bamaguy20 Posted May 27, 2004 Posted May 27, 2004 How do I know that im over my exgirlfriend of 2 years...its been 3 1/2 months since weve broken up.....2 weeks since weve last spoken....the pain caused in my heart is starting to become a little less, and i no longer feel like i have to cry when i thinka bout her, or the good times we spent together int he past...however, i do get extremly sick to my stomach when i thinka bout her being with another guy.....Is it always gonna be like this, me getting so upset about her with another guy, or will that fade as well...when will i know that i am over her.....i know im trying to get over her and i think its working...but i also know if she came back to me right now wanting to get back together i would.....does that mean i am not over her??? Ive been looking around at other girls, hoping to find someone i can possibly date....i would love to meet another girl and NOT take her back if she ever actually came back to me, which probably wont happen anyways.....
bluechocolate Posted May 27, 2004 Posted May 27, 2004 however, i do get extremly sick to my stomach when i thinka bout her being with another guy.....Is it always gonna be like this? no, but it does indicate that you are not over her It sounds like you two are still in contact. Let me guess - she broke it off with you, right? I am not an advocate of maintaining contact after a break up, especially if it wasn't mutual. If you were to stop seeing her & stop speaking to her I'm willing to bet that you would get over her faster. Getting over a break up is much about healing & maintaining contact is like picking a scab off a wound - it just makes it longer to heal.
faux Posted May 27, 2004 Posted May 27, 2004 The day will come when *poof* you are just over her. Just like that. *poof* You will not have to question if you are or not when that day comes. As for when that day will come there is no telling. It does not seem you are over her yet at all, as you can name the exact time elapsed since you last saw and spoke to her. The best thing is to keep away from her and have no contact, reject it if she tries to contact you, and just keep busy.
unreal Posted May 27, 2004 Posted May 27, 2004 Originally posted by bluechocolate however, i do get extremly sick to my stomach when i thinka bout her being with another guy.....Is it always gonna be like this? no, but it does indicate that you are not over her It sounds like you two are still in contact. Let me guess - she broke it off with you, right? I am not an advocate of maintaining contact after a break up, especially if it wasn't mutual. If you were to stop seeing her & stop speaking to her I'm willing to bet that you would get over her faster. Getting over a break up is much about healing & maintaining contact is like picking a scab off a wound - it just makes it longer to heal. "Getting over a break up is much about healing & maintaining contact is like picking a scab off a wound - it just makes it longer to heal." That is a great quote!
Author bamaguy20 Posted May 27, 2004 Author Posted May 27, 2004 yeah there is no contact whatsoever between us..down at school last year when we broke up 3 1/2 months ago..we tried to "be friends" , tried to get back together, although it was a half ass effort on her part i think....so the time broken up was really long and dragged out...and nothing was really final, till we both go back home, and a few days into being home we went out to dinner and a couple days later got into a big fight over the phone, and havent spoken since.....its hard to completly forget about someone, because this isnt just an ex, this is a girl that was my best friend, we were freinds before we dated....its hard to imagine losing a best friend as well...but if i have to lose her as a friend to get her outta my mind, i think its worth it...i just dont know how long it will be...things certainly are improving though, i can see and feel that much already....does dating another person often help someone forget about their ex...i mean im not gonna just date the first girl i can, but someone i like....im trying to do anything i can to forget about her....
cantforget Posted May 28, 2004 Posted May 28, 2004 So know where you are comeing from. My ex was my best friend too, friends before we got involved. I am past the crying everytime I think about him stage, but my gut tells me he is seing someone else. No proof just a wierd feeling, think thats why he hasn't contacted me. The thought of him with someone else is awful though, I couldn't bear it, even though I do want him to be happy, just wish it was with me.
Author bamaguy20 Posted May 28, 2004 Author Posted May 28, 2004 How long has it been since you broke up with your ex????? ....will the feelings ever go away completly or will i always have some sort of a pain or feeling in my stomach..i dont know, this is the first serious girlfriend ive ever had, and i really was in love with her....the pain is getting less and less, more so over the past week, i think i might have hit a certain point where it fades even faster...but will there always be something there, or does everything just typically go away???
Lonelystar Posted May 28, 2004 Posted May 28, 2004 It goes away or so I have been told. But you are in the process of healing.
cantforget Posted May 29, 2004 Posted May 29, 2004 I have only been broken up with mine for three weeks so I am in the early stages and am by no means an expert.
cantforget Posted May 29, 2004 Posted May 29, 2004 Mind you who would want to be an expert. For both of our sakes I hope these feeling go away and go away soon cause I am so sick of feeling like this. I know its only been 3 weeks but it feels like forever and I just wish I felt happy again. Remember that feeling, true, blissful happiness, gosh reels like an eternity since I felt like that.
estakado Posted May 29, 2004 Posted May 29, 2004 I'm gonna go against the grain here and say that its okay to still love your ex, just know that she aint gonna come back soon or immediately. The best thing to do is to try and do things yourself. Get out and do some running or walking around outside and try and see if there are places in your area that you havent been to and go there by yourself or with a friend...the main thing is to do it and do something. In the meantime yeah cry it all out but then the next day go do something....anything. I'm in the same boat as you guys and talking about it does make it easier to deal with. Dont worry too much about trying to get over her, just live and try to get by day by day. Tonite I'm gonna go to the movies wit tha fellas...still sad but its better than sitting at home crying.....cry later when you go to sleep. Repeat this and a couple days soon, your gonna wanna pick yourself up. Last time I talked to my ex I let her have it and told her off. It felt good. If she really loves me I know she'll come back...it aint like she cant find me and if she did I would make her work for what she missed out...and I'm gonna improve myself to make sure. Remember, even though it feels hopeless....it really isn't. I'll still love my girl, but I'm not gonna cry about it anymore and the world dont stop. Hope that helps ya'll and keep posting to get this addiction done!
kat217 Posted May 29, 2004 Posted May 29, 2004 i'm w/ estakado on this one -- i'm not going to beat myself up for continuting to love my ex or deny my feelings only because we are no longer together. i remind myself that it is okay to be still in love, but accept the fact that we are no longer together.
Author bamaguy20 Posted May 29, 2004 Author Posted May 29, 2004 yeah but its one thing to love someone...its another thing to have that awful feeling in the pit of your stomach whenever you think bout that person..thats why idont want to love her...i want to forget about her compltely so i can start feeling better,.
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