If he/she calls you for the holidays coming around would you answer?

[PinkPunkCosmo]

So i am a little confused, he contacted me 2 days ago i did not respond, it made me quite curious however. He would use a guilt trip to make me respond in the past but this time i just blocked his number on my phone and it wont let me see his texts. Smart right?

 

Anyway, would you respond to your ex if they contacted you for the holidays? I am kind of iffy about it, i mean if its over its over, why keep the contact? That makes no sense only call on certain dates yet the other days of the week you dont because its not a holiday until you find someone else and move on?

 

If he contacts me should i respond, i feel if i do i would only get hurt and fall back in to the same thing all over again. so confused, its just that 6 years together to me feels like a lifetime.

[mike588]

So i am a little confused, he contacted me 2 days ago i did not respond, it made me quite curious however. He would use a guilt trip to make me respond in the past but this time i just blocked his number on my phone and it wont let me see his texts. Smart right?

 

Anyway, would you respond to your ex if they contacted you for the holidays? I am kind of iffy about it, i mean if its over its over, why keep the contact? That makes no sense only call on certain dates yet the other days of the week you dont because its not a holiday until you find someone else and move on?

 

If he contacts me should i respond, i feel if i do i would only get hurt and fall back in to the same thing all over again. so confused, its just that 6 years together to me feels like a lifetime.

 

I've asked myself that question many times. I would'nt respond because like you said you will only get hurt.

 

When the pasts calls ignore it,,it has nothing new to say.

[BigDumbFoot]

I haven't spoken to my ex (in any real way) for about 3 months now.. I kind of wish that she'd contact me just so I can see that she's doing ok. So I don't really care to know what she's doing, just how she's doing. I still have a fondness for her that I don't think will ever go away. She's not evil, just aloof and emotionally distant.

[mike588]

I haven't spoken to my ex (in any real way) for about 3 months now.. I kind of wish that she'd contact me just so I can see that she's doing ok. So I don't really care to know what she's doing, just how she's doing. I still have a fondness for her that I don't think will ever go away. She's not evil, just aloof and emotionally distant.

 

I haven't spoken to my ex. in almost 4 months now and I know that has helped me move on.

 

It really is a good thing when you don't get breadcrumbs, that only keeps you stuck at square one and slows your healing progress. I know how you feel about wanting to know how she's doing,, I sometimes wonder the same but it's best to just let go and move on.

[PinkPunkCosmo]

 

When the pasts calls ignore it,,it has nothing new to say.

 

 

You are absolutely correct on that one, he called me and texted me and i didnt respond quite difficult on my part but i am so dam proud of myself thats for sure! i guess he is all alone for the holidays in need of company since he moved out of state from his friends and family should i feel at fault for this no. Otherwise is nothing new, he will probably say how much he loves me yada yada but then once the time passes we are back to square one, learned my lesson. No need to get our hopes up. I guess the holidays are an excuse to be nice just that one day, moment,or second. btw for new years i bet our phones will be ringing as a closure for out with the old in with the new, except i won't be answering, my closure still continues with NC.

[M2155]

would you respond to your ex if they contacted you for the holidays? I am kind of iffy about it, i mean if its over its over, why keep the contact? That makes no sense only call on certain dates yet the other days of the week you dont because its not a holiday until you find someone else and move on?

Call me a grench or whatever but I don't understand why an ex or anyone for that matter would call during the holiday. If I don't talk to you any other of the 11 months out of the year, I'm not doing it in Dec either- exception goes to old relatives. If an ex contacted me I'd say "thanks, you too" because we really don't have anything to talk about. If it would set you back like you said, definitely don't answer.

[PinkPunkCosmo]

Your right, i should just not answer just thinking about it, its too early and feelings with mixed emotions are still floating in the air. It will only make things worse, its hard to just press the ignore button though.

[shayla]

Under no circumstances will I ever answer a call from him again. Holidays or a regular day.

 

Our anniversary was New Years Eve, and right after our break up last year, the other woman made a point to go into detail about their New Year's eve date complete with their sexual encounter after they got home right before midnight.

 

Facebook.....LOL

 

I appreciate that she wrote all that for my benefit, but I didn't feel at all misty eyed for that 3 inches of destruction that she rushed home for.

 

This year, my New Years Eve will be fabulous, already planning for it. And there will be no broadcasting on Facebook!

[PinkPunkCosmo]

shayla- thanks for posting, again facebook is quite the drama magnet dont you think? I rather avoid it, makes things a little worse at least at the moment anyway. About the other woman that you mentioned, if she thought she was actually making herself look good by broadcasting on facebook her intimacy wow.. low blow she is lower than the dirt on your shoes. Seriously, right? I know he will for sure contact me before this year ends this month and the hardest part will be not answering, because he will get mad that i dont and think the worst as always but then again who cares.

 

Hope everyone has great plans for the holidays! as for me....lonely new years but to a new fresh start i guess.

[Zabs]

Depends if THEY believe it's over too.

 

If my ex called..I would talk to him..but I wouldn't invest too much of myself in that. He made the call right? Let him do the talking!

 

Much love

 

Zabs xx

[shayla]

Yes, she posted it because like him, they want to make everything look good. She needs the strokes from her friends because I told her exactly what she was marrying, oh yeah, they got married right after he dumped me. I remember her fretting because she had told all her family and friends about the wedding and they all think he's a great guy..."Oh God Shayla, what am I gonna do?"

 

What she did was get on Facebook and say all those kinds of things, how she won and I lost...LOL

 

It's been almost a year and all she ever posts about now is her late husband that died less than 2 months before she jumped in bed with a man that had a family of his own. She posted a picture of him the other day...talking about how much she missed him. gotta admit, the man was fine.