many guys will fall head over heels for the first girl to pay him a little attention. So you have two choices be selective, with a list of what you want, or be VERY VERY VERY patient, and choose to be alone for a while. If you are pickey that's the cost. My list negates most of the women anymore. But I'd rather work for a prize than settle.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 So you have two choices be selective, with a list of what you want My female friends have a name for this "high maintenance", and I find that incredibly ironic.
Author El Brujo Posted December 4, 2011 Author Posted December 4, 2011 I think it's a "given" that we guys are supposed to be attracted to just any woman. That may work for the kind of guy who dreams about a shelf full of trophy cups for all the sexual conquests he's had, but for those of us who are commitment-minded, it's a waste of energy to get involved with someone who does or has things we can't live with. Also, I can understand how a guy with standards can feel like a slap in the face to some women... here you are, you've made yourself into a "roaster", and this guy has the nerve to turn you down despite all your charms? What a freakin' ingrate he must be!!! My female friends have a name for this "high maintenance", and I find that incredibly ironic. Hmm... you learn something new every day I guess. I always thought "high maintenance" meant having a need for constant primping. I need to get my hands on a copy of that dating dictionary...
Lonely Ronin Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Hmm... you learn something new every day I guess. I always thought "high maintenance" meant having a need for constant primping. I need to get my hands on a copy of that dating dictionary... When I pressed them to explain, they said it's because I have some social, intellectual, emotional, & physical requirements, and because I won't compromise on them I'm high maintenance.
jobaba Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Everyone knows that promiscuous men tend to be viewed positively, but promiscuous women tend to be viewed negatively. Well, another double standard is that it's ok for a woman to have a laundry list of what she wants in a man, but it's against the rules for us men to have a laundry list. At least, that's been my experience. Partly biological and partly social construct. Biologically, women are not going to let their eggs be fertilized by just any shmo. She's going to pick the partner with the best genes for better offspring. Also, there's a provider and protector instinct. So, women generally like tall guys and rich guys. The social construct part of it is society has set the rules so that the man must approach. So, in general a woman has more options than a man, and can be pickier. Men have laundry lists too, women just tend to be pickier. Put it this way. Let's say identical twins (one M, one F) were separated and birth and met 25 years later with no idea they were related. Let's say they're slightly above average ~6. The man would have to put in a good deal of work to get his sister (someone who is exactly as attractive as he is). Of course, for really good looking people at the top of the pyramid, this trend becomes less evident.
Yamaha Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Biologically, women are not going to let their eggs be fertilized by just any shmo. She's going to pick the partner with the best genes for better offspring. Also, there's a provider and protector instinct :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: Amazing how many believe this "nature" BS......
Author El Brujo Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 So, women generally like tall guys and rich guys. BZZZZZZZZ!!!!! I'm 6'6" and women avoid me like I'm going to give them leprosy... so the "tall guys" theory blows apart. Re rich guys... there are horror stories on LS by women who were "lucky" enough to get picked by a rich guy, and ended up being treated like all his other toys. :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: Amazing how many believe this "nature" BS...... LOL! It makes me want to put on a tiger-skin loincloth and go out and spear a mammoth for dinner.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 BZZZZZZZZ!!!!! I'm 6'6" and women avoid me like I'm going to give them leprosy... so the "tall guys" theory blows apart. It seems most guys are 4 to 8 inches taller than the women they are dating, so start chasing women that are between 5' 10" & 6' 2" I bet you will do better.
gaius Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 True but with reason. Women can be choosy. Women are like a kid in a candy store with a wad of fifties. I blame media and society, but 99% of the dating world belongs to women. It's still a mans world out there. There are so few guys out there nowadays who are actually interested in real achievements that if you just work hard and smart all kinds of options open up for you. The competition is pathetic. BZZZZZZZZ!!!!! I'm 6'6" and women avoid me like I'm going to give them leprosy... so the "tall guys" theory blows apart. I've seen your videos and you're also at least 300 pounds which never helps anyone no matter how tall they are. Women want guys who work hard and achieve and that giant belly just screams “I don't really care”. I've been overweight and I know all to well how it's viewed by women.
Anela Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I'm not interested in promiscuous men. A man turned me off when he became promiscuous, as soon as he had the chance to be.
stillafool Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 I'm not interested in promiscuous men. A man turned me off when he became promiscuous, as soon as he had the chance to be. I agree. There is nothing attractive about a worn out male whore.
Author El Brujo Posted December 5, 2011 Author Posted December 5, 2011 It seems most guys are 4 to 8 inches taller than the women they are dating, so start chasing women that are between 5' 10" & 6' 2" I bet you will do better. Ain't gonna happen. Those women are either all taken (fetishists snap them up) or they've sworn off trying to meet men. It's still a mans world out there. There are so few guys out there nowadays who are actually interested in real achievements that if you just work hard and smart all kinds of options open up for you. The competition is pathetic. Especially nowadays. Everyone and their dog is going to college so they can go to work for... someone else. Not me! The next job(s) I get, I'm going to be my own boss. I've seen your videos and you're also at least 300 pounds which never helps anyone no matter how tall they are. Women want guys who work hard and achieve and that giant belly just screams “I don't really care”. I've been overweight and I know all to well how it's viewed by women. My videos were shot a month ago, and I'm still losing weight. If only you saw my PoF profile pics, you'd know I was never as roly-poly as you seem to think. Two-ton Charlie I am not. I'm not interested in promiscuous men. A man turned me off when he became promiscuous, as soon as he had the chance to be. You need to move to L.A.!!! I'm male, and to me promiscuity is a waste of time. There's just something that seems sleazy about people who don't want commitment. BTW the times they are a-changing... on Sunday the 4th I went to a potluck by a new group named Relationship Minded Singles, and the people there were so easy to talk to---not rude or uptight like the ones at other singles meetups. RMS started only a month ago and now they have almost 200 people, and over 40 showed up at the potluck. When I was there, I met a nutritionist who not only gave me hints to help my diet, but she was "hot" and had an even zanier sense of humor than I have! I had a blast and so did everyone else there, and we did so without a drop of alcohol (which is illegal in CA's parks anyway). But on Saturday the 3rd I went to another singles meetup group, which has been around for 2 years. They meet in nightclubs and bars (nothing new and original about that), and they got only 7 people. It was a total bust. Maybe with a little luck, that hostess will take the hint. Singles who drink socially don't know what they're missing.
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 Well, another double standard is that it's ok for a woman to have a laundry list of what she wants in a man, but it's against the rules for us men to have a laundry list. There are so many damn double standards we have to deal with as men that it's near ridiculous. Just learn to live with it. The social upheaval of the 60's and 70's removed or seriously softened most gender roles for women. It's still very rigid and inflexible for men. That's partly our fault though.
Author El Brujo Posted December 6, 2011 Author Posted December 6, 2011 The social upheaval of the 60's and 70's removed or seriously softened most gender roles for women. It's still very rigid and inflexible for men. That's partly our fault though. True, but look what Stonewall did for gays.
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: Amazing how many believe this "nature" BS...... I know. Where did he get the idea that women don't open their legs for lame dudes?
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