ScottJo Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Since May i have had a lovely online relationship with a Woman from Germany. We have always been close and had talked a lot about our plans for the future. I came to realize that she has a lot of psychological problems; one of them being that she has an almost split-personality. For weeks she would be very loving and caring telling me how much she loves me then she would suddenly go cold and distant. She also had various health problems. I was always willing to accept her as she is because i loved her and i tried to be strong for her and to give her comfort. So, we had our plans. As i am in Scotland and she is in Germany, it was our intention that i would come over to see her in February, and then at a later stage i would move over there to be with her. She always seemed very encouraging about these plans and told me often enough how much she was looking forward to it. But then she would suddenly go cold. She would also be quite negative about our plans, saying that i was a dreamer. Well, here is my heartbreak....last week we didn't chat much at all..she claimed to have bad moods but that it was nothing to do with me. We chatted on the Friday and she seemed a bit grumpy but she told me a few times that she loved me. On Saturday i didn't hear anything from her the whole day and i started to worry as she previous week she had had bad asthma attack and almost choked. So on Sunday morning i called her on her land-line to see if she was ok and she seemed a bit annoyed about this, telling me that i worry to much. On Monday she sent me an email, just a short note telling me to have a good day and i replied as we always would with each other. On Tuesday i sent her a similar email but got no reply..she would usually reply in kind. I then noticed that she had taken our relationship status down from her FB. I sent her a flurry of emails about this and called her a few times. She answered once and as soon as she heard my voice she put the phone down.She then sent mail asking me if i was completely crazy, that it was over, that she was blocking me from every account online. I admit that my calls were late and that she had work in the morning. But she has treated me like a spam email. She has been so cold towards me. And this is the same woman who told me she loved me a number of times on Friday. I am so heartbroken...i love her very much and i know that she still has feelings for me and that she will miss me. But what can i do, she has broken off all contact.
skakitty Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 I think the best thing right now is to back away and give her space. I know it's not the easiest thing to do, but if you try and talk to her when she is exhibiting this behaviour you might make it worse for yourself. Take care and let us know what happens. x
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