Absolutely Curtains Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 (edited) This is something that comes up every once in awhile, and it bothers me a little bit. I'm not sure if I'm being controlling, if this is just a personality difference that I need to get used to, or what. Have brought this up to him, pretty much every time it happens, but obviously it never changes; he also doesn't seem to take it very seriously that this bothers me. What niggles at me is that my bf sometimes (who knows how often) doesn't tell me things. The things he doesn't tell me aren't a big deal, but sometimes it makes me feel dumb when we're in a group situation and everyone there knows about it except me; it also just plain makes me feel left out. One thing that happened recently that I posted about before is he went to a strip club for a friend's bachelor party - He knew that I didn't care if he went (unless he spends lots of $$!), and apparently he and most of the guys left after a couple minutes. He told me they didn't go to a strip club, but all the other guys told their gfs/wives (who are my friends) so of course next time I saw them they talked about it - every single one of them knew b/c her SO told her, except me. So I felt like a huge idiot. Another time he went out to some kind of poetry open mic thing to help a friend film a video. He didn't tell me anything else about it. I was invited, but didn't go. He got home at almost 1am (during the week, and yes he has a job). The next day when I asked him how it was all he said was it was OK. Fast forward a week or two, and I'm at a party where the video is shown, and from the video it was clear that there was all kinds of interesting things he could have told me about his night. On top of it, another one of the guys that did the video was at the party...with a girl he met that night. After they were done with the video, my bf, this guy and the girl they met went out to other bars afterward to keep drinking. I think that was worthy of a mention when I asked how the poetry thing was. Instead, I feel like an idiot, and left out, because everyone at the party is filling me in on what went on that night, when I felt like my bf should have already told me about it. He's not doing anything wrong or that I would be mad about, but I hate that he doesn't tell me things sometimes. Edited December 3, 2011 by Absolutely Curtains
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