Bazamu Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Well after proding and pushing the issue with my ex gf, It finally has pushed me to the next step. I called her last night and her boyfriend picked up the phone (club noise in the backround) he told me to "go away". Can't get any clearer than that. I have talked with many friends and on here and cannot find a coping mechanism to save my life. I went to a club and all I could do is compare these girls to my ex gf and everyone of them looked worse. I feel so blind sided and I cannot have fun without thinking about this girl who is never coming back. I plan on seeking therapy hoping this will resolve the issue of my obsession I have with someone who has moved on. As many people on here, I really thought I had a chance, but that last call was the last straw in the bucket. I stayed up all night examining my whole relationship and when she started to act odd around me and always texting and being distant at some times. I have no idea why I analize so much and I can't change the fact of everything what happened. I guess that's why people say it takes time. I am out of state right now trying to run from my problems. Coming back to Colorado tomorrow hoping I won't try and find stupids ways to try and see/talk to her, even though I know she doesn't love me anymore and wants nothing to do with me. I am like a lost puppy lost in every direction. Everyone says time will heal, but ****. Its been 1 month already and I refresh it everyday. I must love getting hurt and get off by what's going on right now. I hope the grass is greener on the otherside for me, because I am hopeless for now. I broke her heart, she broke my heart and the guy she is with, he broke his girls heart. I love the merri go round of heartbreak.
mike588 Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Well after proding and pushing the issue with my ex gf, It finally has pushed me to the next step. I called her last night and her boyfriend picked up the phone (club noise in the backround) he told me to "go away". Can't get any clearer than that. I have talked with many friends and on here and cannot find a coping mechanism to save my life. I went to a club and all I could do is compare these girls to my ex gf and everyone of them looked worse. I feel so blind sided and I cannot have fun without thinking about this girl who is never coming back. I plan on seeking therapy hoping this will resolve the issue of my obsession I have with someone who has moved on. As many people on here, I really thought I had a chance, but that last call was the last straw in the bucket. I stayed up all night examining my whole relationship and when she started to act odd around me and always texting and being distant at some times. I have no idea why I analize so much and I can't change the fact of everything what happened. I guess that's why people say it takes time. I am out of state right now trying to run from my problems. Coming back to Colorado tomorrow hoping I won't try and find stupids ways to try and see/talk to her, even though I know she doesn't love me anymore and wants nothing to do with me. I am like a lost puppy lost in every direction. Everyone says time will heal, but ****. Its been 1 month already and I refresh it everyday. I must love getting hurt and get off by what's going on right now. I hope the grass is greener on the otherside for me, because I am hopeless for now. I broke her heart, she broke my heart and the guy she is with, he broke his girls heart. I love the merri go round of heartbreak. Yep it's over, she's with her new b/f and it's time for you to move on.It's perfectly normal to feel the way you feel and run it thru your head a million times but that gets you nowhere. It's going to take you longer than 1 month to really let go, I'm at 4 months and am 95% there. Time is your friend now,, it WILL get BETTER! Myself and others here went out and all we did is compared or ex. to other women, this will eventually go away too. It's so easy to tell people just to move on yet so hard to do. I was told the same thing hundreds of times but you just have to go thru the pain, sadness etc. Even though you feel hopeless now (we all did) things WILL get better, this is something we all have to go thru but it does make you stronger and prepares yourself for the next relationship that you WILL HAVE. Your not alone, hang in there and focus on yourself now!
Mcnulty Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 A word of encouragement. I'm 2 months in, BUT it has been with NC from day 1 aaannnnd, (first time I've said it), I'm moving on a little, she's not in my thoughts as much, (she went off with my mate and announced it on Facebook, without telling me). So, what I'm saying is, you have to give it time, be patient and go total NO CONTACT!! This is the only way you will feel ANY better. I wish you strength and luck.
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